I Don’t Know What I (They) Believe?

BELIEFS

By Cathy Eck

 

What Do I Believe?

People often say to me, “I don’t know what I believe.”  They also say, “I don’t have any beliefs.”  These two comments are the main reason the illusion thrives.

The fact that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality was hidden for a very long time.  During that time, people accepted all kinds of beliefs as explanations for how life worked.  In more recent times, it became known that our thoughts do create our reality; but we simply put that truth on top of our already accepted beliefs.  People try to consciously control their mind to get what they want.  Sometimes they think one thing and say another; that causes projection, which causes relationship hell.  Or they say something they don’t like, and then say, “I don’t believe that,” or “Cancel.”  

If we really don’t believe something, we won’t think it or say it.  We don’t have to cancel our words.  In fact, as we move toward freedom, we find it impossible to be incongruent.  Our thoughts, words, and actions will all line up.  Then we often realize that we still have beliefs that people don’t like when we speak truthfully.  We have to let those beliefs go too.

 

Who’s Creating Our Life?

People of all religions say,  “When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,”  Even atheists say it.  But no one asks a very important question, “Who in the hell is life?”  “Who gave us those fucking lemons?”  A religious person might say, “God tempted us;” a New Ager might say, “The universe taught us a lesson.”  But the comment implies that we didn’t create our life.  We aren’t free if we don’t create our life.  We’re Life’s slaves.

If we’ve accepted complete responsibility for our lemons, we’d say, “I gave myself lemons, so I made lemonade.”  But no one says that.  One of the best ways to find beliefs about anything is to find out why we say what we say.

When someone dies, we say: “Now they’re in a better place.”  Really!  We don’t know that.  What we know is that their body is in the ground or an urn.  We don’t have a clue where their mind/spirit went.  If we think/speak that belief, we believe something like earth ain’t so great.  We can’t get beyond suffering unless we die.

Now people will say to me, “I don’t really believe that shit.  I just said that because I wanted them to feel better.”  You’re trapped.  First of all, you’re taking responsibility for their emotions; their emotions are caused by their thinking.  If you say what another wants to hear, you’re putting them in the masculine role.  You’re giving them power to create in your life because what they want to hear is more important than what you want to say.

Our social protocol is carefully designed to make sure that we have no power over Life.  Listen to what you say, and you’ll uncover hidden beliefs.  Listen to what others say, and you’ll discover what they believe.  The mystery drains from Life real quick.

 

Why Did I Say That?

If we’ve had religious or self-help training, we often train our mind to be quiet or to say the right things.  But trained quiet isn’t real quiet.   Being trained to say the right things might be automatic, but it’s not authentic.  It’s the effect of being highly socialized.  The highly socialized no longer speak what they believe or think; they speak what they believe others want to hear.  Some people have told me that they actually put their attention so completely in other people’s minds that they know what that person wants to hear.  They’re proud of this when they should feel horrible.  I suspect that it’s what most psychics do, but they don’t realize they’re doing it.  Quite honestly, we don’t have any business in another person’s mind.

Letting go of our fake social beliefs is very important.  We’re then admitting that our True Self is what belongs in society.  What doesn’t belong are social customs designed to make everyone alike and predictable.

The highly socialized do what is politically correct even if they resent it.  Their Universe or God or Life isn’t some supernatural being although they’ll say they’re trying to please God.  Their false God is actually everyone they’re trying to please — a whole shitload of human beings.  They live life as if everyone is God and they’re no one…a slave trying to please humanity.

Waking up requires us to realize that what humans want from us is not what God wants from us.  We don’t know what God wants from us unless we’re living from our True Self; we only know what others have said God wants from us.  They say that God rewards and punishes…nope, people do that.  They say God judges; no, people do.  The biggest trap is created by people who tell us that God wants what actually fulfills their needs and desires while simultaneously keeping us small and submissive.  This doesn’t just happen in big business, big religions, or government, it happens in families.

 

Fake Gratitude

When I was an entrepreneur, I felt thankful for the business that came my way.  I told my clients, not God, what they meant to me.  My words came from within; they were authentic.  Today, I bank at Wells Fargo; they train their employees to pretend gratitude.  It never feels good.  My son and I will do anything to avoid having to talk to a teller.  But most people don’t feel so they think the person means what they say.  Robots applaud other robots.

The reason that our false self says or does anything is because it was taught to do it.  It’s a robot.  When we take the memory out of a robot, we get nothing.  When we take the robotic memory out of a person, we get the truth…an authentic human being.

 

 

 

 

 

Are They Authentic or Just a Perfect Persona?

Manure Pile and beliefs

By Cathy Eck

 

Authentic or Bullshit

My dad sends me some really stupid emails — I tell him that all the time.  But he was a nuclear engineer; so he thinks that he’s making conversation when he forwards an email.  Besides it gives me things to write about.

He recently sent me a copy of a discussion between two people who were trying to decide who was more authentic, George W. Bush or Barack Obama.  That’s pretty much like trying to decide whether a dog or a cat is more insect like.  It’s a useless discussion with no potential resolution or benefit.  But it brings up an interesting point:  How do we know if someone is authentic?

The truth is that the biggest liars have become quite accomplished at looking authentic.  Clear communication, lack of emotion, and happiness are qualities of the True Self, but they’re also qualities of highly perfected personas.

On the other hand, while we’re purifying our mind, we often get highly emotional when someone says something false, causing us to look like the flawed one.  Eventually, we reach a place where we know that anything false is powerless so we don’t need our emotions to explode like atom bombs.  But it’s always that awkward phase in between that gets us in trouble.

It seems that this has been a common problem throughout time.  Even Plato discussed it in his discourses on the legendary lost continent of Atlantis.  He said that those in power had too much “mortal admixture.”  The masses couldn’t tell who was truthful from those who had selfish intentions.  This caused the destruction of the continent.  We’re in the very same place today.

 

Knowing a True Self

In truth, we can only know if we’re authentic.  That’s the best use of our time and energy.  When we know our mind, we know when someone else’s thoughts enter.  We feel our emotions more easily.  We can catch and deflect the projections that those poker-faced personalities send our way.   I’ve discovered that as I clean out my mind, it’s easier to discern if another is being authentic or just blowing some sweet-smelling smoke.  Of course, they don’t like being exposed, but we’ll save that for another post.

I used to wonder if we all signed some sort of pact a few thousand years ago that said, “I won’t expose your false self if you don’t expose mine.”  Then I realized that a pact isn’t necessary.  When we hold lots of beliefs in our mind, we don’t catch the lies of others until it’s far too late because we can’t distinguish our thoughts from their thoughts.  That’s why the first exercise I give to people I mentor is to start watching their own mind 24/7.

People, who benefit from the illusion, support social skills where we focus on and care what others think instead of what we think.  That way we become gullible targets for those wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Our false selves have been highly trained to look at what people do.  We see a person hug a baby, and we think they’re nice.  Someone gives a vet a job, and they’re good.  But Charles Manson could hug a baby; he could also give a vet a job.  People who do things for show aren’t stupid; they know what to do to get the biggest bang for their buck.  They know how to work the collective mind.

Our false selves need validation.  The two people having the discussion, in my dad’s forwarded email, each thought that their favorite politician was authentic because they sounded like them.  False selves are insecure; they seek constant support.  That’s why our false self love to gossip or judge others.  A common enemy feels like power and mutual support.  The false self has to constantly support its position of rightness, or it will realize that it’s wrong.

 

What’s the lesson?

We must remember the reason that we have emotions.  They’re not to determine good and evil or right and wrong people.  They’re to decide if the particular belief or thought, which is our point of focus right now, is true or false.  Our emotions are actually highly impersonal — they are simply very good lie detectors.

If someone says, “All dogs of Republicans should have blue hair and Democratic dogs should have pink hair,”  we notice how their statement feels.  If it feels bad, it simply means don’t believe them.  It doesn’t mean color-coded dogs are bad or wrong for the believer; it means they aren’t right for us.  Our True Self is giving the thumbs down to their statement.  That’s all.

Somewhere along the way, most of us fell for the trap that we aren’t being nice if we expose someone’s belief as a belief.  We’re bad if we don’t support their false self.  In truth, we’re truly good (with no hidden opposite) only when we don’t support false selves.  Being nice to false selves keeps the illusion running.  Our false self should embarrass us, not get us approval.  We were designed by our cosmic designer to discriminate; we were given emotions to keep our minds pure.

When we realize that beliefs have NO power of their own, we easily ignore them.  We don’t fear beliefs of others, nor do we condone them.  Whether the person is authentic or not doesn’t matter that much.  We stop judging false selves when we see them as powerless; we just ignore them or correct them.  Life gets much easier.

The key to living an authentic life is to drop our own false self.  Then we can live in the world, among the most crazy false selves, and not fall into their trap.  We can even play in their world for a bit, and then exit when we’ve had enough.  In short, we no longer need to worry about whether someone else is authentic, because we’ve got our own authentic best friends with us all the time — our True Self and our emotional lie detector.