By Cathy Eck
In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels. I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad. The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.
The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins. Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.
Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles. However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role. The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives. Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.
Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth. The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth. The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light. Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light. These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical. It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love. But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them. She won’t be in heaven anymore.
The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven. But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem. Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun. They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.
As adults, we step into bigger roles. A wife is still usually feminine to her husband. An employee is feminine to the boss. A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor. When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light. But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.
Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance. They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine. This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.
The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight. They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.
As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content. But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.
Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food. When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish. You think you deserve to eat like me.” The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction. The slave believes the authority and backs off. He’s been trained to do so. This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.
The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.
Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world. So let’s look at another example. The wife says she’s going for a walk alone. The husband feels left out. So he throws his baggage on her back. He says, “You’re so demanding.” Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?” In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.
Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election. The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition. It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.
Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler. When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily. When we learn to let go, the game no longer works. This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.
The New Leader
We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go. Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem. I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in. Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice. Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection. Big problems would disappear very quickly. The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.
This type of leader existed long ago. I hope to bring this old way of leading back. But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate. We can start wherever we are. Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example. We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections. The feminine will finally be free.
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