I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?

BELIEFS

By Cathy Eck

 

What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.

 

Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.

 

Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.

 

Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.

 

 

 

 

 

Living Outside the Box: Freedom

Getting outside the box

By Cathy Eck

 

Freedom

Getting freedom is about living life outside the box that others call truth or reality.  Some people just accept the box, and they never give it another thought.  They even seem to enjoy life in the box.  But some of us don’t enjoy the box at all.  We want out.  So we try to physically remove ourselves from the box.  That doesn’t get us to freedom.

Some move to the country and buy lots of land.  They get off the grid, dump their phones and computers, and live with nature.

Others make lots of money.  They believe, “Money buys freedom.”  Their bank balance causes them to feel worthy.  They can go anywhere anytime by boat, plane, or driver.  They can buy drugs and plastic surgery to keep their mind calm and their body looking young.  They can eat expensive foods prepared by world-class chefs and work out with the best trainers and equipment so they can restrict their body from revealing their beliefs without feeling the lack that us normal folks feel.

Then there are the ones that falsely set themselves aside religiously.  They’re part of a group of chosen people.  They’re going to heaven; we won’t be with them.

Others separate themselves from the status quo with education or knowledge.  They become an expert.

We all want freedom from problems and people who want to control us.  We hide from those that drive us crazy.

We try to get free by changing or upgrading things in our physical world or setting boundaries.  But we aren’t really getting freedom that way; we’re only getting a little relief from the effects of our beliefs.  Running away to an island doesn’t free us.  Fixing effects will never get us freedom.  But don’t get me wrong.  Freedom isn’t about smiling from your prison cell either.

Most people want freedom, but they have a physical perspective so they try to get freedom by fixing their physical reality.  Their physical reality is simply the effects of their beliefs.  Until they eliminate their beliefs, freedom is impossible; life will prove that to them.   The reclusive will be annoyed by a bear who becomes a constant nuisance.  The rich person will find his money can’t buy him happiness.  The religious will wait their whole life for their chosen moment, and it will never happen.  The special diet and exercise will stop working one day.  The educated will find that their knowledge is false.  The crazy friends will come back in different bodies.

 

The Mental Perspective

True freedom is a perspective.  Freedom comes from within.  If our mind is free, our body and life will reflect that freedom.  The outer world becomes the effect of our free inner world.  When our mind becomes pure, we have no effects that need fixing anymore.

When we let go of our beliefs (our false self), we naturally move into the mental perspective.  We can see both sides of duality from this perspective.  So we want to have win-win interactions with others.  We become truly enlightened and free as our True Self.  Our false desires fade away.  We become like we were initially, at birth.

What we try to fix in the physical perspective is probably our biggest trap.  The one who runs away and hides in nature has a fear of people.  Relationship beliefs will keep them stuck even if their only relationship is that bear.

The billionaire’s trap is money.  For him or her to get free, they might have to lose it all.  It’s too easy for them to fix effects with money.  That’s why Jesus said that it was pretty damn hard for the rich person to get to heaven.

If we want to fix our body, then that’s our trap.  We have to stop the madness and start letting go.

If knowledge is our trap, we’ll keep seeking more and more knowledge only to find it’s all worthless currency.

The religious and spiritual get impatient waiting for their savior to come or the comet to destroy the earth.  They keep looking outside so they never discover their real savior inside.  They believe prophets when they have the best prophet inside — their True Self.  Shit, they’re the ones they are waiting for.

We can push away the entire world of people, but the crazies will still find us.  We all want to hide from those we perceive as powerful.  Let them come, but let go while you’re with them; you’ll diffuse their power.  They’ll probably leave you alone after that.  We ultimately have to recognize that the people with the most beliefs and emotions are actually powerless.  When we get that, they can’t hurt us anymore.  The one with the least beliefs has the most natural power; that’s why we were forced to submit as small children.  Our parents felt powerless around us when we reflected their beliefs.

 

Perspective Change

Freedom is a perspective change that happens from within once we discriminate using our emotions, let go of beliefs because they have an emotional warning that says they aren’t true, let go of listening to other’s knowledge, and let go of obeying or fearing false authority.  Slowly, we find that our perspective shifts from the physical view of the world to the mental view of the world.  We have the big picture.  We see clearly, and we know what path or direction to go in any moment.  We aren’t avoiding life; we’re really living life.  We’re creative.  We know everything we need to know.  We live where we want to live, and other false selves don’t bother us.  They’re probably afraid of us.  We do what we want to do with whomever we want to do it with.  The world even seems to support us in being who we are.

Oddly, we don’t feel special; we actually feel normal.  We have power, but not power over others.  We simply feel like our Self.  We feel free.

Are They Authentic or Just a Perfect Persona?

Manure Pile and beliefs

By Cathy Eck

 

Authentic or Bullshit

My dad sends me some really stupid emails — I tell him that all the time.  But he was a nuclear engineer; so he thinks that he’s making conversation when he forwards an email.  Besides it gives me things to write about.

He recently sent me a copy of a discussion between two people who were trying to decide who was more authentic, George W. Bush or Barack Obama.  That’s pretty much like trying to decide whether a dog or a cat is more insect like.  It’s a useless discussion with no potential resolution or benefit.  But it brings up an interesting point:  How do we know if someone is authentic?

The truth is that the biggest liars have become quite accomplished at looking authentic.  Clear communication, lack of emotion, and happiness are qualities of the True Self, but they’re also qualities of highly perfected personas.

On the other hand, while we’re purifying our mind, we often get highly emotional when someone says something false, causing us to look like the flawed one.  Eventually, we reach a place where we know that anything false is powerless so we don’t need our emotions to explode like atom bombs.  But it’s always that awkward phase in between that gets us in trouble.

It seems that this has been a common problem throughout time.  Even Plato discussed it in his discourses on the legendary lost continent of Atlantis.  He said that those in power had too much “mortal admixture.”  The masses couldn’t tell who was truthful from those who had selfish intentions.  This caused the destruction of the continent.  We’re in the very same place today.

 

Knowing a True Self

In truth, we can only know if we’re authentic.  That’s the best use of our time and energy.  When we know our mind, we know when someone else’s thoughts enter.  We feel our emotions more easily.  We can catch and deflect the projections that those poker-faced personalities send our way.   I’ve discovered that as I clean out my mind, it’s easier to discern if another is being authentic or just blowing some sweet-smelling smoke.  Of course, they don’t like being exposed, but we’ll save that for another post.

I used to wonder if we all signed some sort of pact a few thousand years ago that said, “I won’t expose your false self if you don’t expose mine.”  Then I realized that a pact isn’t necessary.  When we hold lots of beliefs in our mind, we don’t catch the lies of others until it’s far too late because we can’t distinguish our thoughts from their thoughts.  That’s why the first exercise I give to people I mentor is to start watching their own mind 24/7.

People, who benefit from the illusion, support social skills where we focus on and care what others think instead of what we think.  That way we become gullible targets for those wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Our false selves have been highly trained to look at what people do.  We see a person hug a baby, and we think they’re nice.  Someone gives a vet a job, and they’re good.  But Charles Manson could hug a baby; he could also give a vet a job.  People who do things for show aren’t stupid; they know what to do to get the biggest bang for their buck.  They know how to work the collective mind.

Our false selves need validation.  The two people having the discussion, in my dad’s forwarded email, each thought that their favorite politician was authentic because they sounded like them.  False selves are insecure; they seek constant support.  That’s why our false self love to gossip or judge others.  A common enemy feels like power and mutual support.  The false self has to constantly support its position of rightness, or it will realize that it’s wrong.

 

What’s the lesson?

We must remember the reason that we have emotions.  They’re not to determine good and evil or right and wrong people.  They’re to decide if the particular belief or thought, which is our point of focus right now, is true or false.  Our emotions are actually highly impersonal — they are simply very good lie detectors.

If someone says, “All dogs of Republicans should have blue hair and Democratic dogs should have pink hair,”  we notice how their statement feels.  If it feels bad, it simply means don’t believe them.  It doesn’t mean color-coded dogs are bad or wrong for the believer; it means they aren’t right for us.  Our True Self is giving the thumbs down to their statement.  That’s all.

Somewhere along the way, most of us fell for the trap that we aren’t being nice if we expose someone’s belief as a belief.  We’re bad if we don’t support their false self.  In truth, we’re truly good (with no hidden opposite) only when we don’t support false selves.  Being nice to false selves keeps the illusion running.  Our false self should embarrass us, not get us approval.  We were designed by our cosmic designer to discriminate; we were given emotions to keep our minds pure.

When we realize that beliefs have NO power of their own, we easily ignore them.  We don’t fear beliefs of others, nor do we condone them.  Whether the person is authentic or not doesn’t matter that much.  We stop judging false selves when we see them as powerless; we just ignore them or correct them.  Life gets much easier.

The key to living an authentic life is to drop our own false self.  Then we can live in the world, among the most crazy false selves, and not fall into their trap.  We can even play in their world for a bit, and then exit when we’ve had enough.  In short, we no longer need to worry about whether someone else is authentic, because we’ve got our own authentic best friends with us all the time — our True Self and our emotional lie detector.

 

Why Do Actions Speak Louder Than Words?

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

By Cathy Eck

Actions Speak Louder than Words

In the true world, everyone’s congruent.  In the false world, people are incongruent; their words and actions cover-up their unspoken words (beliefs, judgments, and insecurities).

False powerful people need others to believe their actions and spoken words.  Like a good magician, they keep our eyes looking in the wrong place so we don’t see what lies hidden below their facade (their shadow).  We enable false authority figures like bad wives buying Vodka for their alcoholic husbands because we fear exposing the lies.  We believe false authority and give them our power, even when our emotions are warning us not to.  We’re programmed to do this.

 

Eliminating The Programs

We must uncover the places within our mind where our own actions speak louder than words (unspoken words).  When we clear out our own incongruence, our eyes open so we no longer fall for their magic.

Human minds are really good tape recorders.  They memorize information and spit it back out.  Just because we memorize something doesn’t mean we live it or even believe it.  Bible quoters are famous for this; they’re often breaking the very rule they’re quoting.  Their actions speak louder than words if we pay attention.  But their incongruence usually goes unchallenged because their spoken words are considered right; exposing their incongruent action feels taboo.

Our mind creates programs out of memorized data just like a computer.  The modern computer was made in the image and likeness of the human mind.

Let’s say you wrote a computer program for “looking good” as defined by society.  You need the program because you believe you’re bad.  The “looking good” program provides spoken words and actions that override the belief that you’re bad.  Bear in mind that you could eliminate the belief that you’re bad rendering the “looking good” program obsolete.  But often the “you’re bad” and the “looking good” programs are tightly wound together at the bottom of the triangle.  Your mental program might be something like this:

If someone enters the room, I must say hello. I must respect people who are older even if they’re wrong.  I must believe authority even if they’re wrong.  I must not say “No.”

If I’m too happy, I’ll get punished.  If I’m not in control, I’ll get punished.  If I’m playing a game, I must never win.  If I’m successful, I must downplay my success so I look humble and remain below my authority figures.  I must go to church every week, and donate….

 

The “looking good” program sits quietly within your mental computer.  If you look closely, your emotions aren’t working properly anymore.  They aren’t guiding you to your True Self.

If you follow the “looking good” program, you feel calm, unemotional.  If you rebel or ignore the “looking good” program, you feel bad (guilty).  This is what I’ve labeled “psychological reversal.”  Your emotions aren’t guiding you down your perfect path; they’re forcing you to obey your false God (the composite of your authority figures).

We often see people who are unemotional, and we think they must be their True Selves.  But often they’re just blindly following their own inner programs to the letter.  They’re highly psychologically reversed with great “looking good” programs.  They’re always very rigid and hold their beliefs as right.  Anyone who disagrees with them is just plain wrong.

Your authority figures also installed reward and punishment programs within your mental computer.  These programs say:  “If you don’t follow the rules, you’re bad.  People will scold you, tell you you’re bad and wrong, or hurt your body.  You deserve it.”  So when you break the authority’s rules, even in adulthood when the authority is no longer in your life, you punish yourself.

This is a real important issue for readers of this blog.  Most of you are already breaking the rules of your parents, teachers, and clergy.  You can’t help it because your True Self is calling you.  You know they fed you lies.  But you still have the beliefs and programs (rules, rewards, and punishments) inside your mind.  So when you move toward the truth or step on your perfect path, you’re simultaneously rebelling against your own false mind (false God), which punishes you accordingly.

 

Undoing the damage

We undo “actions speak louder than words” programs by questioning our own actions and spoken words.  It’s Sunday and you go to church because you fear punishment if you don’t make an appearance.  The fear arises, and going to church alleviates the fear; but going to church also feels bad because you’re overriding your True Self with someone else’s beliefs.  Jesus called this worshipping two masters.

If you peek under the rug (the action or the proper spoken words), you find the belief (the inner words) that says you must go to church.  Beliefs often have “must” or “should” in them.  The True Self doesn’t demand.  Often you’ll remember the authority who installed the rule in your mental computer.  You’ll feel the emotion that you felt when you accepted their belief, as well as more emotion for each time you followed their belief.  The emotion you feel is proof that the belief isn’t true.  You’ve been following a belief that didn’t feel good because you feared punishment that didn’t exist except in the mind of your authority figures.

Truth always lacks emotion.  If you witness (observe) the belief and emotion with the recognition that their false, they’ll go away.  Your True Self dissolves beliefs this way.  But it can take awhile, so don’t rush it.  It’s gone when you clearly see the truth and feel calm.

 

In Summary

Before you do any unconscious action, stop yourself and ask, “Why am I doing this?”  You’ll find your causal beliefs this way.   You unknowingly accepted the beliefs/programs, and you can now take them out.  Then, you’ll no longer need the actions.  In fact, they’ll look silly.  Your actions will match your spoken and unspoken words.