Getting Real About Your Life: The Secret to Creativity

Creativity

By Cathy Eck

 

Creativity

Creativity occurs in the gap between our vision and our reality.  Ideally, that gap is constantly diminishing.  That’s when we enjoy our journey.

In business, I loved creating an insane challenge and then fulfilling it.  In technology, the value of a computer system was measured in years.  A three-to-five year payback on investment was normal at that time.  I promised a one-year payback.  My normal system, which was more expensive than the competition, paid for itself in three-to-six months.

Bringing down the payback period taught me a valuable lesson.  Much of my success was the vision I set for each project.  What I must share, however, is that no one believed my vision was possible.  Even the companies that hired me would say, “Yea right.  You can’t do that.”  They couldn’t do it, but I knew I could.  Only in hindsight, do I understand why.

 

Fantasy

People tend to fall into two groups.  The first group lives in the fantasy world.  They say their affirmations and focus on the positive.  They daydream of better days while ignoring the reality that they don’t believe they can achieve those days.  The extreme metaphor for these people are lottery players.  Their life is so dismal that they believe that the only way out is to win something that has one chance in a million.  These people usually have right-brain oriented views of life.  They tend to visualize, talk all the time, and philosophize, but don’t get much done.  They use cognitive dissonance to bridge gaps in their belief systems.  When their reasoning breaks down, they usually insert an angel, a miracle, or fate.  They manufacture religions.

 

Realism

The other group is so grounded in reality that their face is stuck in the mud.  They tend to be left brainers.  They get shit done, but often make a mess of things when they do it.  They have good memories, which they use on others to bring up things they did thirty years ago.  If science doesn’t have the answer, there’s no answer.  Nothing exists beyond reality.  Incurable is their death sentence.  They create lots of problems and want rewarded when they fix their own problems.  They get a small reprieve after they fix something — a brief moment of satisfaction.  Then something else breaks.  They argue for political, religious, or any one-sided point of view until they make everyone around them want to vomit.  These are the scientists that waste time and money proving their reality is the truth.

The place of creativity isn’t in either extreme.  Remember the old triangle process (above).  Creativity, and all the other joys of life, are at the top of the triangle.  Fantasy and Harsh Reality live at the bottom.

 

Enjoying The Journey to the Top

Creativity lives at the top of the triangle.  To get there, we must get honest about our current reality.  That’s our starting place.  It isn’t what we deserve, it sure as hell isn’t something we need to accept, and it isn’t something we need to face for very long.  It’s an honest assessment of our current situation.  Fantasy, the other side of the triangle, is where we want to be.  It might look possible or impossible.  That doesn’t matter.  When we bring together the right recipe of these two ingredients, and we let go, we ride the creative wave to the top.

Anyone who appears to have natural talent rides that wave every day, but often only in one aspect of their life.  I could thrive among the best in my field because I knew I could.  I didn’t “know” because I thumped my chest every morning while looking in the mirror and mimicking Tony Robbins.  I didn’t believe I could.  In fact, I actually had no beliefs that I couldn’t.  (Although after watching “The Wolf of Wall Street,” I tried out the chant-chest thump technique; I gotta admit, it was kind of fun. It made me feel like a he-man.)

 

Letting Go

I left the business and technology world because I wanted to learn why that worked for me and why others couldn’t do it.  I also wondered why I couldn’t do that in every aspect of my life.

It was clearly something in people’s minds that veiled their natural gifts.  I only had to find out how to reverse that man-made error.

First, I got painfully real.  Most of the world believes they have no talent.  Most people feel like pawns with no chance of fulfilling their dreams.  Most people have strong religious and family-cultural beliefs that they view as the truth.  Most of the world accepts their reality as God ordered.  There’s more, but you get the idea.  That was my “Get Real.”  Now I was done with getting real — just needed my accurate and honest starting point.

Now what’s my vision?  This was the question I wanted to solve.  How can every person unveil their unique expression, gifts and talents, and true perspective?  But I also had other conditions that clarified an acceptable answer.  I wanted the answer to be something anyone could do — not just MENSA members, not just those belonging to certain religions or clubs, and not just rich people.  It had to be win-win and possible for everyone on the planet.  It had to be simple, able to be done alone, and easy to remember.  Pretty high stakes.

Fifteen years later, I had the technique.  It met all of those conditions.  But I had to let go of a zillion beliefs to get there.  What appears to be a God-given gift or talent is actually a black holes in our mind where we have few or no beliefs.  That’s all.  Letting go, not cognitive dissonance, removes the gap between our vision and our reality.

Our beliefs rest between our get real and our vision like a big block of granite.  We keep chipping away at those beliefs with our little chisel.  One day, there’s nothing left.  We’re free.

 

 

 

Desires … How Do You Know If They Are Real?

True SElf Desires

By Cathy Eck

 

False Desires

I used to have a fear of desires.  I often got something I thought I wanted or needed only to find that what I got wasn’t right for me.  I felt stuck with my manifestations.  That became exacerbated when I took a life detour into the positive thinking movement.  Later, I dropped that mind game when I realized that I was actually creating a very powerful, destructive belief.  Eventually, I would have to say positive affirmations before I took a breath.  I tried a few more techniques like gratitude and visualization before realizing that techniques look good in the short run, but they make a mess of your life and your mind in the long run.  I was cured.

But I was confused between true desires and false desires.  I decided not to desire anything for awhile.  Then my life drifted aimlessly down a path of boredom.  Having no desires wasn’t the answer either.  Looking back, I hit a place where I didn’t want false self desires anymore, and I didn’t yet have access to my True Self.

When I stepped on this quest for freedom, a vision mysteriously appeared in my mind.  It actually seemed too good to be true, and it felt unemotional and calm.  At that time, I was afraid it was a false self temptation.  I thought the lack of emotion meant it was bad.  I tried and tried to let it go.  We can’t let go of True Self desires.  Twenty years later, it’s still there; and I haven’t completely fulfilled it.  But it’s getting closer.

That desire was crucial on my journey to freedom.  It caused my beliefs to arise.  It caused me to take risks in letting go.  For the fun of it, I’ve since put some false self desires in my mind.  I let go of my beliefs regarding those desires, and they always disappear.

When we’re letting go to manifest, we don’t need to know if a desire is True or false.  I can’t say too often that the best thing about living life this way is that you CAN’T screw it up.  On the other hand, fulfulling desires with willpower, rituals, and forced action is the cause of every problem on this planet — every one.

We don’t need to analyze our desires if we’re letting go.  But here are some observations from my experience.

The fastest way to vet a desire is to ask ourself some questions like:  Why do I want the desire?  What does the fulfillment of this desire mean?  What does it mean if I don’t fulfill the desire?

 

Emotions

If a desire is false, we’re often trying to get rid of our emotions.  It appears that the fulfilled desire will relieve them.  It doesn’t.  The emotions were caused by our beliefs, not the unfulfilled desires.  If we have emotions and desire money, it’s the belief that we don’t have enough money that generates the emotions.  This is why rich people have the disease of “never enough.”  They never get rid of the belief in lack.  They just keep fixing the effect.

Emotions are a red flag of false desires.  Our false self feeds off of emotions.  If it can label an emotion good, we’ll generate unlimited emotional food.

Positive emotions are a major illusion trap.  Emotions are a “warning signal” to tell us when our thinking is off.  They aren’t positive or negative; it’s the labels that make them so.   Emotions like hope, excitement, romance, even passion and conditional love are all signs that we’re chasing a false dream.  Our True Self is like still waters — it’s calm.

 

True Desires

The only way to know if a desire is true is to keep letting go until you get the desire or it disappears.  True desires match the characteristics of the True Self; we alone have the talent and wisdom to achieve them.

Usually our True Self desires seem too obvious.  People try to turn them into a mission or purpose.  The True Self just wants to enjoy life and create in its own unique way.  Take someone like Oprah.  Her True Self loves to ask questions, and she’s damn good at it.  But when she takes her True Self gift and tries to fix the world, she jumps around and screams a lot.  She becomes over the top with excitement.  That’s her false self hijacking her True Self.

True Self desires are win-win.  They’re harmless to others.  Being the Wolf of Wall Street can’t be a True Self desire.  Co-creating abundance with others in a  win-win manner could very well be a True Self desire.  Often people are expressing their True Self in their current work or hobbies, but they don’t know it.  This happened to me with my technology business.  I cleaned out every belief that was win-lose about that business.  Suddenly, my mundane company was unique, successful, and fun.  My True Self was happy but not for life.  It eventually got another desire.  It’s the false self that likes to put us in a box for life.

False selves will label our True Self things like selfish, arrogant, or a lazy.  They’ll say they aren’t serving humanity.  They’ll say we’re wasting time because we’re not in action.  The judgement of false selves can hurt a lot unless you realize the emotion you feel when they say what they say proves that their words aren’t true.   You let their words go, and they don’t trap you or hold you back.  The illusion is 180 degrees from the truth.  People in the illusion won’t understand you.  It’s normal.

True Self desires are often difficult to unveil.  But once we do, we’ve got the ticket that will take us all the way to freedom.  We just keep chipping away at every belief about the desire.  Eventually we’ll find that our True Self, freedom, the fulfillment of our desires, and Heaven on Earth are simply different ways of saying the exact same thing.

Getting Through the Tunnel of Lack to Find Real Abundance

Light at the end of the tunnel

By Cathy Eck

 

We all realize that abundance is true.  Even televangelists talk of our right to abundance these days.  Yet often the path to freedom takes us through periods of lack.  We wonder what we’re doing wrong.  We’re actually doing something right.

Once we U-turn and accept the path of initiation, the seeming problems in our life are there to push us to let go.  To get to abundance, we must let go of the normal perspective of rich and poor (triangle process).  We’re taught that rich people are free.  Money buys happiness.  Not true!

Abundance isn’t the same as wealth or riches.  Abundance has no opposite.  It’s the normal state of having everything that we want and desire.  But abundance doesn’t include excess.  It doesn’t include saving for a rainy day because the True Self doesn’t have rainy days.  Abundance is simple.

 

Fixing Causes

Initiation is about fixing causes, not effects. To understand this, watch an episode of, “Keeping Up With the Kardashians.” If they argue, they fix the relationship with gifts. Wreck their car, a new one is in the driveway before the sun sets. Need to lose weight, they hire a personal trainer, chef, and therapist. When we fix problems with money and experts, we’re living from wealth, not abundance.  We think the money buys freedom; but the rich are usually the furthest from true freedom.  The more we fix our problems with money, the more we veil our causal beliefs.  Lack pushes us to let go.

When we fix a problem’s effect, the problem still exists as a potential in our mind.  Often we project that problem on to others because our mind says it no longer applies to us.  We fixed it.  It’s hard for me to convince people to let go of problems that they believe they’ve fixed because the remedies of the illusion have gotten so quick and so good.  People say to me, “Shit Cathy I already fixed this with medication, surgery, or positive thinking.”  “I just want to keep taking the drugs, doing the exercises, or going to the healer.”  If we fear the problem coming back, or have to take or do something to manage it, we haven’t removed the cause.  The false self will do anything to avoid exposure; it doesn’t believe in letting go because it wants to stay alive and in control of our body and life.

If we let go of the cause of any problem, we’ll  never experience it again; we’ll be able to help others let it go until eventually that problem doesn’t exist for anyone anymore.  That’s true service of the highest level.

Our True Self, once we allow it back into our life, knows that our beliefs must be exposed and battled for us to live a free life. We won’t have incentive to let go of causal beliefs if we fix our problems with money.  So lack enters our life to keep us from being tempted.

We’re often overwhelmed with fear and powerlessness when lack enters our reality.  That’s good.  If we follow our emotions with our attention, we’ll find the causal beliefs.  Then we just have to remember to let go.  Our mind might tells us that we need help from others. It will fear that we’ll be homeless.  It embarrasses us.  We might fear that we’re being punished by God.  Thoughts of unfairness or injustice often arise. We might blame others for our situation. These thoughts are all false, but they look and feel true because we’re psychologically reversed on the subject of money — we think the emotion we feel is proving our beliefs true when it’s actually reminding us that our beliefs are false.

If we battle our mind and defeat those psychological reversals, the lack will disappear. But this time we’ve fixed the cause not the effect.  We won’t experience lack again.  We won’t even fear it coming back.  That’s abundance.

 

Losing Motivation

Initiates lose their external motivation. We used to be able to drag our asses out of bed every day to work for the man. Now, we can’t.  We can’t find the willpower to obey the rules of society — work hard, suffer with a smile, and pay your debts.  We often feel worthless or start to wonder who we really are because our mind tries to figure out why we’re in this situation.  Most people lose their outer motivation before their inner motivation kicks in.

Quitting the job we detest gives us the time to sit quietly and let go.  Ideally, we let go until action is inspired.  Freedom, not wealth, has become our new north star.  But often we go through a long dark tunnel of lack before we see the light of abundance.  Our mind makes letting go difficult as it reminds us of our dangerous reality.  We must remember that our reality is the effect of our beliefs — not the truth.  We have to keep letting go if we want to get through that tunnel.

 

Losing Approval

Often our old way of making a living earned us approval or avoided disapproval.  We may have felt virtuous for working hard. We might have improved lives in an illusory service role based on fixing effects.  Now we feel lazy, worthless, and selfish.  The false self is working overtime to win back control.

Our friends and family will usually offer false-self support.  Misery does love company in the illusion.  It might appear that the world doesn’t want our gifts or talents.  This phase can feel incredibly lonely.

 

When we step on the path to freedom, we meet all the beliefs we accepted in the past.  The road to hell is paved with beliefs — lack is a hot topic for the false self.  But we don’t get to return to heaven on earth without retracing all of our false steps.  We must refrain from trying to detour.  We keep letting go; and one day, our mind is free.  Abundance is the only possible reality.

Human Dream, American Dream, or Elitism?

Elitism or American Dream

By Cathy Eck

 

American Dream

Recently, people were asked, “What is the American Dream? Was their still an American Dream?”

Most people said that if you work hard, you get rewarded.  Others said that it was about having a job — any job.  Some said it was not being homeless.  The answers to the question had a pretty low threshold.  As a child, I was taught to believe that America was the land of opportunity, where dreams could come true.  But the notion that America is the land of dreams doesn’t make sense.

We’re told to think that we need outer freedom in order to have inner freedom.  That’s backwards;  inner freedom produces outer freedom.

The American Dream (or the human dream) needs serious redefining. The entire dream mentality is covered with win-lose mental vomit.  Those who have succeeded in fulfilling their dreams in the past came to hold an elitist mentality.  They felt that their accomplishment took them out of the illusion.  They got an exemption from reaping the shit that their own beliefs had sown.  They convinced us that they could pass that exemption on to their children.  And they became quite accomplished at projecting their beliefs on to others since their power caused people to believe any old thing they said.

Thus wealth, fame, or royalty carried with it an unspoken exemption from the ordinary problems of life.  It buys false power, but it doesn’t buy true freedom, peace, or joy.  The only love they get is false love and blind worship.  Lady Di did us the favor of exposing the illusion that marrying a prince is happily ever after.  Sorry Cinderella — the physical prince isn’t the answer.

 

False Freedom

Within the illusion, everyone feels powerless; what we think we want is to be heard and to have our rules followed even if they are selfish and harm others.  We want our religion to be the one.  We want our country to be the biggest and best.  We want everyone to say, “You are the ONE.”

But that’s not freedom.  Even the most powerful in the illusion are always aware that they could fall like Humpty Dumpty at any moment.  Elitism only has the power that others give it.  Strip away those worshippers, fans, and faithful followers; and they lose it all in the blink of an eye.

That’s why it often looks like there’s an elite conspiracy.  The winners want to keep their beliefs in power because that’s all the power they have.  They fear exposure more than anything else in the world.  Exposure is death to the false self.  We’re their worst enemy when we see clearly that the emperor has no clothes.

Real freedom happens when you let go of the illusion.  As you stop feeding it, it loses power.  At first it loses power over you; but then you help others; and it loses power over them.  Eventually, it loses power over lots of people; and then what happens?

Look at who loses if the guy sitting on top of the elite’s power pyramid loses the very illusion that holds him or her up.  They fall on thine ass.  Their lack of real power is exposed.  The elite have all the beliefs that you and I have.  They just top their manure with Haagen-Dazs.  As long as we give their “Your Special” beliefs power, they win.  When we stop, they lose everything that made them special.  And it might be the best thing that ever happened to them.

The reason we often resist giving up our beliefs that “they’re special” is because we’ve not yet let go of the hope that we might one day be special.  We must realize that we don’t want elite specialness because it has no true value.  Then it’s easy to let go.

 

Level Confusion

When one is an elitist, they view themselves above the trash heap of the world.  As we let go, something different happens.

Our level confusion comes undone.  At first, the illusion seems oppressive and huge.  But if we keep realizing it isn’t true, we see through the illusion.  We aren’t impressed by or afraid of false selves in power.   Our mind sees causes; and we heal the causes, not the effects.  We come into contact with those we can help, and we don’t come into contact with those we can’t help.  Life does the sorting, not our mind.

The elite no longer look powerful, strong, or brave; they look lost and powerless.  Men that used to look big and scary, look small and weak.  You can see who they’ve chosen to be.  It’s sad because you know they’re not that stupid mask, and you want to rip it off and love them.  But often, they’re afraid of losing their mask — it’s all they’ve got; and you look like an enemy if you expose them.  But if you don’t expose them, they’ll never get real freedom, joy, or love.

They aren’t evil at the core; they just don’t feel the emotions that their own thoughts are creating until you stop accepting them.  When you stand in your True Self, their false self is defeated.  They become (holy shit — I’m going to use the N word)  NORMAL.

We start by letting go of our beliefs (the ones they convinced us were true), and we become our True Selves — the place where we’re all equal and valuable.  When there is enough real people in the world, the pyramid of power will cave in and life will be fair again, borders will fall, and love will reign.

As people let go of the illusion, they get creative.  They aren’t trying to solve problems; they’re innovating something new.  They gather others of like mind or talent, and they make dreams come true.  That’s the human dream — to express our gifts and talents, to share them with the world, and to contribute in a way that’s win-win for everyone.  And that can happen anywhere — not just in America.

 

Fire, Passion, and Desire

Calaveras Big Tree National Park

By Cathy Eck

 

Calaveras Big Trees National Park

I recently took a day trip to Calaveras Big Trees National park in California.  The park is home to some of the remaining giant sequoias — the world’s largest trees.  These trees are so amazing.  When you’re underneath them, you feel the same calmness that you feel from a wise elder.  The largest sequoia is 275 feet tall and 36.5 feet in diameter.  The oldest tree lived for 3200 years.

The most enlightening fact that I learned about the Big Trees was that they need exposure to fire at certain times in their life cycle in order to thrive.  Before humans arrived, fires were started, mostly by lightning; those fires might burn uninterrupted for months at a time.  The first people to arrive in this area, over 12,000 years ago, understood this cycle; they adapted to it.  They realized that the fire improved their own food supply, gave them better materials, and opened travel routes.  But modern humans build permanent houses; we obviously don’t want our houses destroyed.  So we put out the fires the giant trees need to survive.

These long-living trees aren’t harmed by the fire.  The fire burns out the competition for water and sunlight.  Without the fire, the forests become unhealthy and overcrowded.  The forest rangers are now looking for ways to create small controlled fires.  In this way, they can keep the trees alive and not destroy the nearby houses and other buildings.

 

Fire as a Symbol

Fire has always been associated with the sun for obvious reasons.  Since the ancient people viewed the sun as the perfect metaphor for God, because it gave light, warmth, and was unconditional, fire came to represent God or pure divine energy.  Fire also symbolizes the energy of passion and desire.  And it’s equated with emotions that flow outward such as anger, hatred, jealousy, and rage.  Fire is yang and assertive in nature; it’s masculine energy.

If our desires comes from our True Self, our fire is in balance; we offer our best to others and the world.  On the other hand, if we’re passionate about achieving false desires and winning at the expense of others, our fire is burning out of control.

Likewise, when beliefs fill our mind that restrict our true desires or passion, our fire can’t burn.  We drown our fire with the water of emotion.

 

The Message of Fire and the Big Trees

If the giant sequoia does thrive and live a long life, they’re among others trees; but they stand alone, independent.  Likewise, codependence, and the emotions that go with trying to please others, often restricts our own growth.  Their weeds choke out our life force.

Too often, people feel responsible for another’s emotions.  The truth is that our emotions are the feminine reflection of our own masculine mind.  When we join another in sympathy, we usually strengthen their beliefs and drown with them.  We put out our fire trying to put out their fire.  In truth, they just might need a long-burning fire to destroy their weeds.

If we’re emotional or overly sensitive, it’s time to look very hard at our desires or trim back our beliefs.  Sadly, some religions and philosophies prescribe just the opposite.  They tell people to trim their desires and believe their beliefs.  In this way, they pour water on our fire.

 

Level Confusion

The metaphor of the giant sequoia trees is ripe for level confusion.  The typically physically-focused person would look at the sequoia’s need for fire and relate it to people.  They’d say, “Yes, this is a message that when population is too big, we suffocate each other.”  They’d take it as proof for the survival-of-the-fittest theory.  They’d suggest getting rid of the little people so the big ones can thrive.  They’d even condemn people for building permanent homes.

Symbolism is harmful and ineffective when it is interpreted at the purely physical level. It causes people to see others as the problem.  Then the problem can’t be solved.  Symbolism unites only when we apply it to our minds.

Symbols, just like emotions, always point inward.  They show us what to let go, not where to go or what to do.  For the trees to grow very old and very large, they need the support of fire.  If their life force (fire energy) is strong, they’re not consumed by the fire, they’re nourished by it.  Mythology often talks about disasters destroying people and places.  But it also talks about the connected ones (who had the fire of God within) and knew what was coming.  They either had the power to endure it or the foresight to move out of the way.  When we don’t have pure inner fire, we can’t endure the outer fire.  Our beliefs or weeds steal too much of our life force.

Fire is assertive.  When our fire is from the True Self, we’re a contribution to the earth.  We give more than we take.   Our unconditional True Self burns away the beliefs that keep people sick, suffering, or enslaved.  The giant sequoia isn’t suffering or sacrificing as it grows; it is just doing what comes naturally.  It’s inspired from within so nature removes what could harm it from without.

Weeds (or beliefs) take far more than they give.  They keep us from reaching our true potential.  Beliefs block our true fire, our real power.  Like the weeds, they take all the nutrients and give nothing back.  When they arise, with their powerful flood of emotion, we must face them, not fear them.  We must let them know that they are false, and they have no power.  Each time we do that, we are purified by the fire of truth and wisdom.  One day, we’re the tallest tree in the forest — not by force of will but by force of nature.

 

 

Keeping Score the Right Way

Be Yourself

By Cathy Eck

 

Keeping Score

Recently, a man called me because he saw my business card on a health food store bulletin board.  He shared with me that he was bisexual and dressed in women’s clothing.  He felt the discomfort of other people’s judgment when he dared to do what felt joyful to him.  We talked for a few minutes; and it was clear to me that this wasn’t a judgmental person.  In fact, I could tell that he worked hard not to judge others because he’d experienced the sting of being judged so often himself.  I found him very likable right away.

It was completely apparent that this man was a really good person inside — something that’s common among my readers.  But he was keeping score based on what others thought of him, and he wasn’t “normal.”  He was different.  So his scorekeepers gave him a consistently low score.

As long as he continued to value the score that others gave him, he was going to come out short.  He’d feel out of control, an outcast, and a loser at life because he was honoring a false score sheet.

But if he kept score based on his own thoughts about others, he’d find that he was a damn good player of the life game.  He’d have incentive to become even less judgmental and more loving regardless of how others treated him.  And if he learned to let go of his belief that others could judge him or that he was bad or wrong, he’d find that he had the potential to be a true winner at the life game.

 

Everybody Wins

Most people are keeping score based on fame, power, money, or material possessions.  People who live outside the status quo don’t fair well in that game.  That game can only have a few winners.

On the other hand, everyone can win when they keep score of the purity of their own mind once they learn how to let go.   Each day, their mind gets a little freer, they judge others less, and they love more.  As they do this, they become authentic; the authentic person has no competition.  They always win.

When we see authentic improvement in ourselves, we realize that we’re truly good people; we do have incredible value.  When we stop caring what others think of us, our natural joy flows unobstructed from the inside.

I struggled with this problem for such a long time.  Once I discovered letting go, I spent time each day letting go of my judgments and beliefs about myself and others.  I became more unconditionally loving inside.  But people couldn’t see that my mind was becoming freer or more loving.  They still judged my looks or the fact that I didn’t do what they wanted me to do.  They still saw me as different or unusual.  Their memories of the old me screamed so loudly that they couldn’t see past them.  I believed that my freedom required them to let go of their beliefs about me.  But I was wrong.

My naturally good self wasn’t good in their illusory perspective where good is defined based on rules and social protocol.  How I felt during that time was directly related to my poor scorekeeping.  Allowing other people’s score of me to dominate my mind caused me so much pain and agony.  I felt that I didn’t want to live on the planet.

Then I changed my way of keeping score.  I focused on my own mind and let go of thought after thought to see if I could unconditionally love those that didn’t love me.  They were not willing to let me off the hook, but I was willing to let them off the hook.  I felt better and freer and my inner score continued to improve.  Soon most of the people who judged me disappeared from my life; and quite frankly, I didn’t miss any of them.  But I did feel complete with them because I saw their True Self in my own mind even if they weren’t willing to be that yet.

I decided that my purpose in life would be to make my mind a pure space where people could join me in being themselves.  I would create a safe place where people wouldn’t be judged for being their True Selves, where letting go and freedom would be supported and honored.

 

Be Yourself

No Matter how ornate your mask, your True Self is much more beautiful.

 

It was out of that realization that the business card at the top of this post was born several years ago.  I chose the green mask because it was so beautiful.  Recently, I decided to paint  the mask.  I wanted to get to know this woman who had adorned the front of my card for several years.  As I worked on every little detail in her face, I began to see the beauty under the mask; she became real and authentic.

I realized that we can’t see in others beyond the level of our own authenticity.  If we’re wearing a mask, we don’t see with pure eyes.  If we aren’t wearing a mask, even a mask has truth and beingness.  Likewise, when others are wearing a mask, they can’t see us.

So keeping score of our own mind is truly the only method of scorekeeping that makes sense.  We wouldn’t rate our physical sight based on a blind friend reading an eye chart for us, but that is exactly what we’re doing when we allow someone else to judge us or tell us whether we are good or worthy.  Their criteria for goodness simply doesn’t apply to us.

When we strive to be more ourselves each day and use the right method of keeping score, life starts to make sense.  We find even the most ornate mask easy to drop.  Our unique True Self is clearly much more beautiful.  As our score improves, the judgment of others disappears.  We can’t imagine being anyone other than our Self.

How Do You Fulfill Desires?

How do you get what you want

By Cathy Eck

 

Desires Aren’t the Enemy

According to the ancient initiates, when we live from our True Self, our desires and our thoughts/beliefs become so perfectly congruent that we easily fulfill desires.  But if we live from a fabricated false self, then we try to follow beliefs and fulfill desires of others.  We aren’t naturally equipped to fulfill desires that aren’t our own, so we need hard work or willpower.  It’s our free will choice which way we live.

Most people have a belief system of some sort, and they fulfill desires pretty well if they follow their belief system to the letter.  If we like our beliefs and aren’t harming others, there isn’t a problem with having a belief system.  Overzealous believers, however, often erroneously think their beliefs are the truth.  If others (who aren’t in power) feel damned or stuck in an unsatisfactory life experience when they can’t follow or obey, the believer has gone too far.  They’ve confused beliefs with the truth.  That’s where letting go comes in to save the nonbelievers.

A good way to find out what you still believe (and it might surprise you) is to ask yourself:  “How do I fulfill desires?”  Here are some popular answers:

 

Sky God

Is an outside God in the sky the grantor of your wishes and keeper of your destiny?  Some treat God (or Jesus) like a concierge.  If God deems them deserving, they fulfill desires.  If sky God is your answer, then the next question to ask is how does God decide if you’re deserving?  Often when people answer this question, they realize that God’s rules are exactly like their parent’s and early authority figure’s rules.  This belief also becomes transparent when you realize that atheists tend to fulfill desires too.

 

Hard Work 

Most westerners have some hard-work ethic in them.  If we believe that hard work fulfills desires, then we can’t do something we love and get rewarded.  We have to make everything hard or convince others that we’re suffering enough to deserve a reward.  Also, we discover that some things can’t be created or fixed with hard work — we reach the limit of our belief system.  Hard work doesn’t create great ideas.  No amount of hard work can cure something labeled incurable.  The True Self creates in ways that are simple and easy.

 

Positive Thinking

When people realize that thoughts fulfill desires, they’re usually horrified at what they’ve been thinking.  They’ve accepted lots of beliefs.  They see that their mind is conditioned to accept things that feel terrible without discriminating.

Occultists and magicians realized long ago that emotional people were easy to deceive; they used that to their advantage.  Those in power still create problems to generate emotion in others.  While everyone is distracted in their emotional confusion, the people in power do whatever they want.  Pay attention, you’ll see this pattern wherever problems exist.

 

Karma

In the west, we say, “What goes around comes around”  — the western version of karma.  Originally, karma was based on the understanding that when you create in the illusion, you get both sides of duality.  Pretty and ugly, rich and poor, or war and tolerance go together like two sides of a coin.

Even when we only identify with one side of duality, we get the other as a bonus unconsciously.  The side we’re not identified with is projected out on to others, and it does come back to us in time.  Other people eventually return our projections.  Letting go resolves karma because it gets rid of projected duality.

 

Obedience, Being Good

Some believe that if they are good or obedient, they’ll get what they want.  They’re often very frustrated when they see that others aren’t good (by their standards) and they, too, fulfill desires.  When we obey authority or another’s belief system, we’re disobeying our True Self.  When we let go, we come to see that our True Self fulfills desires, not authority.

 

Magical Thinking

There are all kinds of magical belief schemes to fulfill desires from four-leaf clovers to mind games.  Some people actually worry to fulfill desires.  Others think they protect themselves with fear.  There are superstitions, guardian angels, and fairies.  All of these are mind tricks that work sometimes when you believe them because they are long-standing thought forms.  But they aren’t foolproof and most people don’t know why they work when they do or why they eventually fail them.

 

Willpower

People use willpower to fulfill desires in any number of physical or mental ways.  Willpower overpowers strong beliefs.  Old-fashioned willpower benefits from the group mind — mafia, KKK, or religion.  But visualization or affirmations are also forms of willpower. Underneath the use of willpower of any kind is the belief that one lacks real power.  They need to force their desires to manifest.

 

What’s the Answer?

Everyone has a unique mix of how they fulfill desires.  Religion, upbringing, culture, personal history, and teachers all give us beliefs.   Beliefs tend to be unpredictable keeping us in a state of confusion.

If you’re an atheist, God isn’t part of your answer.  Some cultures treat willpower as crucial to fulfill desires; others find it rude.  If you believe in the luck of the Irish, a four-leaf clover is an asset.  If you’re raised on superstition, you’ll create problems by breaking a mirror.  In the illusion, beliefs rule; and those who know and follow their own belief rulebook do well.  Those who let go do better.

There are also some belief trump cards like being born to royalty.  Being told you’re chosen is like winning the lottery of beliefs.  When we let go, even these wide-standing beliefs don’t limit us.

 

The Great Equalizer

The great equalizer is the power of letting go.  According to the ancient initiates, when your mind is clear or virgin, you think a desire once; then you fulfill it by following your inspiration.  When no beliefs block our desire fulfillment process, we’ve returned to the Garden of Eden.  

Following Your North Star by Aligning the Masculine and Feminine Roles

Following North Star

By Cathy Eck

 

When I first got involved in this work, I realized that the ancient people saw masculine and feminine as mental concepts.  This felt peculiar at first.  In modern society, we associate masculine and feminine with physical bodies. But I felt there was something very important to discover in accepting the ancient point of view.

I now see that understanding the masculine-feminine connection is key to following our North Star.  It keeps us on our path and helps us discriminate in a world where everything is upside down.

 

Masculine and Feminine Review

In the beginning, the world was Eden-like. People were in touch with their True Selves.  Our True Self is androgynous, unified, and doesn’t have beliefs. We could live eternally from the True Self, and enjoy pure, calm feelings all the time.  But we wanted to create; so we invented the mind.

While the True Self (God Self) is shared by all, the false self (which lives in our mind) isn’t shared.  This is purposeful.  Our minds are our creative palettes.  Each artist has a different palette, and each individual creator has a separate mind.  (See the post about minds as individual containers.)

Masculine energy was naturally giving, assertive, yang, and outward (just like the male sexual organ).  Ideally male energy was like the sun; it unconditionally gave without expecting anything in return.  It gave us what we needed — light and warmth.  It supported growth.  That was our True Self masculine role model.

Feminine energy was absorbing, yin, and inward, like the earth; the earth absorbed the sun’s rays to produce vegetation.  Receiving/absorbing became associated with the True Self feminine role model.

The roles that we play mirror these macrocosmic concepts.  The masculine role was designed as the giving role, such as teacher, doctor, clergy, employer, or parent.  The feminine role was the receiving role, such as student, patient, employee, or child.  The role doesn’t always match the person’s sex.

If the person in the masculine role is like the sun and gives truth, unconditional love, and joy, the people in the feminine roles are creative.  Things grow perfectly.  If the masculine leader believes in good-evil, dominance-submission, right-wrong, or win-lose, then the feminine becomes emotional or what is often labeled bitchy.  The false masculine causes the feminine to move from absorbing like the earth to reflecting like the moon; absorbing the false masculine’s beliefs would destroy her.

A good leader corrects his mind when he sees his nasty reflection; he’ll let go of his false beliefs.  Everything returns to perfection.  If the leader needs to be right or defends his beliefs, then the people in the feminine role will become more and more emotional.  They must; they’re simply the leader’s bad reflection.

 

The North Star

Many people are now seeking an authentic life.  Their North Star is set on truth, unconditional love, peace, or freedom.  They end up an emotional wreck when they look at the world today.  I was one of those people, and I was very confused.  By resetting my North Star on truth and freedom, all the beliefs that I’d accepted from the illusion were exposed as false.  The beliefs were arising constantly so I could let them go; but I didn’t know how.  I was dying under an emotional tsunami of beliefs.

The seemingly calm people in the illusion have their North Star set on something false like getting approval, making money, or looking good.  Some set their North Star on romance, obedience, or power.  They aren’t trying to escape the illusion.  In fact, they contribute to it.

Our emotional navigation system was originally set to true and false.  If our masculine aspect thought truth, we felt good.  Emotions (feminine) signaled us only if we thought something false.

In the illusion, we set our North Star in a different direction.  We become psychologically reversed from our original setting.  We go deeper into the illusion.  But the system still works.  Once, we set our direction, our mind takes us where we want to go.  It doesn’t judge our choice of North Star.

If you’re born into a house and punished if you don’t obey, you’ll switch your North Star to match your parents’.  If you’re born into a house where making money was valued, you’ll set wealth as your North Star.  Most of us have altered the original setting of our North Star to some extent.

Let’s say you make wealth your North Star.  You’ll feel calm when you have thoughts that lead to making money; you’ll feel nervous agitation (emotion) when you fear losing money.  Someone who speaks the truth will generate emotion in you if the truth isn’t aligned with making money.  You’ll think the truth is bad.  The masculine-feminine connection works the same regardless of the direction you point it.

It isn’t bad to set your North Star toward a false desire, but you’ll accept more beliefs.  You’ll eventually pay a price for your choice because it will get you stuck in the illusion.  You’ll probably reject your True Self most of the time.  The path of the True Self is always much greener.  But no one tells us that when we’re stuck in the illusion, and we forget that we can let go.  Also, too many people make their destination the right destination, which negatively impacts others.

 

Following Your North Star

Decide the direction you want to go, and choose your North Star wisely.  Then start to think; watch your thinking and beliefs.  If your masculine intellect is thinking in alignment with your North Star, your feminine will be insightful, calm, and wise.  Your destination is assured.

You might recognize this concept as the three Wise Men following the star to Jesus, the True Self.  The false leader (Herod) couldn’t find the True Self; he had a false self North Star; his star was in the illusion.  Therefore, he wanted to kill anyone under two, meaning anyone who was still ONE.  It’s a system that’s as old as time.

All One or Alone: The Creative Mind as an Individual Container

 

Minds are individual containers.

By Cathy Eck

 

All ONE

One of the biggest areas of level confusion to become popular with the New Age movement was the idea that we’re all ONE.  At the level of the True Self (or God), we’re absolutely all ONE.  That oneness can’t be broken or destroyed.  It’s a bond of unconditional love, peace, joy, and freedom.   It is eternal and lives beyond the boundaries of space and time.

But our minds were designed to also separate us from others so that we could individually create.  Imagine if we couldn’t hold individual thoughts.  We wouldn’t be able to focus on an individual creative project or be separate unique beings.  We’d become constantly confused by the thoughts of others.  Sadly, this is exactly what happens when we accept the idea that were all ONE at the level of false selves.

The way we’re designed, our True Self develops an idea.  As creators, we have to make that idea physical.  In order to do that, we create beliefs to bridge the nonphysical idea with the physical manifestation.  These beliefs are false, but they aren’t harmful if guided by our True Self (also called first-cause creation).  Time, colors, shapes, space, and tones are all beliefs that were created by our True Self for creative purposes; they bring us great joy.

 

Left and Right Brain

The structure of our brain mirrors our false mind.  Our left brain is masculine in nature.  It’s intellectual and allows us to hold ideas, intentions, memories, and beliefs.  Our right brain is feminine and receptive.  It receives inspiration and wisdom to bring our vision to life.

Ideally, our masculine mind sets a pure creative intention.  Then our right brain (feminine) receives wisdom and creative inspiration to move toward the vision.  The left brain holds the wisdom (now beliefs) received by the feminine mind, and the process continues until we reach our destination.  Then we let go of the whole false mind so we can create again.

If we get off the path and start missing the mark of our vision (sinning in the ancient world), we get an emotional signal from our feminine, which gently guides us back on to our path.

When we use our individual mental containers (false minds) in the way they’re designed, we move toward our vision without stress or problems.  We effortlessly travel the delightful journey from idea to fruition.  But as you can see, we must listen to our emotions and self-correct as needed.

 

What Went Wrong

We all came to the earth experience with a unique perspective.  In a perfect life experience, we’d naturally accept the creative projects that are right for us.  We’d choose only beliefs that are necessary to fulfill those desires.  We wouldn’t hold on to anything that’s unnecessary.  We wouldn’t get caught up in other people’s beliefs or desires.

When my children chose to unschool, I noticed that they innately understood what they needed to learn.  If a subject wasn’t part of their future, they didn’t want to learn it.  I could not motivate them.  They even knew that things like cursive writing would become obsolete as we moved toward mobile devices and email.  It became obvious that I was a very poor substitute for their True Self, which clearly had the big picture.

However, in the illusion, we think teachers know what we need to learn.  We think preachers know what we should believe.  And we think authorities are needed to keep us in line.  We think doctors, dietitians, and trainers know what’s best for our bodies.  We act as if we have no clue what’s right for us.  We put everyone’s beliefs and knowledge in our containers, filling them with worthless crap.

We assume that what’s right for another, especially if they’re an expert or authority, is right for us.  We wonder why we’re so unhappy with our lives.  We’re constantly faced with decisions and problems.

 

Cleaning Out the Container

If we want to live from our True Self and create as designed, we have to clean out our mental containers (false selves).  We have to take responsibility for what we put in them.  What isn’t true or necessary for our perfect life needs to go.  If others don’t like us letting go of their precious beliefs or judgments, that’s their problem.

We must let go of the beliefs that don’t serve our own creative desires.  We must let go of allowing others to tell us what to believe and how to live our lives.  We must trust that letting go never hurt anyone, and we can’t let go of what is True.  We must use our emotions to show us what to let go when we’re confused or indecisive.

As we clean, our mental containers become virgin.  They only have within them what we need for our own divine creative experience.  We live fully in the present without trying to be in the present.  Our past supports our present and our future.  Our mind is quiet except for what we actually need to think or believe.  We have no decisions to make, no confusion to unravel.

When we achieve this level of clarity, we’re still all ONE at the level of the True Self. However, our minds are now well-stocked, but neatly organized, individual containers at the level of the false self.

When we erroneously combine our false selves, we sadly end up ALONE.  Loneliness occurs when we are hoarders of the beliefs and desires of others.  Our containers become so full of worthless information that we can’t find our True Self.  We spend our life looking for who we are.

Other people’s beliefs belong to them, and they don’t just jump into our mind.  We allow them to come in, and we hold them hostage.  If we use our mind as designed, we live as creators in the image and likeness of God.  We’re loving True Selves that are ALL ONE and perfect creators with virgin false selves that are ALONE.

Life Lessons of The Shawshank Redemption

Shawshank Redemption

By Cathy Eck

 

I’m Not Obsessed With Much, But…

This is my 100th post, and so it had to be special — it had to be about Shawshank Redemption.  You don’t have to read my blog for very long before you find a Shawshank Redemption quote.  My Leadership Coaching program is based on lessons found in Shawshank.  Shawshank Redemption is a near perfect story; I love it.

Today I had an opportunity to attend a screenwriting webinar analyzing the Shawshank Redemption.  How’s that for perfect timing?

Without knowing it, screenwriters often see through the illusion because the illusion is also based on the three-act story.  Almost every good story follows this blueprint or arc.  We unconsciously identify with it when we see it on the big screen or in the pages of a novel.

Every human starts in Eden or the realm of the True Self.  Then we fall into the hypnotic illusion of the material realm, and finally we work our way back out to freedom.  We become our True Selves again.

It seems like a stupid trip to take since you end up where you started.  But the person who arrives at the end of this three-act journey is not the same person who began it.  They now have vision, knowing, and stability that they didn’t have when their journey began.

 Red: “It takes a strong man to save himself, and a great man to save another.”

 

We All Have a Fall Story

Everyone has a True Self that doesn’t fall.  The false self takes root pretty quickly; our parents usually make sure of that.  It’s our false self that has the storyline that causes us to forget who we really are.  Stories were originally invented by astrologers based on our date and place of birth; now they come from Hollywood and religion.

Andy Dufresne had the perfect life, or so it seemed — hot wife, great job, nice house, club membership. It looks like he’s living in paradise; but he’s not.  He doesn’t have freedom or love; he’s stuck in his myopic fallen illusion.  He’s winning, but winners are often more stuck in the illusion than losers.  They have to give up their winnings to get free; that often seems like too high of a price to pay.

None of this is conscious to Andy, so his wife reflects it for him by seeking freedom and love in another man. Like most women (or children) who reflect the men in their life, she’s just being his mirror and probably doesn’t even know why she’s doing what she’s doing.

So like most men (or people in the masculine role); Andy thinks he’s a victim of his wife and her lover.  He believes that his anger is because of their actions.  He wants to get revenge and break his own mirror; but fortunately, he doesn’t.

Later on in the story, Andy takes a big step toward freedom when he realizes that he caused his wife to cheat, in a way he killed her.

Andy: She was beautiful. God I loved her. I just didn’t know how to show it, that’s all. I killed her, Red. I didn’t pull the trigger, but I pushed her away. And that’s why she died, because of me.

 

Like Andy, we must all realize that we are the writer, director and producer of our three-act illusory play.  We can’t change it until we take responsibility.  It’s taking responsibility that puts the letting go eraser in our hand. Responsibility gives us the power to rewrite our story.

 

Beautiful Women

To most people, putting up posters of beautiful women sounds kind of like male lust.  But metaphorically; it’s perfect.  Andy hides his secret tunnel to freedom behind pictures of beautiful women.

Initiates knew that the way out of the illusion was through the feminine.  Initiates followed their own feminine emotions to show them what to let go — to point to the causal beliefs within their own mind.  You can’t find freedom by denying what you feel. Thus Andy hides his secret tunnel to freedom behind pictures of beautiful women.  Each night Andy chips away at the cell wall (his false beliefs) that lies beneath his feminine (emotions).

The Greeks put Athena in the Parthenon. The Egyptians dedicated temples to Isis.  Babylonians had Ishtar. America’s Congressional building is topped with Freedom (female). The female Statue of Liberty greets immigrants to America.  The path to freedom is feminine.

 

The Rebirth

Andy eventually escapes by crawling through a sewage pipe, a damn good metaphor for the small, dark birth canal; he pops out looking like a newborn.  He’s free, but he’s really dirty.

Red: Andy Dufresne – who crawled through a river of shit and came out clean on the other side.

The story demonstrates that if we want to free our body, we must first liberate our mind.  It’s an old teaching that most have completely forgotten.

Most people use their minds to keep themselves in prison — a life sentence without parole.  They put art deco on the cell walls and flowers in the urinal and call it Home, Sweet Home.  It looks like acceptance of their destiny; but it’s really apathy.

Andy didn’t have apathy.  Regardless of what happened on the outside, Andy knew he was innocent.  Apathy occurs because someone else has convinced us that we deserve punishment because we broke their bullshit rules.  We wait patiently for them to give us back our innocence.   They never do.

Andy knew he was innocent. Therefore, Andy had real hope that redemption was possible, even when it looks improbable.

Red: I have to remind myself that some birds aren’t meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright. And when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up DOES rejoice. Still, the place you live in is that much more drab and empty that they’re gone. I guess I just miss my friend.

 

To be continued…

Motivation — Inner or Outer?

By Cathy Eck

 

How to Motivate Others

Until 1997, I owned a technology business.  I learned so many lessons from running that business — I’m incredibly grateful for the experience.  But one of the problems that really dumbfounded me was motivation.  I had employees and clients that were clearly internally motivated.  I only had to give them a little direction, and they were off and running.  On the other hand, I had employees and clients that didn’t make a move without external motivation.  Then I had to figure out what it was that motivated them  — money, time off, approval, or fear.

Wanting to understand motivation led me to enroll in a Master’s Degree Program in Transpersonal Psychology.  I thought perhaps more education would answer my burning question.  It didn’t.  But that school got me to the amazing library that was crucial for the research that I would do in the future.

I loved that school so much.  I realized that school could be a place of freedom and joy.  There were no tests; our teachers graded our speeches, papers, and projects.  There was no memorization; our grades were based on our ability to dig into something and see it with fresh eyes.  I was a duck in water and completely inner motivated.  That prepared me for what would happen next.

 

Free At Last

In 1999, my children decided that they wanted to unschool.  Unschool means learning outside of a school — it isn’t anti-education.  We’d moved to the country and visited all the available schools.  They didn’t like any of them.  A book had come to our attention called “Free at Last,” by Daniel Greenberg, a man who inspires me to this day.  He realized that children have internal motivation until we teach them external motivation.  In his school, “The Sudbury Valley School,” the children aren’t taught anything until they ask to learn it.  Sometimes they go for years without asking; but when they do finally ask, they learn at incredible speed because they’re motivated — one student learned six years of math in six weeks.  Obviously, these children also have enormous time to ponder life, explore passions, and just get to know who they are.

We decided to model Sudbury Valley at home.  My two younger children dove right in.  I could see what Daniel was saying.  When they didn’t want to learn something, it was impossible to teach them without force.  I realized why schools need so much discipline, rules, shame, and fear of disapproval to get kids to learn outside of their natural learning cycle.

My oldest son had been in a private school until the sixth grade.  He was already institutionalized.  He begged me to please tell him what to learn.  He couldn’t think for himself.  He couldn’t find his inner motivation.  It took about two years to decondition him, then he remembered his natural desire to learn.

 

My Real Lesson

I thought I wanted to learn how to motivate others.  What I really wanted to learn was how to support people in finding their inner motivation, their True Self.  I wanted to understand how I could nurture inner motivation in my children and myself.

To get to inner motivation, one must strip away all the external motivation.  We have to stop wanting what others have; and look at what really lights our fire.  Our True Self is the source of internal motivation, and it rarely pleases other people’s agendas.  It can look quite unsocial and rude when it simply doesn’t buy the beliefs of other people or join popular groups.  It knows what it needs, and it’s bored or uninterested in anything that it doesn’t need.

 

A few differences

The True Self is motivated by win-win; the false self is motivated by win-lose.

The True Self is what it is; the false self wants to fit in and be accepted.

The True Self is self-reliant; the false self wants support from others because beliefs have no power without attention.

The True Self is unique; the false self is a good clone.

The True Self leads; the false self follows and obeys.

The True Self enjoys the journey; the false self enjoys only the result.

The True Self loves to give its gifts; the false self loves to get rewarded.

The True Self has no fear and doesn’t see risk; the false self is fueled by beliefs and their related emotions.

The True Self does what feels calm and good; the false self does what relieves its emotions and satisfies its beliefs.

The True Self thinks about creating; the false self thinks about profits or marketing.

The True Self learns for fun and expansion; the false self memorizes and repeats.

The True Self loves when another succeeds; the false self is jealous or envious of others.

The True Self is motivated from the heart; the false self is motivated from the head.

The True Self is motivated from within; the false self is motivated from without.

The True Self is Daniel Greenberg; the false self is Bill O’Reilly.

 

Living From Inner Motivation

Most teachers simply offer more beliefs to stuff into our already clogged minds.  There are only a few Daniel Greenberg’s in the world that offer a space for the True Self to expand, explore, and invent.

My favorite Daniel story was about a kid who only wanted to fish.  He fished every day for years — no motivation for anything else.  His father wanted to take him out of the school.  He wasn’t learning anything.  Daniel calmed the father and said, “That child knows everything about fishing.  When he finds something else that motivates him that completely, he’ll excel at it.”  Eventually that child found computers.  After graduation, he founded a technology company.  Two years later, he had twenty employees.  He learned the thing that almost no one learns in school.  He learned how to learn, effortlessly and on his own.  And, most important, he learned how to follow his heart and live from inner motivation.

 

 

What is Blocking Heaven on Earth?

Heaven in the stars

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Your Heaven on Earth?

I often give people I mentor the task of writing a description of Heaven on Earth.  I ask them to write from the heart — to say what they really want their life to look like.  I tell them to stretch as far as they can reach, even if it seems impossible.

If they write from the heart, I know it instantly.  Their description will have the tone of unity — no losers.  They won’t be fixing what’s wrong with earth or other people.  They’ll see their own True Self, and know the direction they must go in life.

This task isn’t about goal setting or creating a vision.  It’s about creating a North Star to follow.

 

Navigation

The ancient notion of following stars was a practical thing, not a holy thing.  If you asked for directions, you might get an answer like this:

Take the middle star in the belt of Orion in your hand, and follow it until it’s behind you.  Then hold Sirius in your hand, and follow it to the destination.  

 

This worked great for outer navigation.  And the concept of outer navigation matched the notion of inner navigation; people were more congruent in earlier times.  People today can be ugly on the inside and pretty on the outside.  They can present a logical, and even expert, outer persona while being a confused mess on the inside.  In the ancient world, a person was only a good outer navigator if they were first a good inner navigator.

Just like a competent traveler followed the stars to their destination, we inner travelers get to our True Self more quickly if we follow our inner stars.  But I’m not talking astrology here.  The stars represent our true, immaculate thoughts; when we follow them, we get to Heaven on Earth.  If we follow false thoughts, we end up in hell.

The star constellations were the immortal Gods of the ancient world.  They formed the original notion of life as heavenly, good, and perfect.  But as the stories became dramas and the Gods fell, our notion of life fell with them.

 

Practically Speaking

If you want perfect health in your Heaven on Earth, watch your mind and notice which thoughts take you toward that destination.  Those are your true thoughts.  You accept only what’s true, and let go of the rest.  If you accept disease as normal; then you get what you expect.  You won’t question beliefs about disease if you’ve accepted it as part of life.  When your destination is Heaven on Earth, everything false rises to the surface so you can let it go.

 

Heaven on earth is our normal perspective that remains when everything false is removed.

 

It Sounds Easy

Once you try this, you realize just how many beliefs you have in your mind.  Many people in the new thought movement felt that there were just too many belief in our mind to let go.  So they invented new positive minds to cover the old ones.  But their old mind eventually pokes through because they still believe it; they just don’t want to believe it.  “Cancel, cancel” doesn’t declare a belief to be false.

Why doesn’t anyone do this?  People don’t believe they can let go of their false self because they have beliefs (mostly from religions) that make it impossible to do.  Here are the top five beliefs (lies) that you must let go if you want to live your Heaven on Earth.

 

Heaven is Up in the Stars

Since the first stories were based on star constellations (Gods) and the Gods were omnipotent and immortal, heaven was up in the stars.  Religion hijacked the idea so we’d believe that we can’t have heaven while on earth.  Religion left out the ancient maxim:  “As Above, So Below.”  The ancient storytellers knew that the stories of the Gods would become the archetypes of life on earth.

 

You Get Rewarded When You Die

Religion says rewards come after death when and if you get to heaven; people believe that and never get rewarded in life.  No matter what they do, life remains the same dull, boring mess.  This belief is also key to healing an incurable or chronic illness.  Many people die because they are sick and tired of not getting rewarded in life.

 

You Can’t Let Go

When we see a belief as a belief, we can let it go.  But when we see a belief as true, our mind holds it the same way it holds our True Self, and we can’t let it go.  In truth, our beliefs don’t want to be held hostage.  It’s the authorities that benefit from our beliefs that want us to keep them.

 

You Have to Work Out Your Karma

When you let go of a belief, it has a ripple effect.  Everything created by the belief starts to seem less real.  Even horrible events exist in your mind like a dream.  You don’t have to work anything out or pay a price.  Karma is a belief.  Only the false self can do wrong.  When your false self is gone; you realize YOU (the True Self) didn’t do anything wrong.

 

The Nasty Ass, Jealous, Punishing Authority is God

Far too many people obey the false God’s voice because we’re taught it’s the “One” God.  When you obey that voice, you’re never going toward your True Self or Heaven on Earth.  In fact, that voice hates your True Self because your True Self is far more powerful than it is.

People who talk about “Lord God” are always outer focused.  They see evil everywhere, but never in themselves.  They do nice deeds, but think horrible thoughts.

When we get our mind set on our true North Star (our Heaven on Earth), we see the evil inside of our own mind, realize it is simply false, and take it out.  Then Heaven returns to earth because Heaven is a perspective, not a place.

 

 

 

The Cross Process: How Creation was Designed

The Cross Process

By Cathy Eck

 

There were many events that pushed me on to my life path — but one of the highlights had to be the night I dreamed “The Cross Process.”  My focus at the time was learning how God creates.  I was highly dissatisfied with the mental, new age, and religious techniques for creation that I had been taught.

 

First-Cause Creation

If you read my blog, you’re no stranger to the triangle process.  Once you master the triangle process, you want to create because the very essence of the True Self is creation.  But how does a True Self create without dipping into the bottom of the triangle?  The Cross Process answer that question.

Just like the triangle process, the top of the cross represents the True Self, unity, oneness, God, unconditional love, and freedom — all things without opposites.  As an element, it is associated with air or spirit.  For creation to occur, we must divide pure thought.

You can see these black words because they’re on a white background.  If it was black words on a black background, I wouldn’t be able to share my creation with you.  So we divide pure thought into two halves in order to create.  In first-cause creation the two halves are cooperative.  Male and female, fire and water, yin and yang, or positive and negative (as electrical charges) are cooperative opposites.  I later learned that the initiates called this first-cause creation.

 

Second-Cause Creation

Creation with opposites (bottom of the triangle) that include judgment such as right and wrong, good and evil, dominance and submission, or win and lose were called second-cause creation.  This was considered occult and evil to the initiates.  But it was widely practiced by leaders who declared themselves Lords.  They were magicians who powerfully projected fear-based thought into the minds of their minions.

The idea of eating from the Tree of Good and Evil was about eating from the second-cause tree.  It’s true that God would have suggested that we don’t eat from this tree, which means that God would also suggest that we stay the hell away from religion, the creator of good and evil.  But God didn’t stop us because like prodigal children, we are welcome to venture out and come back.  We just have to start eating from the Tree of Life again if we want to hang out in Eden.

 

The Effect

The bottom point of the cross is the effect.  It is associated with the earth element.  As you know, initiates never touched the effect.  The Sleeping Prophet Edgar Cayce spoke the initiate’s perspective perfectly when he said, “Spirit is the life, mind is the builder, and physical is the result.”  If physical is simply the result of what you build in mind, it makes no sense to fix it.

The arms of the cross (or tree) are the essence of creation.  We decide whether our creation comes from the Tree of Life or the Tree of Good and Evil by how we split pure thought.

Let’s say that you want to build a house.  The True Self enters the cross of creation at the top.  The bottom is the result or effect.  Just like our physical arms do physical creation work, the arms of the cross do the mental creation work.  We use words (or images) as symbols for the mental creation process.  I find it easiest to use male and female or fire and water words.  Maybe our first thought is that we want the process to be fast (fire) and smooth (water).  We want our house to be sturdy (masculine) and relaxing (feminine).  If we could stay in first cause, the house would manifest with ease.

But our false self kicks in, and we bring our second-cause beliefs into the picture.  We pop expensive house (win for him) and a slowly leaking bank account (lose for us) on the arms of the cross.  With each second-cause belief that we place on our cross, the process becomes heavier.  The situation becomes grave, meaning our pure life force is slowly dying.  The result now reflects our beliefs.  Then we fix the result because we feel at a loss to change things.

To get back on track, we must move back to first cause and let go of the second-cause beliefs that have arisen.  In that way, the result returns to perfection.  Our True Self can’t create anything less than perfection, but our false self can make a mess of anything.

 

Creation in Relationships

Our relationships follow the same pattern.  Let’s say that we give birth to a child or meet someone new, and they are a perfect creation.  Then we allow our second-cause beliefs to shape our new creation.  We see them through veiled, flawed eyes until they match our beliefs about people; and they start to feel that we don’t see them at all.  They run like hell.

Most of us have felt smothered by someone’s beliefs shaping our mind and body.  After awhile, we can’t remember who we are.  We arrived as a True Self creation until we were molded into a false self by others who said they loved us.

 

The Practice

The easiest way to understand True Self creation is to play with the Cross Process.  Take any desire and make a True Self cross.  Then get honest and make a reality cross, honestly admitting what you’re currently experiencing.  The difference between the two crosses are your beliefs.  As you let the beliefs go, the first-cause cross seems more possible; the false-self, second-cause cross changes.   When the two crosses are the same, the desire must manifest perfectly; it can’t be any other way.

It isn’t a quick fix for sure.  But each time we succeed in creating in this way, we free part of our mind until one day we are back in Eden eating from the Tree of Life.

 

Here is an article about my favorite crop circle, a power metaphor for creation.

 

Understanding Soft Labels and Hard Labels

Story explains our perception of the sun-moon-earth

By Cathy Eck

 

Soft Labels

In a previous post, I wrote about labels that I call soft labels.  I spoke of a dream where a mother labeled one twin happy and another twin sad.  The labels limited the twins’ life experience, but the mother wasn’t being malicious.

The mother probably didn’t realize that she was seeing two opposing aspects of her own personality reflected in her twins.  Our children take on labels and roles that often, as parents, we don’t recognize as our own projections.

Our True Self doesn’t have labels or roles.  However, our false self always sees children in a feminine role.  The masculine role asserts or gives; the feminine (or passive) role receives.   Since children have little or no power, they always play a feminine role.

Our mental programming and design came about through story; early stories related the feminine to the moon or the earth.  The sun was always the masculine God role giving light and warmth.  The feminine might be moon-like and reflect the sun’s light.  Or it could be earth-like and absorb the sun’s light.  These symbols were mental metaphors, not physical.  It is heavenly to be feminine and reflect the sun’s light and love.  But if a human sun asserts its beliefs or labels instead of love and light, its feminine will be like the moon and reflect those beliefs or be like the earth and absorb them.  She won’t be in heaven anymore.

The masculine isn’t pleased when his crap shows up in his feminine; so he blames her for dragging their asses out of heaven.  But it was the sun’s fall from love and light that caused the problem.  Beliefs are like fluorescent light compared to the sun.  They aren’t the real thing and produce minimal growth; but they can do the job of lighting the room.

As adults, we step into bigger roles.  A wife is still usually feminine to her husband.  An employee is feminine to the boss.  A slave is feminine to the master; and a patient is feminine to the doctor.  When we are in the feminine role, we hope that our sun is shining with pure white light.  But often they’re just a fluorescent bulb.

 

Hard Labels

Hard labels come from authorities with a desire for dominance.  They know the sun has power over the moon/earth; they use that power to project the negative part of the illusion on to the feminine.  This allows them to float above the illusion’s manure pile.

The person in the feminine role doesn’t detect the projection if they treat fluorescent light as if it’s sunlight.  They trust the authority (person in the masculine role) as if they are being directed by God.

As long as the feminine takes the projection and submits like a good slave, the authority is content.  But when the feminine tries to take back her power or reflects the projection, the masculine often slaps a hard label on them.

Imagine a slave who decides he deserves more food.  When he makes his case, the master says, “You’re selfish.  You think you deserve to eat like me.”  The master is the selfish one, but he projects selfishness on his feminine slave with conviction.  The slave believes the authority and backs off.  He’s been trained to do so.  This is one of the most sinister tricks of the false self.

 

The false self masculine uses labels to cause the person in the feminine position to believe that they are doing to them (masculine person) what the masculine person is actually doing to the feminine person.

Complex, confusing — welcome to the false self”s world.  So let’s look at another example.  The wife says she’s going for a walk alone.  The husband feels left out.  So he throws his baggage on her back.  He says, “You’re so demanding.”  Her feminine training kicks in and she starts to wonder, “Am I too demanding?”  In that moment of doubt, the aggressor has won; he’s created acceptance of his projected belief on his feminine target.

Another great example of label slamming was seen in the 2012 Presidential election.  The marketing pieces and debates were full of label slamming the opposition.  It’s a strategic power move to trick the opponent into accepting the slammed label and losing his power.

Once we believe a label, we become feminine to the labeler.  When we see the game, we don’t fall so easily.  When we learn to let go, the game no longer works.  This is how the feminine regains her freedom — ending slavery forever.

 

The New Leader

We need new leaders who don’t project labels into people’s minds, who help people let their labels go.  Imagine going to a doctor/healer who listens to your problem then helps you see the labels and beliefs that caused the problem.  I’ve done this many times; when a client is willing to let go of the cause, natural healing kicks in.  Imagine a lawyer that helps both parties let go of their causal beliefs resulting in true love and true justice.  Imagine a leader that sees problems in his company or nation and realizes that the problems are his own projection.  Big problems would disappear very quickly.  The problems on this planet only look big because leaders want power, and they have no power without problems.

This type of leader existed long ago.  I hope to bring this old way of leading back.  But we don’t have to wait for the big guys to step up to the plate.  We can start wherever we are.  Everyone has leadership roles even if they are very small, and we can transform our own sphere of influence — set an example.  We can share this information with others so that one day all leaders must lead the true way because the people will no longer take their projections.  The feminine will finally be free.

 

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