Mentoring Others to Let Go

Letting Go

By Cathy Eck

 

Mentoring

As you travel along the path to freedom, you’re going to want to start mentoring others.  Here are a few things that I’ve learned about mentoring.  Freedom mentoring is unique; it works from the inside out.  Normal coaching, teaching, or healing work creates change within the illusion; it fixes the effect of the illusion.  That doesn’t mean that those services don’t have a place.  As long as the illusion exists, people will seek comfort within it.  But if your desire is to achieve and give freedom, you have to get truthful about what freedom mentoring looks like.  Even when someone says they’re removing bad energy, they aren’t moving the person to freedom.  Providing a better or more positive point of view isn’t movement toward freedom.

Freedom mentoring at its best is about letting go.  That’s it.  Unless people know how to remove their own causal false thoughts, they’ll simply recreate their problems in the same or different form.  Or, they’ll project them on to others.  Freedom mentoring is about eliminating the potential for all problems forever.  To be blunt, those who seriously seek freedom mentoring have generally had enough of fucking problems.  So there’s nothing and no one they won’t let go.  If the person hasn’t gotten to that point, they won’t go all the way to freedom.

Ultimately when we’ve received the complete gift of freedom, we no longer need healers, teachers, gurus, or therapists.  Thus, freedom mentoring is a temporary job.

 

Make Sure They Want To Let Go

Some people are thrilled with the notion of letting go.  Others are resistant to the idea.  False fear of loss is the biggest restriction to letting go.  If someone doesn’t want to let go, don’t force them.  We don’t need to recruit True Selves.  Everyone already has one.  Whether another lives from their True Self or covers it up is their free will.

If someone resists letting go but wants to be mentored, help them look for a payoff of their problem.  Often they’re getting attention for it, or even money.

I take responsibility for any fears, judgments, or beliefs I have about their resistance.  Often their will can be quite convincing that they’re a victim, their problem is normal, or there’s no cure.  They might tell you letting go doesn’t work.  They’ll often become highly defensive or angry.  They can look possessed — they are, by their own false self.  At this point, I let them know they can keep their belief, but they’re giving up freedom.  We don’t have the right to dominate another or force them to let go.  If we battle them, we drop into our false self.  Then two people are drowning in the illusion.

We can be of enormous assistance by simply remove any beliefs or fears about them from our own mind.  At the very least, they have one person in the world who sees them problem free.  Once you let go, speak whatever your inspired to speak, and trust in their own True Self to handle the rest of the process.

Our True Selves always do the work of letting go.  In mentoring, we’re remembering their True Self’s knowing and unconditional love.  The false self can’t survive such purity.

 

The Truth Will Set Them Free

Some people want to vent or tell their story.  They believe that will get it off their chest.  They don’t realize that each time they tell their story, they’re giving it more power.  They’re getting less free.  The false self always says that it’s giving us what it’s actually taking.  It lies.  It tells you that telling your story will free you when it actually takes your freedom from you.

Often people tell their story looking for attention or approval.  Sadly, we’re socially trained to offer support for such behavior.

If they’re open to your mentoring, ask them to tell the story one line at a time.  Then after each line of the story, ask them if that felt good.  Remind them that if it didn’t feel good, it wasn’t true.

This is where things get tricky.  The story looks true to them because it was their reality.  But it isn’t true, the truth always feels calm and unemotional.  Their reality was the effect of their past beliefs.  So by telling the story and recognizing that it all feels bad and it all occurred in the illusion, they often find the causal beliefs that they need to let go.

 

Traditional Bridgework

What if you work as a traditional healer, teacher, or coach?  In the beginning, you don’t have to do anything different with your clients except make sure you don’t believe them.  This feels odd at first.  It feels like you aren’t connecting with them.  But any treatment that you offer will work much better if you actually realize that nothing is wrong with them.

Edgar Cayce, the sleeping prophet, gave thousands of readings on health problems.  In his sleeping state, he was able to determine what the person in need of healing believed and recommend a solution that matched their beliefs.  In addition, to the salve, herb, drug, or physical treatment, he often recommended that they look to their mind and emotions for the cause.  At one point, he started a group geared toward connection with God.  The group asked him if they would achieve connection in this life, and he pretty much said no.  I suspect he determined in his sleeping state that they weren’t letting go; they were soothing their wounds and memorizing the truth.

As a mentor, truthfulness is key.  We must avoid telling people what they want to hear.  That requires letting go of our fear of rejection.  We must let go first and then follow our inspiration.  We must care about their freedom more than looking good or smart.  Mentoring others in this way rewards the mentor and the person being mentored — both grow closer to freedom.  It’s always win-win.

Stuck in Someone’s Illusion (Part II)

There is no death -- only timing differences.

There is no death — only timing differences!

By Cathy Eck

 

Cindy

When I was in grade school, Cindy moved into my town.  She was from the south and believed in voodoo.  No one wanted to be her friend.  But she had a cool horse, and I found her interesting; so we became friends.  One day, Cindy got mad at me because I said “No” to her.  She said the voodoo priestess, who lived across the street, made a doll in my image and was sticking pins in it.  Notice how nicely she projected the bad deed on her neighbor.  She went on and on about this and walked me past the house of the voodoo priestess.  Cindy said, “See the doll in the window. The priestess wants you to die.”

I got scared at first (a little sucked into her conviction about me dying), but then I realized that I didn’t really believe her.  I didn’t do anything wrong; and quite frankly, I didn’t see a doll in the window.  Eventually, she noticed that I wasn’t buying her bullshit — the game was over.

 

Pat

Fast forward forty years, and I’m friends with Pat.  Pat was born in Cuba, moved to Venezuela, then to Miami, and then at six was sent off to a strict Catholic boarding school in Spain.  As an adult, she became a Jehovah’s Witness and then landed in the New Age and became a healer.  On the surface she rebelled against it all; but unconsciously, she believed just about anyone.

Pat worked as a healer but was terrified of disease.  She constantly talked about diseases that she saw in her practice.  Over time, I began having all kinds of health fears myself; she triggered old fear in me that I got from my mother’s fear of disease.

One day, Pat told me that she had incurable cancer and had three months to live.  She started doing all kinds of alternative treatments and therapy; and I really felt that she knew there was no incurable disease.  But then she would talk to her family or doctor.  She would call me and say, “I’m stuck in their world.  They won’t stop telling me I’m dying; I feel powerless to heal myself.”

Eventually, they put her in the hospital kicking and screaming; she died in two days.  The last words she said to me were:  “Everyone thinks they’re doing good, but they’re killing me because they won’t change their stupid minds.”

Pat believed that she needed them to change their mind about her condition in order to live; she also believed that was impossible because they were sure they were right.

 

The Answer

I understood the feeling of being caught in someone’s illusion.  I’d been there.  People battle to get other people to drop their limiting beliefs, they hide from them, and they even die to get away from them.  I wanted to find the cause — the cure.

Cindy wasn’t an authority figure in my life.  Pat’s family and doctors were all people she held in the masculine role of authority.  Second, I recognized that Cindy was lying.  Once I saw that her words were false, they lost all power over me.  But in another country, where people believe in voodoo, Cindy could kill someone.

Cindy’s voodoo and Pat’s diagnosis look very different, but they weren’t.  They were both curses of sorts.  Oddly, around this time, I ended up in Haiti and confirmed my suspicians in a pleasant conversation with someone who had been cursed (you can read about that here.)

It all started to make sense.  The religious rules of the ancient false rulers, who claimed they were ordained by God, created mental slavery.  Consequently, a slave can’t get away from their master.  Abused women and children can’t leave their spouse.  Citizens under dictators can’t leave their country.  Patients can’t escape their doctor’s diagnosis.  This deranged belief system serves the elite, the winners who write history (his story), big profit-motivated businesses, and big government that does nothing but cause more problems.

Yes, this was about Pat, Cindy, and my beliefs; but it was much more ancient than I expected.  The so-called uncivilized victim of voodoo at least knows that he won’t heal unless the curse is removed.  But we modern prisoners will accept the curse as the absolute truth, without even questioning it, if it comes from an authority.  We were trained to do so.

 

The Cause

In my last post, I explained that in order to get people to follow a leader blindly to their suffering or death, the leader must create believers.  If a powerful leader  projects beliefs with authority, most people will believe them.  Once the people are believers, they’ll see evidence of those beliefs in the world, and their minds will relabel the beliefs as the TRUTH.

To get free from the false leader’s world, they must reverse the process by recognizing that the beliefs they share with the leader just aren’t true.  But they won’t do that because their reality keeps proving the belief to be true.  They get stuck in circular reasoning.

The mind let’s go once it recognizes that the belief is just a lie, an illusion.  The emotions we feel when we think the shared belief confirms that it isn’t true because truth always feels calm and peaceful.

Pat and I both knew that she wasn’t incurable.  We both knew that the cure was within.  We just ran out of time.  Or did we?

A few months after Pat left, my son was using my phone.  He said, “Mom why are you still calling Pat?”  I wasn’t, or so I thought.  But there was a call record (above).  I’d been calling the year 2027.  So I guess at the time of Pat’s death, 2027 was when we figured out that incurable is a lie and that we can free ourselves from someone else’s illusion by letting go of our belief in their lies.  Hopefully, that day is closer now.

 

 

Where’s the Proof? Initiation 101

Initiation, Where's the proof?

By Cathy Eck

 

How can you prove that? Why isn’t this taught or spoken of more?  Do you know people who have mastered their minds and no longer have health issues?

 

Occasionally, I get an email like the one above.  The questions are very reasonable.  I recognize that I don’t sound like everyone else.  Initiation is not like anything else out there, and it sounds crazy until you understand it.

 

Where’s the Proof?

I share freely nearly two decades of full-time research into ancient initiation.  I was drawn to the teachings of the mystery schools because they said the graduates healed the sick, manifested whatever was needed, and remained eternally youthful.  I wanted to see if it was true or if it was pure mythology.  I went into this project with skepticism but a very open mind.  I also committed that I was willing to risk everything, including my life, for the answer.

Initiates were said to be taught and then tested.  However, their tests weren’t for grades; they were do or die.  You had to embody what you learned, not just memorize information.  Today we memorize information.  We don’t embody it.

The initiate became the proof.  People didn’t go into initiation with a money back guarantee.  Passing the test was the proof.  The initiate knew that these tests were the natural consequences of their beliefs and an opportunity to prove their mastery.  Without beliefs, there would be no tests. By letting go, they gained the eyes to see and ears to hear.  They became like pure-minded children.

I took what I learned very serious, and tested it out.  I failed and failed, but I refused to give up.  My outer world didn’t change much for a long time, but my inner world was becoming quiet and clear.  Worry and fear were disappearing.  Problems were becoming less frequent.  When I looked at the Bible or mythological stories, I could stand in the shoes of the author; it looked nothing like what I was taught.  There were no contradictions; everything made sense.

My own proof came from my success, not the other way around.  People get rewards from initiation based on their own perseverance.  I can’t promise anything.  I’ve had results in every aspect of my life.  The short list of problems that I’ve healed includes migraine headaches, shoulder pain, persistent cough, heartburn, constipation, female problems, chronic fatigue, depression, joint pain, MS, allergies, asthma, skin problems, digestion problems, and lower back pain; all were healed without any medication, diet changes, or help.  I’m sure there are more that I’ve forgotten.  Once I found the causal belief, my True Self healed my problem.  The ancients were right.

Nevertheless, my old beliefs had lots of power; they didn’t go down without a fight.  So I understand why people don’t trust what I say; I’ve been in their shoes.

Most people look to a false outer God, an expert with knowledge, or an outer solution; the Jesus they worship said that God was within.  He also said we could do everything he did.  Why do I sound so crazy?

 

Why Doesn’t Anyone Else Say This?

My guess would be money and power.  There are people who know what I share, and they use it for their own self gain.  I thought about doing that, but I chose to attempt to even the score.  I felt that was the win-win thing to do.

I now understand why people use this wisdom for self gain because people who believe religion, a guru, or their doctor over their own True Self don’t appreciate the information.  Instead of trying it, they make it wrong.  I’ve tried to help people who acted like they were possessed as they defended their limitations and problems.  It makes you want to say, “Screw you.”  Thus people in the know become jaded and quit sharing the information.  Others fear that those who benefit from the wisdom will harm them.  Some take vows of silence.

I don’t fix other people and I don’t care to; but I do help them find their inner power because I know where to look.  I expose beliefs as untrue because they are harmful, and people who benefit from those beliefs don’t like their winning formula being exposed or laughed at.  But you come to see beliefs as just plain stupid, funny, and worthless.  We want them to lose power.

I never ask anyone to accept beliefs except for the belief that they can let go.  You need that belief until your True Self kicks back into power.  The end goal is a free mind with no beliefs.

 

Why Do I Do This?

Most, if not all, suffering is avoidable if we know how to let go.  I know that when I heal something in my body or let go of a belief, it is far better than sex, drugs, or meditation.  It is the best gift that I can possibly give away.

Today initiation happens within the world at work, home, and in our communities.  If we understand initiation, we can sail through life’s challenges.  Throughout all of history, initiation has been viewed as the way to freedom — the short cut to heaven on earth.

Initiation is different because it is universal.  Christians need saving.  Jews follow the laws.  Muslims follow Mohammed.  Easterners undo karma and seek enlightenment.  If people want to follow those routes, I suggest they do them to the letter.  When they do that, as I once did, they will see the holes.

 

Proof

When we have no more doubt, we see proof.  I hope to become the proof  of what I’ve learned from initiation because it is a universal perspective.  Initiates lived with unconditional love; I’d like to be just like them.  

I don’t expect anyone to believe me because that would be asking them to accept beliefs.  If they let go, they will see the same things I’ve seen because the truth is within everyone.

  

I’m always very happy to answer questions.  

Mental Healing Using the Law of Cause and Effect

The Law of Cause and Effect Explained

By Cathy Eck

The Law of Cause and Effect Was Lost

My work is usually the last resort for people.  When traditional problem solving methods don’t work, the ideas of the ancient world start to look attractive.  In truth, it should be the other way around.  The ancient teachings should the first resort because we have nothing to lose by trying them.

Humans have been tragically programmed to fix the effect of problems.  The law of cause and effect has been buried in the sands of time. I first discovered the law of cause and effect as an entrepreneur designing computer systems.  The diagram above demonstrates the typical flow of information through the computer.  It seemed obvious to me that fixing a computer system required repairing the input first and the processes second.  It seemed utterly stupid to fix the effects.  Yet company after company wasted unbelievable sums of money fixing effects.  When I appeared and fixed the input, people acted like I just walked on water; I saved them huge sums of money.  I simply applied the law of cause and effect.

 

Healing with the Law of Cause and Effect

Let’s apply the law of cause and effect to repairing our bodies.  Lets say that a woman has a serious rash on her arm.  A doctor would prescribe something to fix the rash, a cream or pill; medicine fixes the effect.  The doctor might ask, “How did you get the rash?”  The information they obtain might lead to a better diagnosis or a more natural cure.

Asking how supplies a physical cause, but the law of cause and effect demands that we find the mental cause.  The ancients said that in the law of cause and effect, all is mental.

The law of cause and effect works best with why questions.  “Why did you get the rash?”  This question leads our subject backward in time.  Her first answers might be superficial like, “I needed to weed the garden.”  If she lets the superficial answers go without ruminating about them, she will find a deeper layer.  “I needed to get out of the house.  I wanted to find peace of mind.”  And if she goes deeper, she finds:  “I need to get out of this marriage.  My skin crawls when I’m with my husband.”  Now some might say that she’s found the cause.  Our subject needs to leave her marriage.  We’ve moved from effect to the program or action (the center of our diagram above), but we are not yet at the mental cause.

 

Following the Why

So we keep going and shift the question, “Why does he make your skin crawl?”  This is the perfect shifting question because of the reference to skin.  “He looks at me like all he wants is sex.  He acts like I’m there to serve him.”  The conversation is still about him and what he does, so we need another why question to turn the corner and get back to the real cause, which is always in our own mind.  We are not milking the law of cause and effect for all it is worth until we are at our own mental cause.

“Why does his look bother you?”  “I feel like my only value is to please him. I feel unloved for who I am.  I can’t say no.  I can’t get him to understand how I feel.”  The answers point to a superficial relationship, a perfect metaphor.  A skin rash has a superficial appearance of something much deeper.

Now that she has found a mental cause, she can look for why she has those beliefs.  They all feel bad; so none of them are true.  She can ask, “Why do I feel unloved for who I am?  Why can’t I say no?”  She might remember a past memory, or another belief might pop up.  The key is to keep asking why like a treasure hunter looking for the chest of gold.  You know you’ve found the gold when you see how you created the situation, and you realize that it was all an illusion, a mental construct.

 

Don’t Wallow in the Answers 

The reason people don’t find the cause is that they get emotionally caught up in the answers.  They stop the hunt too soon.  We must remember that the emotions we feel remind us that we are following a chain of lies.  When we think false beliefs or thoughts, we get emotions.  As we let go of the beliefs, the emotions dissolve.  When we let go of the cause, the emotions will completely disappear because  they are no longer necessary.

If our subject blames her husband, she won’t go any deeper.  She will never find the cause.  She’ll want to talk about her victim status and about her husband’s asinine behavior.  She must we willing to let go at each level and keep following the chain of beliefs.

When she finds the mental cause, she must let it go too.  If it is truly the cause of the relationship issue and the skin rash, then all the problems in that chain will start to repair themselves.  Her husband might change, or he might ask for an amicable divorce.  Her body’s natural healing mechanism will kick in, and her rash will start to disappear.  She might notice that she finally feels loved and heard.  The results will be that which is best for all concerned.  Letting go puts us back on our true path.

In the ancient world, this was true healing. It was permanent healing that never needed to be repeated.  Best of all, anyone can do it.  It works for all sorts of problems.  It costs nothing.  According to the ancients, when you use the law of cause and effect, nothing is incurable or impossible.

 

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