Discipline — Time To Say Goodbye!

DisciplineBy Cathy Eck

 

I Got OWNED

Recently, I had the OWN (Oprah) channel on while doing some housework.  The producers set up a help desk where people could ask questions of “spiritual” advisors.  Three times, the experts recommended “discipline.”  They said it was necessary for success.  The first two times, I simply noticed that their comment felt bad and immediately let it go.  But the third time, expert Carolyn Myss put me over the edge.  I realized that I was looking in the face of a huge collective psychological reversal.

An overweight woman (by expert standards) asked Carolyn for help.  Carolyn said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  The woman said, “Yes,” as she smiled.  Carolyn responded critically, “That’s your problem.  You have no discipline.”  The woman looked like she wanted to slit her wrists or shit her pants.  “Okay, now you pissed me off, Carolyn Myss,”  I thought.   I decided to really look at this word, discipline.  My emotions were screaming, “False.”

 

Discipline

The “New Oxford American Dictionary” put things in perspective for me very quickly.  Here’s what it said:

1) the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.
2) the controlled behavior resulting from discipline.
3) activity or experience that provides mental or physical training.
4) a system of rules of conduct.

Discipline is clearly unnatural; it involves training humans, like animals, to do what an authority or expert wants them to do.  It’s key to a society based on good and evil, right and wrong, or win and lose.

Since the disciplinarians are already in the illusion, or they wouldn’t be using discipline, discipline is inflicted on those in powerless feminine roles, like children.  Our minds record the voices of those who provide discipline until we acquire self-discipline, meaning we inflict reward and punishment on ourselves.

Oddly, the word discipline is very similar to disciple, another highly feminine role.  Well, that made sense.  Carolyn Myss is a recovering Catholic; her Catholicism often bleeds through in her books and teachings.  The other two men who suggested discipline were M. Scott Peck, spiritual psychologist/author, and DeVon Franklin, Hollywood wanna-be preacher.  Discipline and religion are clearly interconnected; both take us toward hell while claiming to take us to heaven.

The truth is that if we’re disciplining ourselves or others, we’re not good, we’re false.  Discipline is following someone else’s rules that don’t feel good and don’t make sense to us.  We should never have to do that in a sane world.  If we’re obeying rules that don’t feel good and telling others to do the same, we’re clearly playing a false masculine role.  We shouldn’t be leading anyone, not even ourselves.

In the TRUE masculine role, we do what we’re inspired to do.  We provide a vision — not rules.  The True Masculine has no desire to discipline others; there’s no need for it.  You trust the people that you create with.  Discipline isn’t even a word I’ve ever needed to have in my vocabulary.

When led by false masculine authorities, we have to muster up unnatural energy to do what they want us to do in the way they want it done.  We become exhausted and depressed.  We hate life.  Then we discipline those below us (like our kids) because we’re starving for energy and life force.

 

Discipline or Abuse?

Just last week, someone posted on Facebook a comment about the lack of discipline in kids and how it’s because parents no longer spank.  Of course, I couldn’t shut up because children were involved.  So I wrote, “People will stop disciplining their children with physical punishment when they call it what it really is, child abuse.”  You see, calling authoritarian bullying, unnecessary rules, enslavement, and physical punishment “discipline” makes the unacceptable acceptable.

Discipline produces slaves and obedient citizens, not successful or creative people.  It’s a winning formula in the illusion.  It has worked for thousands of years because we don’t stop and examine the reality or the real effects of discipline.

 

Pleasure

Carolyn Myss exposed the whole illusion around discipline when she said, “Do you tend to gravitate toward pleasure?”  That’s when my emotions screamed, “Stop the madness. Your are Myss-taken.”  She was saying, “If it’s pleasurable, it’s bad for you.”  The idea that we’re supposed to be happy while we suffer is the Catholic mantra; it’s not true.  We all naturally gravitate toward pleasure until we’re brainwashed to gravitate toward pain by following beliefs that generate emotions.

We’re all born to people who were already cooked to well done in the illusory oven before we arrived.  If we could talk, we would have screamed, “Stop!  That doesn’t feel right.  I didn’t come to earth to see how well I could suffer.”  Instead we got disciplined to become like our caretakers and authorities until eventually we couldn’t see the error in the illusion — it looked normal.

It’s not too late.  We can let go of needing discipline right now.  We can start to follow our inspiration at any time.

Carolyn Myss answered the woman’s question, but it’s doubtful that it helped.  She gave her the cause of her weight problem.  This woman thought she didn’t have enough discipline when she actually had too much.  Her inner food police disciplines her constantly, piling guilt and shame on her food and reminding her that she’s not following the diet and exercise rules for a thin body.  She believes the rich and successful (and disciplined) experts even though what they say feels horrible; her True Self knows the advice is false — it’s fixing the effect.

To get free, this woman needs to let go of trusting experts who keep telling her to be more disciplined so she can look the way they say she should look.  She needs to stop dieting (which has the word die in it for a reason) and start living from her own True Self.

Freeing Yourself From a False Masculine Authority Figure

Freeing ourselves from roles

By Cathy Eck

 

You left home years ago.  You felt that you were now the creator of your own life. And yet, mom and dad keep showing up. You’ve married or dated them. You’ve seen your older kids acting like them with your younger kids, and you’ve even worked for them. You know their beliefs are false; so why are they still in your life?

We have to approach this problem the same way that we would view someone in a masculine role who keeps hiring irresponsible employees, has a wife that shops till she drops, and has kids who are addicts. We have to find out the beliefs that got them in this unwanted situation.

 

Projection

We don’t realize that within our minds both the masculine and feminine roles exist. In the physical world, however, we only play one role. We can’t play two roles at one time. So the masculine role in any situation projects the role that they don’t identify with.  This is why everyone wants those powerful masculine roles.

You see, there’s no unconscious mind. We see the contents of our mind every time we look at the world through the eyes of the masculine role. We view others as separate only because they’re physically separate.  False masculine projection in the illusion creates false-self connections. Ultimately, the false masculine wants possessions — obedient slaves and fans.

If we’re in the false masculine role, we project the feminine roles necessary to fulfill our needs — patients, customers, clients, servants.  We’ll tell ourselves we’re helping them.  But we’re projecting crap roles on those who are feminine to us.  We can clean up the mess quickly and easily.  If the person in the feminine role shops too much, we must realize that we want to buy more, but we hold back. We judge waste, or we think sacrifice is virtuous.  If we think our feminine is lazy, we probably fight laziness with our will.  We have pride in our overactivity.  We see the person in the feminine role as bad or wrong.  We would never be like them.  The payoff is we get to be good or right if we keep them on the hook.

If we’re in the feminine role, the masculine roles project on us. It feels like we have to wake his or her ass up to get free.  And yet, we can’t see how that’s possible.  Their judgment feels so damn strong.  In truth, we do have beliefs that got us into the feminine role as their reflection. We aren’t victims. But we have to understand how our mind holds the false relationship to get free.

 

File Storage

To solve this dilemma, I had to go back to my computer programming days. There are lots of files on your computer’s hard drive. To find a file, you must know its name. Search for the wrong name, and you won’t find that file.  Let’s say that you find the file, and now you want to delete it. You hit delete, and the program confirms: “Are you sure you want to delete ‘name of file.'” You respond “yes.”  You were able to delete that file because you knew you no longer needed it.  The same is true with our minds; we can delete a file when we’re clear it’s useless.

Let’s say your dad (masculine role) was a bigot. You observed his judgment from the feminine role and stored his bigotry under a file named something like, “Dad is a bigot.” Or, “Southern men are bigots” if you lived in the south and all his friends were bigots. Now you think, “I can’t delete that, it’s true. He is a bigot.” No, it’s not true. It’s real. Your dad has a True Self that’s not a bigot. For you to get free, you have to free him within your mind. If you let go of your observation of him, you won’t notice his bigotry any more. It will have the same feeling as talking about banana soufflé. We feel emotions when others speak falsely only if we believe them.

Let’s say dad had a belief that you’re lazy.  Determine how you stored the file. I discovered that my mind stored such information something like: “My dad believes I’m lazy.” When you find the right words, you’ll generally feel emotion arise.  The wrong words won’t bring up the emotion.

What people fail to realize about letting go is that to get free, we have to free every person on this planet that can generate an emotion in us. It’s daunting, I know. We’re turning everyone back into their True Self within our mind.  You’ll realize this when you completely adopt the mental perspective of life.  If you see something, and are bothered by it, you’re still contributing to it with a belief.

 

Important Caution

People in false masculine roles often feel no emotion when projecting.  They believe they’re really seeing the other person’s flaw because they see the other as physical only and separate; in truth, they’re seeing their own reflection.  If you’re in the masculine role, like parent to kids, teacher to  students, preacher to congregation, you’re always contributing to any false situation or problem, I.e., win-lose, good-evil, right-wrong, dominance-submission, etc. The masculine role is always responsible.  Just let go of what you see in the other.  Don’t take the credit for the shift.  You didn’t heal the person or situation; you simply stopped torturing them.

Projection makes letting go difficult, but not impossible. We have to decipher our role to find the causal beliefs — the file name. If you feel stuck, just vent to the wall or complain to your diary. You’ll say the belief. Then don’t fall into the trap of justifying your position; just let go. Freedom requires letting go of our false notion of justice, victim and perpetrator, and wanting punishment or retribution. We all deserve freedom.  We’re all victims of the illusion.

Trusting Ourselves: Letting Go of Authority

Freedom and WTF

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Freedom?

When we’re a child, freedom is turning twenty-one.  If we don’t love our work, freedom is retirement.  When we’re unhappily married, freedom is divorce.  If things get really bad, we’ll even think freedom is death.  But freedom isn’t any of that.

In initiation, freedom was about the return to the True Self.  It was called the second birth because we’re born a True Self, we fall, and then we strive to get back to the place we were initially.  Initiation wasn’t a ceremony where a false authority labeled you SAVED!  That’s actually a good joke because initiation was actually freedom from false authority.

The initiated one felt and honored their emotional warnings.  They never fell into feminine roles below a false authority.  In other words, they had the Holy Grail.  Their mind represented the alchemical marriage because they’d united their masculine and feminine mind aspects.  They’d passed through the Gateway to Gold.  And Heaven had returned to earth for them.

People have spoken the truth in many ways.  Once we understand one of them, we’ll eventually understand all of them.  But they’ll all look mysterious until we get the right point-of-view.  Illusions stay alive by making sure that we never get the true perspective of life.  Finding our True Self requires constant letting go of the false contents of our mind until only our unique perspective of the truth remains.

 

The Mistake

How do we get off course?  We follow another’s path instead of walking our own.  Initiation is simple in theory, but so hard to do.  We must let go of other people’s perspectives and expertise until all that’s left is our own.

It’s hard because since we were born, we were told to respect…never challenge…just follow other people’s beliefs, especially if they’re an authority or expert.  If they’re a spiritual leader, we often find they have a tight hold on our mind.  There are many paths to the truth, but there’s only one that works for each of us.  No one else’s path will work for us.

Our path is marked with the things that we find most interesting.  In this way, we’re self-motivated.  Others can support us along our path, but they don’t define it.

People often want me to say that their teacher/guru is the ONE.  But I won’t sell out on them.  They have a path that’s far more perfect for them.  It’s my job to support them in letting go of all the wrong paths from their past.  I know that in the end, only one will remain.  They won’t have to choose anymore.  It will be perfect.

 

False Authority

The false authority uses ancient, proven techniques to retain followers.  But in their defense, they don’t realize they’re harming us.  They’re also victims of the illusion.

  • They speak some truth and some beliefs.  When we find our truth, we will spice it up with some beliefs.  But those beliefs are spice, not the meal.  The spice is only right for us.
  • They assume the masculine role, and we feel completely feminine to them.  When we’re in a false feminine role, we feel like a powerless child who doesn’t have the right to go against whatever their authority says.
  • They fix effects not causes.
  • They focus on physical results instead of mental purity.  They often tell us we need willpower.
  • They think money, fame, or power give you freedom.  In truth, freedom often brings us money, fame, and power, but freedom (truth) must come first.
  • They tell us to “accept what is” when “what is” isn’t appealing because “what is” came from their beliefs.
  • They tell us God gave them success, which implies that if we haven’t yet succeeded we’ve been overlooked by God.
  • They say, “You can’t change the past.”  Bullshit!  When we let go of the causal belief in our mind, we change our memory of any past reality.
  • They say, “Life is suffering.”  Does that really feel good?  It only feels good if you’re heartless and think you can rise above suffering (like the gurus/teachers/preachers that say it) while watching others swim in the the sewage of beliefs.
  • They’re focused on looking good, not being truly good.
  • They generate emotions in us like hope, excitement, pride, or tears of joy.  All emotions mean that there’s false in our mind or in the speaker’s words.  Often the false is implied.  We must look under the words if we feel emotion.  When we mislabel emotion as good, we’re toast.  I had someone in my life that labeled lying good.  He said he did so because “the truth hurts.”  In his presence, my truthfulness was evil or hurtful.  I’d feel bad because I wasn’t lying.  WTF?
  • They demand R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
  • They abuse and take advantage of the feminine role instead of protecting it and lifting it up.  Usually, they don’t understand roles or honor the role’s true purpose of giving and receiving.
  • They deny that emotions have value so we’ll be embarrassed if we expose the fact that what they said doesn’t feel good.
  • They believe their minds are right and don’t discriminate between true and false.  They don’t go for win-win for all.
  • They support and make money from beliefs that never feel good — false spiritual teachings, disease, injustice, borders, war, who’s right, who’s good, who’s superior, what happens after you die, or what will happen in the future.  They take advantage of our insecurities.
  • They believe the feminine role exists to serve the masculine role.

I could add to this list for days.  These are some of the big ones.

Freedom doesn’t come in a weekend workshop.  It mostly comes in small steps.  We’re slowly changing our past every time we let go of even a small belief.  We’re building true power — accepting our True Self back into our own true masculine role.  Letting go of authorities by seeing the errors in their teachings creates big leaps.  It’s the fastest way to the Gateway To Gold.

 

 

The Passive-Aggressive Masculine Role

black and white panda passive-agressive behavior

By Cathy Eck

 

Victims of the Illusion

We’re all victims of the illusion — not victims of each other.  Passive-aggressive behavior isn’t exclusively male; it lives within the collective masculine role.  Men just play the masculine role more often.

Passive-aggressive authority figures look nice, but under the surface they’re aggressive and volatile.  They create havoc all around them while looking like the calm in the eye of the storm.  Americans love to elect passive-aggressive people into office.  That’s why we’re almost always at war.  Passive-aggressive people don’t see their own aggression within because it’s covered with a highly polished mask.  They think they are their mask.

To emotionally-connected people, the passive-aggressive masculine role looks good but feels bad.  It’s confusing.  We expect people to be internally and externally congruent.

To those who can’t feel emotions, the passive-aggressive masculine role looks too good to be true.  They’ll put them on a pedestal to admire and worship — like royalty, stars, or elite.

 

Making the Passive-Agressive Person

If I want to create a passive-aggressive male, I’ll program his mind while he’s young.  First, I’ll create an emotional, angry male — the aggressive part — by consistently imposing my beliefs on him.  I won’t honor his True Self.  I’ll tell him that he’s inherently bad — a sinner.  When he reflects my flaws, I remind him how bad he is.  “Life is suffering and struggle,” I say.  “Hard work is a virtue.”  That will all feel horrible, but I’ll tell him that his emotions mean it’s true — so deal with it.  Don’t cry about it.  It’s the way life is.

If the boy was raised in eastern traditions, I’ll tell him to accept his karma or caste.  I’ll destroy his hopes and dreams, and even deprive him of choices regarding work or love.  When he has a natural emotional reaction to my beliefs, I’ll remind him that his emotions mean I’m speaking the truth.  I’ll teach him to respect others who share my beliefs.

When I’ve broken him, psychologically reversed him to ignore or hate emotions, made him blindly obedient to my beliefs, and am sure he’s repulsed by the truth, I’ll put a nice wrapper on his aggressive masculine.  I’ll teach him morals, rules, and manners — to look nice and kind.  I’ll teach him to never look inward.  His outer-directed focus will project his suppressed aggressive side out.  He’ll spend his life trying to fix, kill, or control his own projection.  He’ll do to others what was done to him and think he’s good.

He’ll use his emotions to protect his beliefs or to look charismatic.  He’ll go to war and kill the enemy for his beliefs.  He’ll rigidly defend his religion and culture.  He’ll be proud when he converts people to his belief system.  He’ll unconsciously seek aggression and competition like a heat-seeking missile.  When things go wrong, he’ll view himself as a victim of his own feminine projection.  When things go right, he’ll declare his beliefs right and true again.

 

Black Sheep

The people who play the reflective, feminine role for the passive-aggressive masculine role are the black sheep.  The feminine role is the aggressive projection of the passive-looking masculine.  If we got out of childhood without passive-aggressive programming, we get tricked into relationships with people who look nice and hide aggression because we don’t understand our emotions.  Our emotions signal when we’re entering into a false-self relationship, but we think it’s a great opportunity, chemistry, romantic love, sexual attraction, or excitement.  The illusion has endless tricks to capture us.

As long as we don’t challenge the passive-aggressive masculine role’s beliefs, their aggression gets projected elsewhere.  They adore us because we’re on their side.  But if we expose the aggression, say no to them, or disagree, we become the enemy.  The passive-agressive masculine isn’t looking for friendship, love, or partnership.  They’re looking for agreement that they’re right and good.  Their only desire is to keep up their nice, kind, spiritual, or good persona.  Exposure is their biggest fear.

We label those who play OSCAR-worthy reflective feminine roles mentally ill or hysterical.  They explode when the situation doesn’t seem to merit the reaction because they feel the underlying aggression coming from the masculine.  They commit crimes, and can’t explain why.  If we don’t have a strong mask ourselves (children, introverted women, creative people, sensitive men, etc.), we’ll flow swiftly down their passive-aggressive stream; and we don’t make sense even to ourselves.

The passive-aggressive masculine is an old pattern.  It’s been used by political and spiritual leaders for thousands of years to create blindly obedient slaves.  It’s the false God, which is nothing more than a composite of our early authority figures.

When passive-aggressive behavior infects a relationship, it’s difficult to cure.  Both people think the other is the cause.  The passive-aggressive masculine role actually holds the cause, the feminine role acts out the effect.  To stop the destruction, both people must pay attention to THEIR own minds.  They must stop the compulsion to fix the other.

The masculine role must let judgmental thoughts about others go because they are their projection.  Passive-agressive minds hold on to thoughts about others that feel bad.  They get their worth from mentally comparing themselves to others who they see as bad or wrong.  

The feminine role must follow their emotions to the causal thoughts.  They’ll end up in what feels like the passive-aggressive person’s mind.  They don’t need to change their mind, they just need to let the belief go by recognizing it’s false.  

The aggression wasn’t anyone’s fault; we all got it as innocent children.  But it’s absolutely our responsibility to correct it.  When we let our aggressive side go, we no longer need the passive mask.  We become our True Selves.  This changes our relationships, ourselves, and the world.  We no longer look too good to be true; we’re just plain good.  And the black sheep in our life suddenly become lily white.  They no longer have to reflect what we can’t see.  They too can be themselves.  

Illusion Confusion: Eliminating Judgment

Judgment and Illusion Confusion

By Cathy Eck

 

Judgment

Last week, I wrote about my sadness that people are often considered to be badly created or badly raised.  As I mentioned, I don’t think it’s that uncommon for people to think of others in that way.  However, in America, we wouldn’t dare say what we’re thinking.  We’d cover it up with a nice mask.  Americans are excellent, silent projectors of judgment.  This is an update on those earlier stories and a testimony to how things can change when you let go.

I’d often felt others judge me as badly created or badly raised only because I was different.  I didn’t share their beliefs or see through the same lens.  So I went back to many of those times, brought up the emotions that I repressed because I didn’t know how to let go at the time, and witnessed the emotions realizing that the person’s judgment (belief) wasn’t the truth.  They weren’t really judging me; they were judging their own projection.  But when I didn’t know that, I stored the painful memory in my body.  I did that process until I couldn’t think of anymore examples.  I just felt peace and love.  Then I completely forgot about it.  Until a few days later…

 

Illusion Confusion

I went to a festival in the center city here in Cuenca (above photo).  Lots of people were dancing in the streets to very good live music.  A man came up to me and held out his hand.  He was an older Ecuadorian man — dirty and very drunk.  At first I thought he wanted money, but his hand was turned with the palm down.  I knew enough Spanish to realize he wasn’t talking about money.  He wanted to dance.  I politely said “No,” but he wouldn’t leave me alone.  I realized that I didn’t say “No” with enough force.  American politeness is often too soft here.  So I said, “No, gracias!” (No, thank you) in a slightly louder voice; but still he tried to convince me to dance with him.

Just then a young man, who was leaning on a nearby fence, walked over and very gently held the man by the elbow and explained to him kindly that I didn’t want to dance.  He walked him away from me and then went back to his place on the fence.  There was no force, no anger — just caring and kindness.  My mind flashed to earlier images in my life of bouncers beating up drunk men or policemen pushing and yelling at people as they demonstrated their authority.

I realized that the young man didn’t see the old drunk man as badly created or badly raised; he saw him as confused.  That was how he spoke to him — like he was teaching him rather than punishing him.  He saw him as not knowing the proper way to relate to someone outside of his own culture.  I walked over to the young man and said, “Muchas gracias,” (Thank you very much) and smiled.  He smiled back and nodded.

 

No Judgment, No Force

I still can’t think about that interaction without getting tears in my eyes.  I realized that the reason we use authority and force to handle things is because of judgment.  Authorities see themselves as right and superior; the offender is obviously wrong and inferior.  When judgment isn’t present, no force is needed.  It’s all so simple.

Judgment will always be present, even if unstated, if we believe that other humans can be badly raised or badly created.  Thus, if we believe in the notion of original sin or believe that humans fell from grace, then we can’t help but have judgment for others.

I realized how lucky I was not to have those beliefs installed in my mind as a child.  Before I married, I didn’t know what judgment was.  It was a word that I couldn’t comprehend.   Occasionally, I attended Catholic church with my husband and his family.  I realized that my mind started to judge others at that time.  I didn’t like it, and I wondered where the thoughts were coming from.  I felt it was from the church because I noticed that people seemed very judgmental after they attended mass.  But I kept dismissing my observation because it seemed ridiculous that our mind would become more confused, negative, and hateful after attending what was supposed to be something good and spiritual.

Religions all evolved from the idea that humans are flawed and need spiritual training.  The notion of initiation, on the other hand, is based on the idea that we are good and spiritual by nature.  That goodness can’t be destroyed; it can only be covered with beliefs, creating confusion.  Even the worst human isn’t evil in the initiate’s eyes; they just have a thicker layer of illusion covering their True Self.

This isn’t only a lesson in how to treat others.  It’s a lesson in how to treat ourselves.  If we view ourselves as flawed and needing fixing, we’ll hold on to beliefs in problems, suffering, and punishment.  We’ll try to use our will to jump over limiting beliefs.  On the other hand, if we see ourselves as good and deserving of love, we’ll use our will to eliminate our beliefs.

 

Letting Go

I often have days where I want to give up trying to resurrect the old initiation teachings.  I’ll think that I can’t take one more person telling me that viewing humans as innately good and loving is ridiculous.  I can’t hear one more person describe humans as physical meat suits that are evolving nicely.

But then I witness the natural power of the initiate’s point of view in action, just as I did with that young man.  I see my own worldview change as I let go, and I know I can’t go back to looking at others as badly created or badly raised.  I can’t go back to thinking that people need fixing.  It’s just so much easier to let go and love.

 

Roles: When the Masculine Pretends to Be Feminine

leadership:  Masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck

 

More About Roles

This post is a continuation of our discussion of the nature of  masculine and feminine roles within the illusion.  When we understand the illusion, we can get free of it if we choose to do so.  The illusion isn’t part of our True Self.  We can drop it and forget it; and we won’t miss a thing.  If we believe the illusion is true; however, we’ll perpetuate it whether we know it or not.

Roles are the kingpin of the illusion.  To let them go, we first understand roles mentally; then we learn to feel our way out of roles using our emotions as our guide.  Letting go of our masculine mind is completely different from letting go when we’re stuck in the feminine mind.  We all must learn how to do both since we all have a masculine and feminine mind aspect.

If our masculine mind or intellect is filled with beliefs, it will be weak.  When we play a masculine role, we’ll be a weak leader.  We’re all weak leaders until we let our beliefs go.  Weak leaders use physical force, manipulation, fear, lying, or omission to get their way.  They’re very competitive, and they’re stuck in being right.

If our masculine mind is weak (because it’s filled with beliefs), and we’re playing a feminine role, we’ll be stuck living with weak leaders who abuse us mentally, physically, or emotionally.  Nevertheless, even in the most hopeless of feminine roles, we can gain our freedom if we strengthen our OWN inner masculine mind.  We do that by letting go of OUR OWN beliefs, not putting more beliefs in.  As the masculine aspect of our mind becomes free and loving, we gain true power; we move above our abusers energetically; they stop abusing, go away, or give us what we deserve.

 

Masculine in the Beginning

In the beginning, the leader or master (masculine role) had all the power and responsibility.  The followers had no power and no responsibility other than obedience to the wants and needs of the leader; they played a slave role.  Obviously, the master role appears to be a much more rewarding role.  However, when we accept either role within the illusion, we actually accept both roles within our OWN mind.  We can only play one role at a time.

Masculine-dominant minds (or people in authority) project their unattractive roles out on to other people who have the mindset to play those roles.  They appear more powerful than they actually are.  People with feminine-dominant minds end up playing roles they don’t want to play.  They wonder how in the hell they got tricked.  Often the authority tells them God gave them that problem or role; they just have to accept what is.  Bullshit!

If we project out the slave role and play the master role, we appear to have more power over our life and choices.  We could let go of all roles completely and gain freedom; but most fear they’ll become a slave if they do that.  On the other hand, if we strongly identify with the slave role, we feel powerless to gain our freedom.

Most people believe the illusion is true so they just want a masculine role; they want their beliefs to be the right ones.  They want power and authority.

Occasionally people move out of the slave role and into the master role.  That looks like freedom, but it isn’t.  They generally succeed by fighting, having a superior talent, or outsmarting the master.  The prize is the masculine role; but now they’re the target.  Others will try to defeat them.  This is the nature of the masculine illusory game.

 

Most Clever Trick  

The masculine mind eventually developed a clever trick because it wanted the power and rewards of the masculine role but not the responsibility.  Masculine leaders started to behave in feminine and caring ways while masking their uncaring, self-serving, or weak beliefs (the cause of all problems).  They would blame others for their failures.  However, they still took full credit for their successes.  Oddly, if you study Plato’s legend of Atlantis, it’s the trick that supposedly caused it’s final destruction.  The story has a good lesson for us.

When people in masculine roles pretend to be victims and avoid responsibility, things get destroyed, problems multiply, and nothing comes to completion.  We can’t fix the problem if we can’t find the cause.  It’s like blaming the wrong person and sending them to jail.  It doesn’t fix anything; the real criminal is still running free.

The majority of people don’t see that they’re living a role projected on them by some person in a masculine mindset or role (not God).  In fact, the person they often run to for belief reinforcement, vote into office, or pay to fix an undesired effect is almost always the cause of their problem.

The ancient initiates taught us that the cause of a problem is always in the mind of the person in the masculine role (the authority or leader).  These false leaders affect us when we accept their beliefs.  We store their beliefs in our own masculine minds.  Then we go looking for answers in the wrong places.

When a leader is ineffective, it’s because they still hold old beliefs.  Weak leaders tend to hold a very Old Testament view of God and life; that doesn’t work anymore.  People are becoming smart enough to realize that the Old Testament God sounds too human.  Unconditional love (God) doesn’t punish or hurt; nor does it make us obey laws that are not win-win for everyone.

The goal of life is to escape the illusion.  We each have a masculine and feminine mind aspect that’s meant for giving and receiving gifts, wisdom, and love.  If we escape the illusion in our own mind, we become a true leader in our own big or small piece of the world.  According to Plato, that’s how we avoid destroying our world and our life.

Letting Go of Masculine and Feminine Roles

Apple of Tree of Life or Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil

By Cathy Eck

 

Understanding masculine and feminine roles is key to stripping the illusion from our mind.  Masculine and feminine roles were created through stories that were presented as right or true.  The stories caused our minds to accept the masculine role as authority, deserving of obedience and respect.  Once that was accomplished, the masculine roles in the world could abuse their power.  They still do.

When we don’t understand roles, we can’t and don’t discriminate between true and false.  We also tend to either project on others or absorb or reflect the projection of our authority figures.  Let’s look more closely at roles.

 

Inner Roles Defined

Our inner mind has a masculine and a feminine aspect.  When we’re thinking from our True Self, those two mental aspects work together seemlessly.  This was called the alchemical marriage.

When we’re thinking from our True Self, we think only productive thoughts.  We hear creative ideas and truthful thoughts that are calm and harmless to ourselves and others.  We get ideas that cause the world to evolve.  We move nicely along our True path. The effects of our thoughts are always good and win-win in nature.

 

False Mind

Our false mind was created by others who wanted us to think their way.  They wanted to become our false God.  Our minds weren’t designed to hold false beliefs.  In fact, we’re all given a powerful lie detector — emotions.  When we feel emotions, it’s because our OWN mind is thinking false thoughts.  That occurs because:  we’re holding false beliefs in mind and aren’t discriminating; or our authorities are projecting their beliefs on us, and we believe them.

The false self is born whenever we accept our first false thought (belief); the roles in our mind change.  In the false self, the masculine intellect is the inner and outer authority; the emotions become something to eliminate because emotions expose the false self.

In most religious stories and myths, masculine had all the power.  God was male.  That elevated the intellect.  Now an intellect offers a belief, and we do feel emotion at first.  But we can’t do a damn thing about it.  The intellect has authority.  So we accept their thought into our own mind as true.  We just ate the apple from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.  If we do this enough, we’ll start to feel emotion when the True Self speaks and calmness when we hear our beliefs.  We’ve been psychologically reversed.

Someone says to us, “You’re an ass.”  If they’re not our authority, we’ll say, “No, I’m not.”  We’ll let their comment go.  However, if an authority says it, we’ll accept their thought into our mind and hold on to it.  We’ll feel helpless to let it go because we been trained to believe that we can’t change the minds of authority.  Clever huh!

The social norm of respecting elders keeps us from discriminating.  Obedience to authority causes us to ignore emotional signals.  Putting knowledge ahead of our emotions prevents us from questioning the doctor, teacher, parent, or clergy.

 

Outer Roles Defined

Outer roles aren’t about bodies or sex.  A woman can play a masculine role.  A man also plays many feminine roles.

I’ve explained before that the clergy, policemen, parent, doctor, and teachers are all examples of masculine roles.  The masculine role has authority or is the one that’s asserting or giving.  The feminine role receives.

Roles aren’t inherently bad.  If I give you a gift, I’m playing the masculine role.  You’re in the feminine role.  If I serve you a meal, I’m in the masculine role as giver.  Those are pure transactions.  We call them first-cause ideas.  They don’t trap us in the illusion.

Second-cause thinking, however, contains judgment defined by “the man” (although people can be savvy about saying that God spoke to them).  Second-cause thinking creates inequality through position, pedigree, race, culture, religion, or sex; it traps us in the illusion.

Good and evil are critical to the illusion; we aren’t whole if our mind believes in good and evil because we can’t be both at the same time.  We can’t win and lose at the same time.  We live life like we’re riding waves — we’re up, then we’re down.  We’re always half of a whole.  That’s not balanced  — it’s a disaster.

 

Escaping Roles

To escape the illusion, we must recognize and understand roles.  If a person plays an authority role, or a more powerful role within the illusion, they must honor the role responsibly.  The husband can’t blame the wife or kids in a traditional marriage.  The teacher can’t blame students.  They’re the authority.  If we play the role of authority, we must accept responsibility.  We get the credit and the blame.

Likewise, if we’re playing a feminine role, we must learn not to blindly accept beliefs or labels from authority.  We must listen to our emotional lie detector.

If we’re with a friend on equal footing, the masculine and feminine roles gently switch back and forth.  The person speaking is masculine; the listener is feminine.  There’s no competition or desire for power.  The notion of authority must go for us to return to the Garden of Eden.  That won’t happen until enough of us have individually eliminated our beliefs about obedience to authority, second-cause thinking, and judgment from our mind.  Normal thinking must return to purely True and False.

To get out of the illusion, we do the opposite.  When we fell, we believed authority without question.  We took in beliefs as if they were true.  Now we look at the beliefs of those authorities from our past and see if their words had an emotional component.   We let go of the beliefs regardless of who gave them to us.

If your mind isn’t too psychologically reversed, you can make the correction on our own.  If not, get someone to help you discriminate.

Eventually, we learn to be in the illusion but not impacted by it.  Authority loses it’s false power.  We’re free.