Discipline — Time To Say Goodbye!

DisciplineBy Cathy Eck

 

I Got OWNED

Recently, I had the OWN (Oprah) channel on while doing some housework.  The producers set up a help desk where people could ask questions of “spiritual” advisors.  Three times, the experts recommended “discipline.”  They said it was necessary for success.  The first two times, I simply noticed that their comment felt bad and immediately let it go.  But the third time, expert Carolyn Myss put me over the edge.  I realized that I was looking in the face of a huge collective psychological reversal.

An overweight woman (by expert standards) asked Carolyn for help.  Carolyn said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  The woman said, “Yes,” as she smiled.  Carolyn responded critically, “That’s your problem.  You have no discipline.”  The woman looked like she wanted to slit her wrists or shit her pants.  “Okay, now you pissed me off, Carolyn Myss,”  I thought.   I decided to really look at this word, discipline.  My emotions were screaming, “False.”

 

Discipline

The “New Oxford American Dictionary” put things in perspective for me very quickly.  Here’s what it said:

1) the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.
2) the controlled behavior resulting from discipline.
3) activity or experience that provides mental or physical training.
4) a system of rules of conduct.

Discipline is clearly unnatural; it involves training humans, like animals, to do what an authority or expert wants them to do.  It’s key to a society based on good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.

Since the disciplinarians are already in the illusion, or they wouldn’t be using discipline, discipline is inflicted on those in powerless feminine roles, like children.  Our minds record the voices of those who provide discipline until we acquire self-discipline, meaning we inflict reward and punishment on ourselves.

Oddly, the word discipline is very similar to disciple, another highly feminine role.  Well, that made sense.  Carolyn Myss is a recovering Catholic; her Catholicism often bleeds through in her books and teachings.  The other two men who suggested discipline were M. Scott Peck, spiritual psychologist/author, and DeVon Franklin, Hollywood wanna-be preacher.  Discipline and religion are clearly interconnected; both take us toward hell while claiming to take us to heaven.

The truth is that if we’re disciplining ourselves or others, we’re not good, we’re false.  Discipline is following someone else’s rules that don’t feel good and don’t make sense to us.  We should never have to do that in a sane world.  If we’re obeying rules that don’t feel good and telling others to do the same, we’re clearly playing a false masculine role.  We shouldn’t be leading anyone, not even ourselves.

In the TRUE masculine role, we do what we’re inspired to do.  We provide a vision — not rules.  The True Masculine has no desire to discipline others; there’s no need for it.  You trust the people that you create with.  Discipline isn’t even a word I’ve ever needed to have in my vocabulary.

When led by false masculine authorities, we have to muster up unnatural energy to do what they want us to do in the way they want it done.  We become exhausted and depressed.  We hate life.  Then we discipline those below us (like our kids) because we’re starving for energy and life force.

 

Discipline or Abuse?

Just last week, someone posted on Facebook a comment about the lack of discipline in kids and how it’s because parents no longer spank.  Of course, I couldn’t shut up because children were involved.  So I wrote, “People will stop disciplining their children with physical punishment when they call it what it really is, child abuse.”  You see, calling authoritarian bullying, unnecessary rules, enslavement, and physical punishment “discipline” makes the unacceptable acceptable.

Discipline produces slaves and obedient citizens, not successful or creative people.  It’s a winning formula in the illusion.  It has worked for thousands of years because we don’t stop and examine the reality or the real effects of discipline.

 

Pleasure

Carolyn Myss exposed the whole illusion around discipline when she said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  That’s when my emotions screamed, “Stop the madness. Your are Myss-taken.”  She was saying, “If it’s pleasurable, it’s bad for you.”  The idea that we’re supposed to be happy while we suffer is the Catholic mantra; it’s not true.  We all naturally gravitate toward pleasure until we’re brainwashed to gravitate toward pain by following beliefs that generate emotions.

We’re all born to people who were already cooked to well done in the illusory oven before we arrived.  If we could talk, we would have screamed, “Stop!  That doesn’t feel right.  I didn’t come to earth to see how well I could suffer.”  Instead we got disciplined to become like our caretakers and authorities until eventually we couldn’t see the error in the illusion — it looked normal.

It’s not too late.  We can let go of needing discipline right now.  We can start to follow our inspiration at any time.

Carolyn Myss answered the woman’s question, but it’s doubtful that it helped.  She gave her the cause of her weight problem.  This woman thought she didn’t have enough discipline when she actually had too much.  Her inner food police disciplines her constantly, piling guilt and shame on her food and reminding her that she’s not following the diet and exercise rules for a thin body.  She believes the rich and successful (and disciplined) experts even though what they say feels horrible; her True Self knows the advice is false — it’s fixing the effect.

To get free, this woman needs to let go of trusting experts who keep telling her to be more disciplined so she can look the way they say she should look.  She needs to stop dieting (which has the word die in it for a reason) and start living from her own True Self.

How Roles Can Screw Us Up, and How to Escape Them

Think Different

By Cathy Eck

 

Roles 101

I really enjoyed my ex-husband’s father.  When everyone went off to church on Saturday night or Sunday morning, we would turn off the television, drink an icy cold Iron City, and laugh at our stupid stories.  He was alive, smart, and so much fun.  He was healthy and vibrant.  But the minute the door opened and the family returned, he was an actor who had been signaled to get his ass on stage.  He became a sick, old man who never amounted to anything.  His shoulders dropped.  His back hurt.  His smile turned into a frown, and he would quickly turn on the television.  He had a long-standing role in that family; there was nothing I could do to stop him from playing it or to convince my husband that I knew a different man than he did.

After enough time, I too would fall into a similar dreadful role that I couldn’t escape.  But I was like Andy in “The Shawshank Redemption.”  I was willing to chip away a little each day until I found my way back to freedom.  I learned about roles, and how deadly they can be, from observing my husband’s family.  I’d guess that the leading cause of death is giving up because you can’t escape an unwanted role.

We might have a good white-sheep role like the cute one, funny one, or smart one.  Or we could be a black sheep role like the sick one, negative one, or loser.  Roles are constructed with labels; once people associate us with a particular label, they’re often very slow to let that label go.  They don’t notice when we change; and we often feel like we’re stuck in Shawshank prison with little hope for parole.

 

Projection

Here’s where things get dicey.  People assign roles when they project the unwanted half of their beliefs out through their physical eyes (the bad side of the bottom of the triangle).  We can’t see them do this so we get tricked.  In the illusion, people (in masculine roles) see their own reflection without knowing it.  The masculine projects; the feminine reflects.

They call you the perky one because that’s how they see you, not how you really are.  Suddenly, you’re more perky in their presence; you might like that they bring out that quality in you.  But if they call you lazy or rude because you don’t talk around them (since they bore the living shit out of you),  you’ll find yourself unable to be perky even if you normally are.  Even worse, with a “bad” label, they’ll try to fix you, cementing the label more deeply.

In my experience, the best escape route is to let go from the feminine role until we get into the masculine role.  What we do next is critical.  Most screw up right here.  Once in the masculine role, we must let go of anything we see outside of us that generates emotion until the whole world appears free.  We can’t get free while holding people hostage in roles with our beliefs.

Getting rid of the need for approval is key to getting free of labels.  We must stop measuring our success based upon what others think of us and start measuring our success by the purity of our OWN mind.   Likewise, we stop measuring other people by what they say or do and start measuring them by the quality of their thinking.

For example, we say that people who inspire and motivate others are good people.  But why are they inspiring and motivating?  They see an uninspired and unmotivated world.  They’re fixing their own projection.  When we move into the masculine role, we see our beliefs about others, people, animals, plants, and the world.   It is our job to let go of what we see until we see free choice, true versus false, and a divine sort of justice.  Most people fix their projections and call it a career.

 

No Roles

The mental perspective is the cure for everything wrong in the world.  From a physically-oriented perspective, medical doctors are helpful; mentally oriented, they’re cursing patients with labels called diagnoses. They focus on sickness, not health.  In a physical orientation, veterans are heroes; mentally oriented, they’re blindly obedient killers.  Physically oriented, caretakers are servants to the needy; mentally oriented, they’re enablers or prison guards.  If we cling to a physically-oriented role, we can’t get free.  It’s impossible!

If you feel like you don’t fit into the world, you probably are more comfortable with the mental perspective.  You might feel judgment from others because people with physically oriented perspectives fit in; they think they’re good and right.  They have a free pass to be completely irresponsible with their mind.  You may have tried to avoid the physically-oriented world, but that isn’t necessary.  I assure you that the illusion won’t affect you once you let go of your beliefs and let your free mind lead your physical body and experience.

Roles disappear once we adopt the mental perspective.  Those who were perceived as good become false; and those who were labeled bad or wrong are revealed to be reflections of false good roles.  It becomes clear that the normal view of life is illusory; whatever was wrong in the illusion will be false in the free world.

When this mental shift happens, shit no longer happens.  A different world is revealed; it was hidden below our beliefs all along.  Roles, authority, and the illusion lose their false power.  We have nothing to fear anymore.  It was all just the boogie man under the bed; he wasn’t real.  The illusion takes over our imagination so we lose our creativity; when we let go of the illusion, our creativity returns.

Fortunately, we don’t have to wait for others to live from this perspective.  It’s there when we let go of our OWN physically-oriented perspective.  It’s there when we live entirely from the mental, True Self, perspective — the world of mental cause producing physical effect.

Letting Go Leads to “I Never F**king Believed You Anyway!”

Hating from the Illusory Egg

By Cathy Eck

 

Am I Letting Go?

People often say to me, “I don’t know if I’m letting go or not.” That’s because letting go feels odd.  Holding on feels normal. Often knowing that we did let go is more about realizing that we didn’t hold on. It’s really that simple at times.

There are also occasions when someone cuts through a huge mental program. They feel unlimited for a little while, and now they want to hold on to that clarity and unconditional love.  We’re so trained to hold on.  But the truth is that we can’t let go of our True Self; and we cause problems by holding on to the false self.  Holding on never makes sense.

Sadly, the illusion has caused people to believe that if they let go, the Mormon Tabernacle Choir will play; and Jesus will walk through their wall and kiss their feet.  That won’t happen; the false self never validates the True Self.

 

Quiet Art 

I want to share a great example of the calm, quiet art of letting go. This moment was particularly sweet; it demonstrates how our mind changes once we begin to break our false self away from our True Self.  These two mind components are meant to be separate. Western religious teachings about the soul combined these two mind aspects.  The eastern concept that everything is illusion discourages discrimination. Once our two minds start to separate, we get to a place that I call, “I never fucking believed you anyway.”

I was mentoring Jane (not her real name) on the subject of her sick cat.  She was in a damned if I do and damned if I don’t mindset. After letting go for a few minutes, she felt that she knew what to do.  She felt clear for a brief moment; then she said, “I feel guilty.”

To understand the next part of the interaction, you must understand how I mentor. Stupid as this might sound to those of you who are desperately trying to escape the feminine role, I purposely place myself in the feminine. I allow myself to feel as they speak. You see, being feminine isn’t bad when we can discriminate.  If they trick me, and occasionally they do, I’ve discovered yet another trick of the false masculine self that I must let go.

When someone is psychologically reversed, they speak words that are completely false; but they have no corresponding emotional reaction.  When that happens, I’ll feel the emotion they should feel. Their emotion is projected out.  I can then push them to revisit their statement. Oddly, Jane wasn’t psychologically reversed on this issue. Neither she or I felt emotion when she said, “I feel guilty.”  I said, “I don’t believe you. I don’t think you feel guilty at all.”

Jane has a great sense of humor and is super honest. She cracked up and said, “Your right. I thought I was supposed to say that.”  We both had a good laugh. You see, Jane was raised Catholic. She was taught that she should feel guilty every time she did something that her parents or religion didn’t like, which was often being her True Self.  She learned how to say the words, “I feel guilty,” and even act out the part of a guilty child. But there was a part of her, her True Self, that never believed the act.  Sadly, as time when on, she started to believe her own words; then she felt the corresponding emotions.

Jane had already let go of a lot of guilt-ridden beliefs in earlier sessions.  In this session, the belief that she should feel guilty showed up like a recording that she could play if an authority figure questioned her behavior. It had a purpose when she was younger; now it had none. It was easy for her to see that the belief was false because this time she saw it as a false-self act.

I’ve heard similar words from people who lost loved ones. They think they should display grief, but they don’t feel it. They put on an act; eventually, they come to believe their own act.  When I talk to them, I ask them if they really feel emotion; and they say no.  You see, we only feel emotion when we believe something false.  If we think only unconditionally loving thoughts for someone who leaves our life, we feel no emotion.  We might even feel blissful.  Emotion (or grief) means we’re thinking something other than unconditionally loving thoughts.  Perhaps, we’re fearing our future or feeling lonely — thoughts we should let go.  Society has many ways of convincing us that we should feel emotion when we shouldn’t and shouldn’t feel emotion when we should.  Oy vey!  This keeps the illusion, and our false self, thriving.

 

Giving the Projection Back

In Jane’s case, a priest or perhaps her parents might now be squirming with guilt that appears to have no cause.  Jane is no longer accepting their projection.  It has boomeranged back to the source. This is how the notion of karma started. It’s not a physical punishment for bad behavior.  It’s a mental condition whereby a projected belief gets returned to the source.  It’s divine justice.

Jane’s situation is common with emotions that we label shame, guilt, grief, fear of punishment, or retribution, as well as emotions like hope or excitement; they’re all emotions that usually began with beliefs in someone else’s mind. We either believed them because we felt we had to or because we wanted to.  We just forgot to let their beliefs go when they weren’t useful anymore.  But it’s never too late to let go.

Life would slowly return to perfection if those who held false beliefs also felt their own emotions.  We’d witness the true art of cause and effect as it was designed to be lived.  We’d all be creative and wise.  We’d no longer believe the illusion, and it would dissolve.  We’d all be free.

Freeing Yourself From a False Masculine Authority Figure

Freeing ourselves from roles

By Cathy Eck

 

You left home years ago.  You felt that you were now the creator of your own life. And yet, mom and dad keep showing up. You’ve married or dated them. You’ve seen your older kids acting like them with your younger kids, and you’ve even worked for them. You know their beliefs are false; so why are they still in your life?

We have to approach this problem the same way that we would view someone in a masculine role who keeps hiring irresponsible employees, has a wife that shops till she drops, and has kids who are addicts. We have to find out the beliefs that got them in this unwanted situation.

 

Projection

We don’t realize that within our minds both the masculine and feminine roles exist. In the physical world, however, we only play one role. We can’t play two roles at one time. So the masculine role in any situation projects the role that they don’t identify with.  This is why everyone wants those powerful masculine roles.

You see, there’s no unconscious mind. We see the contents of our mind every time we look at the world through the eyes of the masculine role. We view others as separate only because they’re physically separate.  False masculine projection in the illusion creates false-self connections. Ultimately, the false masculine wants possessions — obedient slaves and fans.

If we’re in the false masculine role, we project the feminine roles necessary to fulfill our needs — patients, customers, clients, servants.  We’ll tell ourselves we’re helping them.  But we’re projecting crap roles on those who are feminine to us.  We can clean up the mess quickly and easily.  If the person in the feminine role shops too much, we must realize that we want to buy more, but we hold back. We judge waste, or we think sacrifice is virtuous.  If we think our feminine is lazy, we probably fight laziness with our will.  We have pride in our overactivity.  We see the person in the feminine role as bad or wrong.  We would never be like them.  The payoff is we get to be good or right if we keep them on the hook.

If we’re in the feminine role, the masculine roles project on us. It feels like we have to wake his or her ass up to get free.  And yet, we can’t see how that’s possible.  Their judgment feels so damn strong.  In truth, we do have beliefs that got us into the feminine role as their reflection. We aren’t victims. But we have to understand how our mind holds the false relationship to get free.

 

File Storage

To solve this dilemma, I had to go back to my computer programming days. There are lots of files on your computer’s hard drive. To find a file, you must know its name. Search for the wrong name, and you won’t find that file.  Let’s say that you find the file, and now you want to delete it. You hit delete, and the program confirms: “Are you sure you want to delete ‘name of file.'” You respond “yes.”  You were able to delete that file because you knew you no longer needed it.  The same is true with our minds; we can delete a file when we’re clear it’s useless.

Let’s say your dad (masculine role) was a bigot. You observed his judgment from the feminine role and stored his bigotry under a file named something like, “Dad is a bigot.” Or, “Southern men are bigots” if you lived in the south and all his friends were bigots. Now you think, “I can’t delete that, it’s true. He is a bigot.” No, it’s not true. It’s real. Your dad has a True Self that’s not a bigot. For you to get free, you have to free him within your mind. If you let go of your observation of him, you won’t notice his bigotry any more. It will have the same feeling as talking about banana soufflé. We feel emotions when others speak falsely only if we believe them.

Let’s say dad had a belief that you’re lazy.  Determine how you stored the file. I discovered that my mind stored such information something like: “My dad believes I’m lazy.” When you find the right words, you’ll generally feel emotion arise.  The wrong words won’t bring up the emotion.

What people fail to realize about letting go is that to get free, we have to free every person on this planet that can generate an emotion in us. It’s daunting, I know. We’re turning everyone back into their True Self within our mind.  You’ll realize this when you completely adopt the mental perspective of life.  If you see something, and are bothered by it, you’re still contributing to it with a belief.

 

Important Caution

People in false masculine roles often feel no emotion when projecting.  They believe they’re really seeing the other person’s flaw because they see the other as physical only and separate; in truth, they’re seeing their own reflection.  If you’re in the masculine role, like parent to kids, teacher to  students, preacher to congregation, you’re always contributing to any false situation or problem, I.e., win-lose, good-evil, right-wrong, dominance-submission, etc. The masculine role is always responsible.  Just let go of what you see in the other.  Don’t take the credit for the shift.  You didn’t heal the person or situation; you simply stopped torturing them.

Projection makes letting go difficult, but not impossible. We have to decipher our role to find the causal beliefs — the file name. If you feel stuck, just vent to the wall or complain to your diary. You’ll say the belief. Then don’t fall into the trap of justifying your position; just let go. Freedom requires letting go of our false notion of justice, victim and perpetrator, and wanting punishment or retribution. We all deserve freedom.  We’re all victims of the illusion.

Letting Go Isn’t Therapy or Self-Help

Phoenix Rising out of ashes

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting go is natural.  But we’ve been trained to use our minds in a very unnatural way to keep the illusion alive.  It all began with the all-pervasive psychological reversal, the belief that a thought is true if it generates emotions.  It caused us to believe in emotionally heavy problems, injustice, war, suffering, and disease.  Once we believe these things exist, we see them.  Without that psychological reversal, all unwanted things would disappear.  Instead of healing the psychological reversal, we try to prevent our fears from manifesting, try to make peace with what we’ve already manifested, and try to release all the emotions we’ve generated.

 

Therapy and Self-Help

In therapy, people talk about their problems.  They go back to their past to understand what happened or to discover why they feel like they do.  They justify their emotions or train themselves to no longer feel them.  Therapy rarely invokes letting go.

During my early research days, I often turned on the Dr. Phil show in the afternoons for a break.  I thought it would support my efforts.  It didn’t.  It created unrelenting emotions within me.  Dr. Phil projects his moral, religious viewpoint into the world — right and wrong, good and evil.  He fixes his massive projections on the show.  He sees a reward-and-punishment world.  He believes the past creates the future.  As I moved toward my True Self, my body signaled the error in his divided point of view.  I came to realize that Dr. Phil only felt emotion when he was bad according to the Christian definition of good and bad; I felt emotion around both sides of the bottom of the triangle.

In self-help, people put ice-cream on their manure.  They get their anger out, or they make peace with their shadow.  If you let go, you no longer have anger or a shadow.  You don’t need the ice cream.  In self-help, people try to drop their ego, but they don’t even know what their ego is.  Most are trying to drop their True Self.  Trying to fix ourselves hasn’t worked because we aren’t broken.

I can explain anything that happened to anyone in five words:  “THEY FELL INTO THE ILLUSION.”  Nothing can happen to any of us without first accepting an illusory belief or putting a false self above us as our authority.

Therapy and self-help rarely find the causal belief because they’re focused on causal incidents.  They falsely assume that our emotions come from actions, events, and trauma.  They don’t realize that our emotions come from our own beliefs or believing another’s thoughts; we start accepting beliefs in our mother’s womb.  It looks like we’re born with original sin.  We might get the fallen illusory viewpoint early in life, but it isn’t who we truly are.  I suspect that’s why babies come out screaming.

When we’re truly free of a past belief, we recognize how we perpetuated it.  Every time the belief entered our conscious mind, we felt emotion.  We believed that the nervous agitation meant the thought/belief was true.  So we ran from it.  We didn’t turn and face it and say, “You are not true.”  Humans might face fears on the outside by doing dangerous activities or telling their wife they had an affair; but they rarely face their fears on the inside where it truly matters.

Therapy creates comfort in the illusion.  When the illusion’s drama gets too hot, therapy cools things down.  Self-help helps us win.  When we feel defeated, self-help beefs up our will.  Occasionally, therapy or self-help cause someone to let go; but it’s usually an accident.

 

Drama

To create drama, we think false thoughts.  When those thoughts manifest, we blame others.  We avoid responsibility for our minds and creations.  We keep our focus outward.  We even expect others to fix our emotions.

Mom feels lonely; she wants us to visit.  She thinks she has no purpose; she’s not loved.  She’s memorializing the past.  She’s repeatedly thinking false thoughts that generate emotion.  If she let them go, she wouldn’t need us to fix them.  The people in our life don’t realize that their emotions are caused by their own thinking.  When we let go, we find out how codependent we really were.  We find out why we weren’t living our life.

 

The Dreaded Plateau

Therapy and self-help are attractive because they don’t discriminate between true and false.  People often plateau in initiation because they want to keep someone else on the hook, they don’t want to let go of their projections, or there’s a part of the illusion they like.  They want the criminal punished.  They’re sure their child is lazy.  They don’t want to let go of competition because they think it makes sports fun.  They love Christmas and look forward to the excitement of the holidays.  They want the money their traditional medicine career provides.  They love going to self-help workshops.  They fear losing their hot boyfriend.  All of their friends are Christian.  Therapy and self-help don’t put such things at risk, but letting go does.  Or so we think…

We don’t have to give up anything outer by letting go.  We’re just letting go of false perspectives.  We stop wanting justice for illusory errors.  We drop competing, not sports.  We buy gifts and decorate our house with lights anytime.  We become a healer who drops labels instead of creating them.  We go to creative workshops instead of self-help.  We realize that if hot boyfriend doesn’t like our True Self, he’s wrong for us.  We see goodness in all people, not just our fellow church members.

Our false mind says that we’ll lose something we think we need or love by letting go, but it’s lying.  We can’t screw up by letting go.  We can’t lose.  Losing things that weren’t right for us is winning.  If something is truly ours, we can’t lose it.  And in my experience, if it wasn’t really mine, I didn’t miss it — not even a little.  Freedom was infinitely better.

Testing to See if a Desire is True

Is my desire true

By Cathy Eck

Desire

You’ve got this nagging desire that just won’t go away.  How do you know if it’s really a good desire to pursue?   Is it a True Self desire?  Or is it a false trap that will just get you in deep doo doo?

Or you’re mentally stuck with two seemingly equal choices.  How do you choose?

 

True Desires

Let’s review what I’ve discussed before.  A desire from your True Self will feel calm and peaceful.  You’ll enjoy thinking about it so long as you don’t start thinking about the fact that you don’t have it or start trying to figure out how to get it.  If you do that, you’ll feel emotional excitement.

A True Desire won’t solve a problem.  The True Self doesn’t know about problems.  True Self desires don’t fix effects; they’re creative in nature.

The most important test of all — it will be win-win for you and everyone on the planet.  No one will feel diminished, nor will their True Self be harmed by fulfillment of this desire.  It’s okay if their false self gets a little shaken up.

 

Deserving

The big block to fulfilling desires is frequently related to deserving or worthiness.  Often successful people thank God for their success, “Look what God gave me,” they say as they accept the award given to them by “humans.”  They often add, “You can do it too.”  They’re hoping we won’t judge their extraordinary success.  The truth is that they made choices and had beliefs that led to that success that would make sense if we could read their mind.

In the end, it’s much kinder to say to someone, “I happened to find something that lots of people want or need,” rather than, “God gave me this because I deserve it.”  The first leaves the listener with a proper understanding of the winner’s path to success.  The second leaves the listener wondering what’s wrong with them.  We’ve often been that listener, which has led to the confusion we feel around deserving.

Astrology was one of the first ways that false deserving was created.  “Look it’s on my chart that I am to rule this land.  Fuck you guys!”  Now we use it to justify being an ass.  “I can’t help but be stubborn, I’m a Taurus.”  Astrology was also made by men, not God.

Along the same line, some people go to psychics to tell them if they’re deserving.  Some use divining tools to make decisions.  Some look for signs and signals.  Some are called, which is really funny.  Who’s calling?  Dah!  Ring, ring, it’s your false self!

The bottom line is that if we desire it, and it’s a true desire, we deserve it.  And there is a way to get it….letting go of the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

Saved By a Pendulum

I cured myself of the desire dilemma after I learned the art of dousing or divining.  I thought it was insanely cool.  I found the well site on my property.  I often made great decisions using the pendulum.  I was a pendulum master.  One day, I paid attention to my mind while doing it.  I was mentally directing the pendulum to spin, and my body translated it into subtle, undetectable movements.  When I just watched my mind, I could see that I was hoping for a particular answer.  That was my desire, dah!  Or at times, my mind was afraid of the answer.  Again, I could see my real desire, but now I could see that I believed it was impossible.  Or I feared I’d pay for my desired choice later on.  My emotions were far superior; they gave me truly insightful feedback.  I ditched the pendulum.

Let’s say, I wanted to know if I would get a contract or a house I loved.  Those were stupid questions.  The answer was more complex, “If I’d let go of my doubt and beliefs about not getting the contract, I’d get it.”  “If I’d stop listening to the advice of experts, I’d get the house.”  I could drill down and decide what to let go by just asking and feeling for emotional feedback.

I was going through all of this pendulum trouble because I feared people questioning my deserving.  The pendulum was like saying, “God gave me permission to have what I want.”  People convinced me that God was moving the pendulum.  But that was a lie.  I was moving it.  I realized that I was embarrassed by my creative capacity.  I was afraid of being judged by people who were prideful of their suffering.  Others in my life believed that if God didn’t call me, I wasn’t allow to move forward.  But God didn’t know my number because God was only calling people to support his crazy illusion.  I didn’t listen to that God…he made me want to barf.  The other God, that Creator from Genesis I, he was resting…taking a long nap.  I imagined what he would say…

“What are you asking me for?  I gave you a piece of me — your True Self.  You’re a creator.  Create what’s inspiring to you and harmonious with my other kids.  I will be in every one of your creations.  However, if you create in a way that’s harmful to your brothers and sisters, I won’t be around to watch.  You’re on your own, kiddo.  I’ll always love you, but if you fuck up, I’ll miss you.”

 

The Lesson

Think about flipping that coin or asking your Magic Eight Ball what you want to know?  Just do it in your mind.  Notice what you’re hoping for.  That’s your answer.  Now check out that answer.  Is it win-win for everyone who’s a True Self?  Does it feel calm?  Is it creative.  You have your answer!  If it meets those tests, it’s True.  Now you can focus on letting go of all the beliefs that stand in the way.

 

 

 

Too Good To Be True, Etc.

La Jolla

By Cathy Eck

 

In my mentorship program, I require participants to write down their personal version of Heaven on Earth.  It isn’t the same for any two people.  But there is a harmony among them.  There’s never a case where one person’s Heaven on Earth would prevent another from having their Heaven on Earth.  That’s how I know they’ve tapped into something true.

After writing their Heaven on Earth, I ask them to write about their reality.  The difference is huge.  I learn a lot about them.  I learn what brings them joy.  I also learn what’s currently bringing them pain and suffering.  If they’ve been involved in New Age or Eastern religions, they’ll have a hard time writing this document.  They’ve become quite good at ignoring their desires or making them bad.  If they’ve been in western religion, they have lots of desires, but their reality is not even close.  Often they’re embarrassed by the desires; they think they don’t deserve them.  Or they think they’ll get them when they die if they go to the Heaven sold by religion.

In some cases, their mind and emotions work for them.  When they read their Heaven on Earth, they feel calm and peaceful.  Life feels right.  When they read their reality statement, they feel emotional and powerless.  Their emotions are pointing to the beliefs that are causing this gap.  The True Self would have no gap between reality and Heaven unless it’s a fun gap.  It also wouldn’t have emotional agitation.

When we understand this, we see how religion and spiritual teachings make people miserable.  They’re pushing Heaven away from earth by causing people to believe that their desires are imaginary, wrong, or impossible.  Most people are basking on the fringes of hell while telling themselves that they’re almost in heaven.  Spiritual and miserable are close cousins in the illusion.  Most people don’t see this, but they would if they watched themselves talk.

 

Defeat or Drop

The illusion looks very powerful and impossible to defeat for most of us.  Some people achieve success by finding a crack.  Others have strong wills and win a battle or two.  But nobody wins the war.  The illusion eventually kills us all.  It’s impossible to defeat the illusion by fighting it.  No one has ever won that war, and no one ever will.  However, it’s possible to forget the illusion — to not believe it exists.  And when enough of us do that, it won’t exist anymore for anyone.  Earth will be Heaven again.

There are some big beliefs that fuel the notion that our dreams are impossible or imaginary, and our reality is painfully true.  The main one is that people think thoughts that generate emotion are true, when they are actually false.  This keeps us all living like salmon trying to jump upstream.  It’s hard work.  I wouldn’t want to be a salmon.

With each of these false statements below, notice that they aren’t win-win for everyone.  Either some people must lose, or everyone must lose.  Also, if you pay attention to your emotions, you’ll see they’re false beliefs.  If they do feel good, look for some sneaky-ass pride telling you that you’re good for having this belief.  Or see if you’re labeling the emotion excitement.

 

It’s Too Good to be True

It’s easier to see how disgusting this statement really is when you look at the opposite.  “If it’s really bad and I’ll hate it, It’s true.”  We often say things like “It’s Too Good to be True” to make ourselves seem humble.  If we were all shining brightly, no one would be humble.  Only arrogant people will tell us that we need to be humble.  Only those who want company in their misery will tell us that “It’s Too Good to be True.”  If something feels calm and peaceful, it’s true.  We don’t need to prove that to anyone.

 

Hard Work is a Virtue

Most of us in America have ye olde Puritan Ethic.  We’re embarrassed or labeled lazy if something comes to us easily.

In common conversations, normal people whine, complain, blame, or look for justification, praise, or support for their “life is hard work” point of view.  No wonder many of us would rather be alone on an island.  If hard work was virtuous, it would make us happy and joyful too.

After letting go for a while, I didn’t have anything to complain about.  People didn’t notice.  They just saw my silence as more air time for them to bitch.  After awhile, I decided there was no value in many relationships.  I couldn’t see that when I was complaining half of the time.  Normal crappy relationships looked like friendship.

I wondered what a real friendship looked like.  I realized that I wanted to talk about fulfilling my dreams, creative ideas, and new things I learned.   One day, it hit me.  Those were things that I talked about when I was young.  Maybe we get old and sick only because we keep accepting more and more of the illusion as true until it kills us.

 

Some Things Never Change

This statement screams level confusion.  The True Self doesn’t change.  All creative potential doesn’t need to change.  The false self should continue to change along with the True Self, but as people get older, they usually resist change.  A baby changes from week to week, children change from year to year.  Adults change from decade to decade, and most old people don’t change at all.  Then what’s the use of living anymore?  So we don’t.

 

Think of some more of these widely accepted false beliefs, and let them go.  If you notice yourself saying them, pay attention to why you said them.  Close the hole in your false mind by letting go of the reason you said it.  Do this enough, and the distance between your reality and your Heaven on Earth will shrink.  Until one day, they gap will be gone.

 

 

 

Help! I Can’t Find the F***ing Causal Belief

Beliefs can't find the cause

By Cathy Eck

 

Not a day goes by that I don’t hear, “Help Cathy, I can’t find my fucking belief.  I know it’s there because my life sucks or my body is screaming in pain.  But I can’t find the belief.”  There are many reasons why this happens.  Shit, I sometimes say it to myself.  Here are some of the most obvious and common reasons and fixes:

 

1)  The belief is hiding under what I call a “protector” belief.  Our false mind wants to live forever; it fears death and exposure.  When the protector is on duty, our mind is generating thoughts like:  “I can’t find the belief.”  “This is too hard.”  “I can’t do this.”  Those are protector beliefs that guard the causal belief.  Our false mind is trying to get us to stop letting go.  If we let go of these distracting protective beliefs, the causal belief often can be seen.

2)  The belief looks like it’s absolutely true.  It could be a belief that we’ve had forever.  It might be a collective belief that we know nearly everyone else believes.  It might be a belief that has created in our reality many times.  Remember, our reality up until this second was created by that causal belief.  If we let it go completely, our reality will change.  It has to.  An example of such a belief is, “Dad will never change.” Yes, that has been true until now, but it’s a belief.  Dad does have a True Self; and if we connect with that True Self, he can change.  These beliefs tend to feel like walls that we can’t get around until we go through them.

3)  We can’t bear to feel anymore emotion, so we keep distracting ourself.   Beliefs generate emotion.  Long standing beliefs are laced with lots of emotion.  Our false mind will try to tell us that the emotion means the belief is true; it’s lying.  That’s its job.  Sometimes, we just have to face the belief and all that emotion with courage.  We have to outlast it.  We’re becoming masters of our minds.  It isn’t the easiest thing we’ve ever done.   It can be like a war; and we need to win every battle.

4)  We’re still feminine to the person who inserted the belief into our mind.  We have physical symptoms, and we can hear the doctor’s voice saying the diagnosis.  We feel emotion when we hear his/her words, but we still view the doctor as powerful and knowing.  We fear going to hell, and we know it’s false; but we still view our mother or the priest as our authority.  To be free, we must have no masters other than our True Self.  This is about letting go of false gods.  Our True Self always has an answer and always knows what’s right for us.  But if we’re listening to others, we won’t hear it.  Often we hear religious voices saying listen to God.  Our True Self is God.  The voices we hear in our mind that sound like mom, dad, and the priest/preacher are false gods.

5)  We’ve got a conditioned response that masks the belief.  For example, we have a saying that we use to sooth ourself like, “Everything happens for a reason.”  “God has a plan.”  Or we do something conditioned like go for a run or kneel and pray.  Our conditioned responses show us what we believe.  We do them to ease the emotion (fix the effect) that the active belief is spewing.  Get rid of the belief, and we no longer need to fix the effect.

6)  We want to keep the belief.  Often our belief has a payoff.  We want to get rid of the pain, but we get a lot of attention for it.  We don’t like drama, but it’s how we relate to our friends; and we want to star on a reality television show.  I’ve worked with actors who believe they need their past emotions to act; they don’t, but try to tell them that.  We can’t hold on and let go at the same time.  Sometimes freedom is simply a choice.

7)  We feel no emotion when thinking an unwanted thought.  We’ve hit a psychological reversal.  So switch directions.  Think the opposite.  For example, you keep thinking, “I don’t make enough money.”  There’s no emotion.  It just feels like harsh reality.  So switch to the positive side of it.  “I make all the money I need.”  Ah, the emotion comes pouring out saying, “Good try.  That was a false line if I ever heard one.”  Many of us are painfully honest people.  We speak about reality too much.  My advice on that is to talk less, let go more.  The reality will shift; then you can talk again.

8)  We’re in other people’s minds.  We’re looking at what another said or did and wondering about their thinking when what matters is our thinking.  A man cuts us off in traffic.  We wonder why he did that?  That keeps us from watching our own mind.  We don’t notice that we have fear of bad drivers or judge angry people because our energy and attention is devoted to the driver’s mind.  Bring your attention back to your thinking.  Western meditation is great for this.  Their thinking is their own problem.

9)  We’re reasoning.  We don’t need a reason for why something happened.  What we need is the causal belief.  If  we’re reasoning, we’re too much in our logical false masculine mind.  If we drop into feeling, and just witness our emotions while listening to our thoughts, we’ll find the causal belief in our mind, which is the only reason we need.

 

The biggest trap is looking at what normal people do and thinking we can do that too and get free.  Most people, regardless of what they say they want, are on the express train to hell.  We have to remember that fitting in means riding the hell-bound train.  Freedom means getting off at the next stop.

 

 

I Want Freedom BUT I Already Fixed That

Freedom from emotions

By Cathy Eck

 

People are becoming more and more aware of the illusion; they hide from it, vent about it, or feel like they’re stuck in a prison with no parole.  No wonder so many people are depressed.  Others fight the illusion or rebel against it, but they never win.  Why are we so afraid of this giant cartoon?

You see, if we’re bothered by another person’s illusion, it has taken up residence in our OWN mind.  Freedom is about destroying the beliefs in OUR mind that have cast us into roles in other people’s illusions.  We must realize that their illusion can’t affect us if we don’t believe it.  If we believe that we MUST fix another person or get them to see they’re wrong so we can be free, we still share their belief.  The more we let go, the more clear this becomes.

 

Fear Rules the Illusion

Letting go allows us to see that we’re all victims of the illusion; we’re not really victims of each other.  If we’re getting something we don’t want from another or from life, we believe that what we got is real or true; or we believe that the person who cast us in the feminine role has power over us.  Getting free requires using our emotions to go inside our mind and find our causal beliefs.

People want guns because they fear other people are bad and could harm them.  People join religions because they fear their soul was stained — they want a better afterlife or next life.  People adopt diets, exercise routines, or practices because they fear death, aging, weight problems, or illness.  People follow authority because they fear punishment.  People take jobs they hate because they fear being without money or believe they need the benefits.  Most of our doing is simply to counteract fear and paranoia.  It’s not creative.

Paranoia and fear make us vulnerable to clever marketing.  In fact, we can often see our beliefs by looking at what we’re tempted to buy.  We wouldn’t want to fix the problem if we didn’t still believe we had it.  You can be sure that the minute we fix one illusory fear, someone will find something else to scare the shit out of us  Then they sell us yet another product or service.  We win when we no longer believe we need anything from another — that’s freedom.

The True Self has no emotion because it holds no beliefs; the false self is filled with beliefs and emotions.  Emotions are the effect, not the cause.  So if we think we need a gun, we need to look at the beliefs causing our fear of other people.  If we think we need religion, we need to follow our fear of sin to the causal religious beliefs.  If we think we need our partner to spend more time with us, we must follow our emotion to our loneliness.  If we think we need a food or exercise regimen, we should follow our fear of illness or fat to find the causal beliefs that were probably learned from an expert.  As we let go, we’re relieving the experts, which have ruled our lives, of their duty.

Often we think that mental solutions fix the cause.  We’re attracted to spiritual teachers, mental techniques, and practices like positive thinking, visualization, meditation, yoga, Tai chi, EFT, new religions, hypnosis, or NLP because they seem to put new and improved beliefs in our mind or relieve our emotions.  Sometimes we grasp a moment of clear sight, which causes us to let go.  But that is rare and often not easily repeatable.  We eventually grow tired of these techniques too.  Now we’re ready to let go.

By the time that we realize this, we’re often exhausted.  We’ve tried so many things.  We have no desire to do much of anything; and that’s good.  We’re finally tired of fixing problems.   Fortunately, it doesn’t take physical energy to let go.  But it takes desire, persistence, and courage.  Then we see the horrible truth.  We meet all the things we thought we fixed because we didn’t fix the cause; we fixed the effects.  That’s a real “Oh FUCK!” moment.  It looks like we’re going backwards before we can go forward; this causes many people to quit letting go before they even get started unless they understand what’s going on.

 

Getting to Freedom

To get to freedom, we have to heighten our awareness of our own mental processing by witnessing our thinking.  We observe what we’re driven to do and constantly ask ourselves why we’re doing it.  We stop living on automatic.  We must get painfully honest with ourselves; and stop looking for others to fix our emotions and problems.  And we must stop fixing the emotions and problems of others.

“Why?” becomes our best friend.  Why am I feeling that I need to do this, be this, or want this?  Why do I think I need this product, practice, or person?  The answer points to the cause; and it won’t feel good.  But you now know that you were doing all that work or spending all that money only to fix a stupid belief that didn’t even feel good.

We have to realize that every time we fix the effect, we give the causal belief more power.   And that’s why we often feel so much emotion when we stop fixing the effects.  We’ve been covering that emotion with products, practices, or practitioners for a long time.  It’s like going cold turkey with an addiction.  Actually, the biggest addiction on this planet is fixing the effects of our beliefs to eliminate our emotional discomfort.  Nearly everyone has that addiction.   We thought we desired the thing that fixes the effect, but all those emotions were just begging us to remove the causal belief.  When we remove the false belief, the false desire disappears as well.  We won’t see that particular problem again.

 

 

Excitement and Tears of Joy

Excitement, Tears of Joy

By Cathy Eck

I’m often asked about excitement and tears of joy.  In both cases, an emotion appears to be positive until we take a closer look.

 

The Gift of Emotions

Our emotions were designed to let us know when we’re thinking something false.  We think; then we get feedback.  If that feedback is emotion, then what we just thought was false.  That thought won’t take us to our true desires.  It will take us deeper into the illusion of pain, suffering, and problems.

This gets confusing in relationships.  Often, we’re listening to another; and we feel emotion when we take their false thought or belief into our body-mind.  If we don’t let their belief go, it sits there accumulating power; and it keeps us from getting what we want in life.  We don’t realize we have this belief; and often it’s revealed in excitement or tears of joy.  But we don’t catch the opportunity to let it go because society tells us these are positive emotions.

For most of us, we don’t realize how many beliefs we’ve accepted into our body-mind until we start letting go; it’s the supreme, “Oh fuck,” moment in life.  We focus on letting go of beliefs that generate “negative” emotion, but emotion isn’t positive or negative.  It always means the same thing; what we’re thinking right now is false.  Excitement and tears of joy aren’t positive emotions; but they’re emotions.  They’re a form of psychological reversal that looks positive; consequently, they can be difficult to decode once labeled.  We don’t want to let them go if we label them positive.

 

Excitement

Excitement is a label that we give to emotion when we associate it with something we want.  The guy or girl we like smiles at us.  We get an interview for the job we desire.  We think the emotion is related to the good news.  But the emotion is coming from what lies beneath the good news.  The event triggered our beliefs which generated the emotion.  We need to turn inward and watch our mind to see what’s actually causing the emotion.  The belief might be something like, “I never believed this would happen.”  “This is too good to be true.”  “I don’t deserve this.”  We don’t want those beliefs in our mind.  They’re false.  The beliefs could be triggering what appears to be guilt or shame if we’re conditioned to gravitate toward pain or martyrdom.  Some might fear it’s a temptation by Satan.  We want to let go of whatever we discover.

Maybe something already happened that’s generating excitement.  Let’s say we won the lottery.  That excitement might mean that we just got a false desire, or we have beliefs about lottery winners becoming selfish.  Our True Self is giving us fair warning.  We could be headed for trouble if we don’t let go.  In the moment, we focus on the outer event; we don’t hear what our mind is saying.  We don’t recognize the cause of the emotional response.  If we find the cause of the emotion, we just might avoid something bad in the future.

The most dangerous false interpretation of excitement is when it’s really fear.  If we fear something, it’s wise to let go of the cause of that fear, not head straight into the fear and call it excitement.  That’s just asking for trouble.

 

True Desire

When we fulfill a true desire, the normal reaction is more like, “That makes sense.”  If we have no beliefs, it’s obvious that the desire will come to us.  We won’t be all nervous and jumpy about it.  When we’ve been letting go, we notice the improvement in our mind; and by the time that we get our desire, it just seems logical that it would happen that way.

Many people believe and teach that emotions are creative.  This came from ancient occult teachings.  But think about that.  If emotions create our life, and we aren’t in a position where we can project the potential unwanted manifestations on to others (because we aren’t an authority figure), then it’s just a matter of time before our fears manifest.  When we use our emotions backwards; our life is like riding ocean waves.  We’ll get excited and happy when we get what we want and depressed and fearful when we don’t.  We’ll always be in a state of emotion; we’ll just label our emotional state different based on what just happened.

People often challenge me on this.  They say, “I don’t want to give up excitement.”  But they don’t realize that keeping excitement means keeping the other half of the triangle bottom, disappointment.

 

Tears of Joy

Tears of Joy are the product of very strong emotional reaction.  But it’s not the joy that’s producing the tears.  Perhaps we’re watching a movie and lovers find each other after years of being apart.  We say we’re joyful in their reunion.  So why do we cry?  Emotion always means our thoughts are false.  We have to turn inward again and watch our mind to know why.  Maybe we’re thinking, “I wish I had love like that.”  “I wish I could find my lost love.”

We’re happy that they got what they desired; but we’re sad that we aren’t getting what we want.   They’re tears of sadness or disappointment about our life, not joy for them.  We don’t see this because we’re not watching our mind when we have tears of joy.  We’re looking outside of us at something we see or hear.  Our attention is on something good or wanted; but our mind is thinking something false.  It’s a trick.

 

In my experience, watching my mind during the tears of joy or excitement often reveals causal beliefs that explains why I’ve not fulfilled my desires.  They’re liking finding a diamond.  If I turn my focus inward, and let go of the false thought or belief, the tears of joy or excitement go quickly.   And I’m one step closer to freedom and fulfilling my own true desires.

 

Buying Freedom or Earning Freedom

Freedom is earned, not bought

By Cathy Eck

 

Most people associate freedom with wealth or power.  There’s good reason for that.  The most joked about interpretation of the Golden Rule in the illusion is:  “Those with the gold make the rules.”

 

Buying Freedom

Recently, I saw a show on the History Channel about Billionaires.  They briefly addressed their mindset.  They said they have serious God complexes, and they believe they’re doing God’s work even if they’re robbing others blind or killing them.  They have a particular view of the world that they believe is true; and that view has them winning and most of us losing.

The show described this condition in several comical ways:  “Billionaires see themselves as the anointed landlords of the earth.  They see themselves as divinely appointed.  The world would stop spinning on its axis if they failed to exist.”

The show explained that billionaires look philanthropic and generous, but they have a motive with every dollar they spend.  Their charity is fixing what is wrong in their perspective of reality.  In other words, they’re fixing their own projection to perfect their OWN illusion.

The show even admitted that billionaires don’t want us vermin around; they’re now looking into a plan to build an exclusive floating island so they won’t belong to any country, won’t pay taxes, and will (in their mind) have achieved ultimate freedom.  But they’re living a lie; that’s not freedom.

 

Gaining Followers

Another illusory way to gain power and rule the world is to gain permanent followers for your perspective.  Religions, cults, and gurus create power for their beliefs through followers.   Luke Rhinehart wrote a book in the 70’s called “the Book of est.”  It described the mindset of est founder and leader, Werner Erhard.  Erhard borrowed ideas from eastern gurus and the infamous cult leader, L. Ron Hubbard.

“The est organization is not democratic (most American business organizations are not) but rather is authoritarian in the way that baffles many and antagonizes others. Warner Erhard expects staff members to be dedicated to serving est–which, because he and est are one and the same, mean serving him. Late in the fourth day of the training, the trainer explains that Werner is in essence a power source serving masses of people, and individual staff members supply Warner with additional power. The power flows up from graduates and staff, through Warner, out into the world. This is a perfectly reasonable way to explain the essentially Eastern phenomenon of a powerful being (usually a guru or spiritual teacher) attracting other powerful beings who nevertheless choose to channel their power through the leader” (Rhinehart, pg. 264-65).  

 

This is the way of the false god.  We’re so used to our reality being this way that we fall for the trick again and again.

Government authority uses a similar trick.  We send our power up to them believing they’ll take care of us.  People today are noticing that they aren’t doing a very good job of taking care of anyone but themselves.

Notice the flow of energy goes from the followers to the leaders.  This screams false leader; he will assure you that he has your back.  But the true leader operates from unconditional love; his/her energy flows like the sun to those below them in feminine roles.  True leaders constantly examine their projections and correct their own minds.  Lao Tzu said it best, A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.”

 

Earned Freedom

The freedom that we gain from letting go is earned freedom; it’s real and indestructible.  Just as it takes time and effort to become a billionaire or grow millions of followers, letting go takes time and effort.  But here’s the difference.  The billionaire and the cult leader must retain their superior masculine position.  They must constantly lobby for top dog if they want their beliefs and rules to control everyone’s experience.  They consciously or unconsciously realize that they have no power in the feminine role.  They’ll do whatever it takes to stay in the masculine role — steal, kill, torture, silence.  They’re doing the “false god’s” work.

Letting go moves us into the realm of the True Self, beyond roles, which is ultimately more powerful than any religious leader, guru, government official, or billionaire.  We really do control our life because their beliefs aren’t in our mind anymore.   We can’t experience what we don’t believe.  The false gods aren’t our enemies; they’re powerless.  They’re own false self is the vermin they want to eliminate.

If we don’t let go of their rules and beliefs in our mind, we’ll fall under their control.  This is why we’ve had great men and women who took risks, but ended up in prison or dead.  They believed they were fighting a real enemy instead of a cartoon.  The movie, “Divergent,” has some great visuals of the power of knowing something isn’t true.  Readers of my blog tend to recognize their “divergent” True Self,  which the movie defines as a mind beyond control.  Divergence requires persistent letting go.  As we conquer this aspect of our false mind, we won’t fear stepping out and speaking the truth anymore.

When we understand true freedom, we understand why it’s worth pursuing, and why it’s completely fair.  The wealthy person and the religious leader or guru are also bound by their own version of the false God.  By letting go, we move beyond their false illusion into real freedom, a place with no boundaries — the realm of our True Selves.

The best indicator of true freedom is that people work together and harmonize.  They don’t play status games.  Everyone is unique, valuable, and worthy.  In true freedom, people aren’t afraid of each other; they don’t harm others.  They’re too busy creating.  And while the billionaire and the guru do get to do what they want, they still fear the vermin outside the commune or mansion (their projections).  Their freedom is an illusion.

A Different View of the Story of the Tower of Babel

Tower of Babel

By Cathy Eck

 

The Lord’s Version

Today is my 200th post.  In honor of that milestone, I thought I’d write about my favorite fucked-up Bible story, the Tower of Babel.  It’s sad that the Tower of Babel story was so distorted; it’s really a beautiful, meaningful story.  I intend to demonstrate how shifting our perspective can transform even the most confusing and disempowering stories.  Here’s the story from Ye Ole King James Bible Genesis 11:

1 And the whole earth was of one language, and of one speech.

2 And it came to pass, as they journeyed from the east, that they found a plain in the land of Shinar; and they dwelt there.

3 And they said one to another, Go to, let us make brick, and burn them thoroughly. And they had brick for stone, and slime had they for morter.

4 And they said, Go to, let us build us a city and a tower, whose top may reach unto heaven; and let us make us a name, lest we be scattered abroad upon the face of the whole earth.

5 And the Lord came down to see the city and the tower, which the children of men builded.

6 And the Lord said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.

7 Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not understand one another’s speech.

8 So the Lord scattered them abroad from thence upon the face of all the earth: and they left off to build the city.

9 Therefore is the name of it called Babel; because the Lord did there confound the language of all the earth: and from thence did the Lord scatter them abroad upon the face of all the earth.

 

The Lord

The error begins when we mistake Lord for the Creator God.  The God of Genesis I was a Creator (or creative force); after Genesis I, God became the angry, judgmental, power-hungry inventor of man’s false self and knowledge of good and evil.  The rest of the Old Testament is mostly about life in the Lord’s illusion where rules, beliefs, and false Gods rule.  It’s about reward and punishment for the Lord’s benefit, not for the benefit of the people or the earth.

This is a very important story.  Lord is still ruling the earth today.

 

The People

Lord recognizes that the children building the Tower of Babel communicate very well; they’re a powerful creative force — like the real God that Lord despises.  So Lord says:  “now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.”  Lord is threatened.  He’s saying, “I can’t control these people.  They’re true creators.  Who will build my castles and shine my bling?”  His power depends on obedient slaves.

Lord decides to confound their language or speech, because Lord is an ass.  He presumes that their outer communication created their unity.  Different ways of speaking don’t unite or divide.

What did he mean?  Common vision unites us.  Beliefs divide us.  We accept beliefs only when our emotions are confounded.  The truth has no emotional component.  Beliefs are loaded with emotion, but we’re confounded to psychologically reverse our discrimination so we accept thoughts that feel horrible.  Then we create in the image and likeness of Lord, not God.

Lord confounded our universal language — our natural discrimination system so we wouldn’t know the difference between truth and beliefs (false).  Lord made the children’s True Self behavior wrong.

At the True Self level, we’re all one.  We think in harmony.  At the false self (belief) level, we’re separate; we’re designed that way.  Authorities, at all levels, behave like Lord.  Most of us experienced a Tower of Babel moment before we we’re able to talk.

This story reinforces some horrible beliefs, like authority figures have more power than our own True Self.  It convinces us to drop our desires and submit to the desires of authority (supporting the illusion).  We fear that our True Self is bad or wrong.  We even fear joy because we believe punishment will follow.  Lies, lies, lies…but the beliefs of many appear true.  But they aren’t true; they’re just reality.

False leaders “Divide and Conquer.”  If we’re separated into different religions, political parties, races, or sexual preferences, the completely unqualified, but highly focused, elite Lords easily rule the world.

 

It’s Not Pride

The religious believe this is a story of pride based on Verse 4, “Let us make us a name.”  Bullshit!  Harmony is never prideful. Making a name wasn’t prideful because their intention was pure.  They were caught in the illusion and wanted to get back to Heaven to speak with their True God, which is a metaphor for wanting to return to their True Self perspective.  The story says they feared separation.  Separation is the consequence of accepting the false self, belief-driven perspective, of their Lord.

Here’s a little Jeopardy test:  “This was a prideful one who falsely accused his followers of being prideful.”  “Alex, that would be ‘What is Lord?'”  Yes!  This story was an example of projection.  Lord projected his own disgusting pride on the innocent children.

 

All One

I communicate with people from all over the world, representing different races, ages, sexual preferences, religions, and political perspectives.  On the way into the illusion, we all look very different.  But on the way out, the differences drop, and we start harmonizing; we see eye to eye.  It constantly amazes me.

We do have one language — emotions.  Our God-given emotional communication system discriminates between lies and truth.  Those who lie don’t want us to know that because discrimination is REAL power.  Emotions (once we remove our psychological reversals) tell us when we’re living in or returning to Heaven on Earth and when we’re hell bound.  They provide divine communication that’s flawless; they dump Lord off his pedestal, complete the Tower of Babel, and reconnect Heaven and Earth.

What We’ll Do To Get Rid of Our Emotions

Emotions

By Cathy Eck

 

Releasing Emotions

People hate to let go of their seemingly good emotions, like excitement, hope, or pride.  “What would life be without excitement?,” they ask.  To get off the bottom of the triangle, however, we must let go of all the causes of emotions.  Excitement and anger are equally damaging effects of false beliefs.

When confronted with the notion of letting go … Actors fear losing their acting ability.  Artists think they’ll lose their creative edge.  People who believe they’re good fear they’ll lose their empathy.  Those addicted to romance believe emotional chemistry is love.  People fight to keep their emotions while simultaneously hating them.  The illusion falsely promises that it’s giving us what we can only get by letting go.

There are so many techniques to get rid of the emotions generated by our false beliefs.  Techniques like the Release Technique, EFT, and anything else that eliminates the emotion without removing the causal belief are popular.  But they don’t fix the cause unless you happen to let the belief go.

The false masculine eliminates unwanted beliefs that cause emotion.  They get it half right, and it would work if they had no psychological reversals.  They totally believe their view of life is the right view.  They forget to do the win-win test.  Karma might be win-win for a guru since he’s certain he has none.  But it imprisons billions of people.  The apocalypse might look win-win for Christian Bible Thumpers, but it sucks for the rest of us.  The false masculine holds themselves superior to the rest of the world.  In their eyes if we were all like them, earth would be perfect.  Can you see their delusion?

 

So Misunderstood

Emotions are so misunderstood.  Many take substances to eliminate emotions.  They keep jobs they hate or stay in bad marriages because the anger and pain they feel by staying where they are is less than the guilt, shame, poverty, or loneliness they believe they’ll feel if they leave.  

Some people create pain to get rid of their emotions, WTF?  Lisa Ling, reporter on Oprah’s channel, did a special on BDSM, Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).  When asked why they wanted to be dominated, beaten, and chained; the people said, “It feels good.”  They believe they’re releasing emotions.  Cutting is another way of trading emotions for pain.  

People use sports for emotional release.  They scream at their televisions or use their emotions as fuel when they play.  I used to run.  I pounded the pavement in anger and thought that was healthy.  Sex without love is a sport if desired, rape if undesired by one participant.  Neither sex nor sports are bad; but they’re not meant to be emotional release techniques.

People fight over stupid things or beat their children for emotional release.  They justify it as discipline; but in truth, they just want to release their emotions.

Some vomit their emotions into creative work which is a false-self creativity.  Artistic expression lives in the True Self.  Creative ideas require us to go through the darkness of the false self.  That’s why many great artists become crazy, manic, or suicidal.  But what if they could let go?  They could enter the darkness without a scratch.

 

Good Emotions?

The most ridiculous way to get rid of emotions is to relabel them good.  We feel waves of excitement when something good happens only to be disappointed when we don’t get what we want.  This produces addictions to food, drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, parties, adventures, drama, workshops, healers and psychics, sex, religion, etc.  Life in the illusion creates the downward wave quite nicely.  We go to others or substances to pull us back up.  

Caretakers give outer care as well as a strong emotional projection.  People feel better when they serve because shit flows downhill.  Our unconscious masculine hates emotions; and it looks for victims to project its fears on.  People give to charity to feel prideful or eliminate guilt.  Charities represent the manifestations of our fears — the thing we want to see fixed in the world before it happens to us.    

Many spiritual teachers and religious leaders use talent or knowledge to claim the false masculine role and stay there.  They project their false feminine on followers.  They often don’t realize that they have God complexes, not God, in their masculine mind.  They believe they have the right to judge and punish their opposition — their own shadow — that would be us.  Most of us fear people with God complexes so we don’t challenge them.  If we do, we get what we expect — punishment, humiliation, or death.  This is why we’re often silent about things that truly matter.

In truth, emotions are all the same.  Labeling them keeps us stuck.  Emotional release techniques only create more confusion.  If we follow our emotions, they’ll  take us to the causal belief.  Once we understand this, freedom becomes possible.  Emotions go away naturally when we let go of the cause.  Our mind is a beautiful, organic system that leads us to the perfection that the illusion claims to be humanly impossible.

Letting go is compassionate.  I wanted to learn how because I didn’t want to project on others.  I didn’t want to explode on others.  I didn’t want to reflect their baggage.   I didn’t care to run anymore.  I just wanted to love and free others.

When tempted to seek emotional release or feed an addiction, first stop and ask yourself:  “What thought or problem am I trying to eliminate?”  Follow your emotion by witnessing it.  We listen and let go when we discover the causes.  As we practice letting go, we stop playing the “Pass the Emotions” game.

Even for those of us who practice witnessing our emotions and letting go, it isn’t fun when they arise.  But emotions are the guide on the path to the True Self — Heaven on Earth.  If you want that destination, you must take the path that goes there.

 

What If I Like My Beliefs? What Do I do With Annoying Believers? Etc.

apple a day

By Cathy Eck

 

Beliefs and Believers

Beliefs aren’t really a problem if we truly understand that they’re all false. Believers of all sorts fear other peoples’ beliefs; they think the others’ beliefs can affect them.  Beliefs can’t affect us unless we believe them.  Really!  Likewise, prophecy only affects people who accept it as true.

This wisdom makes life inherently fair.  But believers do need opposition to take their imaginary punishments.  For a long time, I feared believers; that fear cast me into unwanted roles within their illusions.  Once I no longer believed them, they lost their false power over me.

People with strong beliefs challenge us during initiation.   They show us what we still believe.  That’s a valuable service.  We also get to practice not judging them for having beliefs.  They’re living a false illusion; but they aren’t bad.

Beliefs die a natural death without human fuel.  Consequently, believers hate when we ignore them; but too often we argue with them.  Arguing puts us on their false level.  We lose when they say we offend them.  We’ll lose if they trigger doubt in us by pulling out an out-of-context Bible verse.  Many Food Police would reel me in with their charisma as they talked about their bullshit belief of the day.  Believers are always armed and ready to defend their beliefs.

Resist their pull to battle; it only gives them power.  Just realize that their beliefs are false and let them go.  In this way, you stay in power.  You see, us nonbelievers aren’t psychologically reversed like them, we feel the emotions that they should feel since they just lied.  But they believe they spoke the one-and-only truth — they feel nothing.  In most any battle, the emotional person loses.  Chances are, that will be us.

However, if we discriminate and let go, the emotions we feel leave us and return to their source — the believer.  If we stay in our True Self, said believer must deal with their own emotions.  If we’re wise, we give them what they fear most — unconditional love.  Pure love dissolves anything false.  It’s the most powerful weapon in the universe.  I never attack a believer; but if they attack me, I shoot them with love.  They hate it.

 

What if We Can’t Let Go?

There’s no belief you can’t let go.  However, letting go often takes time.  What if you’re in an urgent situation, like a health crisis?  You can feel lost between two worlds.  The best and safest thing to do is to honestly admit that you don’t believe you can let go right now; follow your beliefs to the letter.  Do whatever you believe will result in healing the effects.  After the crisis is over, let go around that subject until you release the causal belief.  Regardless of what you’re told by experts, the problem will disappear and not return when you no longer hold the causal belief in mind.

My biggest surprise around letting go, and what comes as a shock to people I mentor, is that any situation that we didn’t fix at the cause earlier in life will come up again in initiation.  If we had a physical problem earlier in life, it’s wise to look at the beliefs that caused that problem while our health is still good and our mind clear.  If we had relationship problems that we fixed with therapy or boundaries, get ready!  People often get upset when they regain the weight they once lost through dieting and exercise.  They fixed the effect, not the cause.  We’ll probably meet these problems again, but now we’ll know how to let go.  This time, we’ll remove the cause.

 

Can I keep my religion?

Of course. You won’t be completely free, but you can keep it.  I recommend that anyone with a tradition, practice, or religion, which they believe they want to keep, should live it fully, honestly, and completely.  Do it exactly as prescribed.  Don’t cheat.  In that way, you’ll see it for what it is.

When you practice a tradition, practice, or religion selectively, you’re not really following the tradition.  You pick up all of the beliefs of that tradition, yet don’t follow the protocol — that’s dangerous.  Many people make up their own rebellious rules or beliefs — not realizing that their modifications have no power against the fundamentalists’ beliefs.

If you live any belief system fully without cheating and still like it, then keep it.  But don’t become a zealot.  Even if it works for you, it’s still a belief system; it’s unfair to force others to accept your beliefs.

 

Challenging Beliefs

Many of us were taught to never challenge another person’s beliefs.  It’s certainly not good to argue over beliefs since we get the cooties of the person we argue with.  But we must challenge the beliefs within our own minds.

If another person has beliefs, and they’re happy with them, then I just make sure that I don’t believe them and infect my mind.  However, if they ask me to listen to their problems, to help them fix their problems, or to take care of them in some way, then that’s a request for help.  I give them support by helping them find their causal belief and let that belief go.  I’m not a caretaker.  If they don’t want their belief challenged, then they can fix their own problem.  I won’t fix their effects.  Jesus demonstrated this by “letting the dead bury the dead.”  In other words, those in the illusion can take care of the illusion’s problems.

Generally, I’ll only help another clean up their mess if they let go since I know the problem won’t happen again.  When people are forced to take responsibility for the effects of their beliefs, they often choose to let go.  My methods sound cruel to some, but they’re not.  In my experience, when I hold people to the truth, they often rise to the occasion.  When I rescue someone who’s drowning, I usually drown with them.

We Are the Body — Western Meditation

God in the stars

By Cathy Eck

 

Nobody or Body?

A popular saying among spiritual teachers is “You’re Not the Body.”  Since authoritative gurus/teachers say those words, people believe them.  If we aren’t our body, then we’re “nobody.”  Why do we even have a body?  Same thing goes for our senses.  The body and senses are the effect of our mind.  A True Self in a body with sharp, clear senses is as good as it gets.

Many people send their True Selves floating high above their body trying to get to the God in the sky.    Others long for the OBE (out-of-body experience).  People desire relief from the heaviness of the emotions they feel in their body.  When they exit their body, they no longer notice their emotions.  So they feel lighter.  Often they encounter the thought forms that constructed the illusion or words of truth that have been spoken within the context of the illusion.  They bring these beliefs back with them and create the next expensive workshop to success or enlightenment.  They think they’ve found the exit to truth, but they’ve been fooled.

Our truth is resting quietly below the illusion; the illusion is a construct made by human minds that veils our True Self.  We find our True Self by letting go of our false mind.  We find it in our mind — not out there somewhere.  But we have to know what is true and what is false — discrimination is key.

Floaters, as I like to call them, are highly suggestible.  As a former hypnotherapist, they make great hypnotic subjects.  When we’re hypnotized, we’ll accept anything authorities tell us.

Can you see the trick?  Magicians in powerful masculine roles of Lords and Priests have used hypnosis for thousands of years.  They got people to chase the light to a God in the sky, ignoring the True Self (discrimination system) within the body, so people didn’t notice they were being lied to.  It’s so amazingly clever that I almost have to admire them.

 

Who’s Speaking in my Mind?

Gurus keep disciples in a hypnotic state.  The disciple hears the guru’s beliefs as if they’re true.  Soon the disciples start thinking exactly like the guru.  

When my son was six, he took a martial arts class in something called Hwar Do.  The Korean teacher had an athletic, young AMERICAN woman for an assistant; she spoke with exactly the same Korean accent as her teacher.  It was like he was her mind.  It was creepy.

In my business life, I took the popular Landmark Education/EST training.  The seminar leaders spoke just like Werner Erhard.  Again, it was creepy.  They allowed their teacher to possess their mind.

Partners, lovers, and parents can also take over our mind.  Some wedding vows say “One mind, one heart.”  “Holy Marital Crap, Batman,” said Robin.

Lately, I’ve seen creepy kids on TV that speak or perform like little adults.  That’s not genius; it’s mind control.  They’re Mini-Me’s of their parents.  I love the ones that talk politics, like they were born knowing the American political system.

Religion produces the same result.  The preacher, wearing a costume that shouts authority, bores the living shit out of the congregation in a big room (that echoes) using routine, rituals, and repetition.  We stop discriminating, and our unmanned body absorbs their every word like a giant sponge.  Later when their words arise in our conscious mind, it’s our chance to let them go; but most people think the words are true and believe them again.  They hold on to those words.

Native practices use movement, chanting, or ceremony.  Vision quests and traditional meditation get us to float above our body.  Drugs do the same thing.  Letting go happens when we are in our body — feeling our emotions.

The false mind’s job is to remember.  It remembers anything until we tell it not to.  Words like, “That’s false.”  Or, “Wow, I don’t need to remember that anymore,” or my personal fav, “What the fuck was I thinking?” help us let go.  We’ve all had the experience of studying for a test and forgetting everything by the next day.  Our mind holds on to information that we need or that we consider true, but only as long as we think we need it.  Letting go is a declaration of falseness.

 

Western Meditation

One antidote for floating is what I call western meditation.  You can find the western meditation process link here.  There’s a PDF below.

In western meditation, you aren’t trying to relax or get specific results.  You’re doing what the Greeks called “Knowing Yourself” — knowing your mind.  You’re simply asking your mind to give you all its got right now.

When you tell your mind that your thoughts are false, you’ve given it permission to drop the answers to yesterday’s exam.  If emotion does arise as you do this, witness the emotion until it goes.  Beliefs and emotion go together.  If you’ve had a belief for a long time, there’s often lots of emotion attached.  Emotions always means the belief is false.

Initiation is about turning our body into a Temple for the Living God, a home for your own True Self — not a church.  When beliefs float us above our body or hypnotize us, no one is home.  We might get ideas, but we often can’t manifest those ideas in the world without lots of willpower.  Like a filmmaker, we want to bring our story to life.  If we can’t live our story, then “We don’t get no satisfaction,” (says Mick).

For most of the world, it takes too much willpower to create — people become apathetic.  They have too many beliefs to leap over.  They don’t even have the willpower to use their willpower.  In truth, the purpose of willpower is to will our mind to discriminate and let go.  Eventually, we won’t need willpower anymore.  Then our dreams are no longer in the clouds; they’re our normal reality.  We’re creators again.

Meditation for the Western Mind pdf