Getting Real About Your Life: The Secret to Creativity

Creativity

By Cathy Eck

 

Creativity

Creativity occurs in the gap between our vision and our reality.  Ideally, that gap is constantly diminishing.  That’s when we enjoy our journey.

In business, I loved creating an insane challenge and then fulfilling it.  In technology, the value of a computer system was measured in years.  A three-to-five year payback on investment was normal at that time.  I promised a one-year payback.  My normal system, which was more expensive than the competition, paid for itself in three-to-six months.

Bringing down the payback period taught me a valuable lesson.  Much of my success was the vision I set for each project.  What I must share, however, is that no one believed my vision was possible.  Even the companies that hired me would say, “Yea right.  You can’t do that.”  They couldn’t do it, but I knew I could.  Only in hindsight, do I understand why.

 

Fantasy

People tend to fall into two groups.  The first group lives in the fantasy world.  They say their affirmations and focus on the positive.  They daydream of better days while ignoring the reality that they don’t believe they can achieve those days.  The extreme metaphor for these people are lottery players.  Their life is so dismal that they believe that the only way out is to win something that has one chance in a million.  These people usually have right-brain oriented views of life.  They tend to visualize, talk all the time, and philosophize, but don’t get much done.  They use cognitive dissonance to bridge gaps in their belief systems.  When their reasoning breaks down, they usually insert an angel, a miracle, or fate.  They manufacture religions.

 

Realism

The other group is so grounded in reality that their face is stuck in the mud.  They tend to be left brainers.  They get shit done, but often make a mess of things when they do it.  They have good memories, which they use on others to bring up things they did thirty years ago.  If science doesn’t have the answer, there’s no answer.  Nothing exists beyond reality.  Incurable is their death sentence.  They create lots of problems and want rewarded when they fix their own problems.  They get a small reprieve after they fix something — a brief moment of satisfaction.  Then something else breaks.  They argue for political, religious, or any one-sided point of view until they make everyone around them want to vomit.  These are the scientists that waste time and money proving their reality is the truth.

The place of creativity isn’t in either extreme.  Remember the old triangle process (above).  Creativity, and all the other joys of life, are at the top of the triangle.  Fantasy and Harsh Reality live at the bottom.

 

Enjoying The Journey to the Top

Creativity lives at the top of the triangle.  To get there, we must get honest about our current reality.  That’s our starting place.  It isn’t what we deserve, it sure as hell isn’t something we need to accept, and it isn’t something we need to face for very long.  It’s an honest assessment of our current situation.  Fantasy, the other side of the triangle, is where we want to be.  It might look possible or impossible.  That doesn’t matter.  When we bring together the right recipe of these two ingredients, and we let go, we ride the creative wave to the top.

Anyone who appears to have natural talent rides that wave every day, but often only in one aspect of their life.  I could thrive among the best in my field because I knew I could.  I didn’t “know” because I thumped my chest every morning while looking in the mirror and mimicking Tony Robbins.  I didn’t believe I could.  In fact, I actually had no beliefs that I couldn’t.  (Although after watching “The Wolf of Wall Street,” I tried out the chant-chest thump technique; I gotta admit, it was kind of fun. It made me feel like a he-man.)

 

Letting Go

I left the business and technology world because I wanted to learn why that worked for me and why others couldn’t do it.  I also wondered why I couldn’t do that in every aspect of my life.

It was clearly something in people’s minds that veiled their natural gifts.  I only had to find out how to reverse that man-made error.

First, I got painfully real.  Most of the world believes they have no talent.  Most people feel like pawns with no chance of fulfilling their dreams.  Most people have strong religious and family-cultural beliefs that they view as the truth.  Most of the world accepts their reality as God ordered.  There’s more, but you get the idea.  That was my “Get Real.”  Now I was done with getting real — just needed my accurate and honest starting point.

Now what’s my vision?  This was the question I wanted to solve.  How can every person unveil their unique expression, gifts and talents, and true perspective?  But I also had other conditions that clarified an acceptable answer.  I wanted the answer to be something anyone could do — not just MENSA members, not just those belonging to certain religions or clubs, and not just rich people.  It had to be win-win and possible for everyone on the planet.  It had to be simple, able to be done alone, and easy to remember.  Pretty high stakes.

Fifteen years later, I had the technique.  It met all of those conditions.  But I had to let go of a zillion beliefs to get there.  What appears to be a God-given gift or talent is actually a black holes in our mind where we have few or no beliefs.  That’s all.  Letting go, not cognitive dissonance, removes the gap between our vision and our reality.

Our beliefs rest between our get real and our vision like a big block of granite.  We keep chipping away at those beliefs with our little chisel.  One day, there’s nothing left.  We’re free.

 

 

 

Trusting Ourselves: Letting Go of Authority

Freedom and WTF

By Cathy Eck

 

What’s Freedom?

When we’re a child, freedom is turning twenty-one.  If we don’t love our work, freedom is retirement.  When we’re unhappily married, freedom is divorce.  If things get really bad, we’ll even think freedom is death.  But freedom isn’t any of that.

In initiation, freedom was about the return to the True Self.  It was called the second birth because we’re born a True Self, we fall, and then we strive to get back to the place we were initially.  Initiation wasn’t a ceremony where a false authority labeled you SAVED!  That’s actually a good joke because initiation was actually freedom from false authority.

The initiated one felt and honored their emotional warnings.  They never fell into feminine roles below a false authority.  In other words, they had the Holy Grail.  Their mind represented the alchemical marriage because they’d united their masculine and feminine mind aspects.  They’d passed through the Gateway to Gold.  And Heaven had returned to earth for them.

People have spoken the truth in many ways.  Once we understand one of them, we’ll eventually understand all of them.  But they’ll all look mysterious until we get the right point-of-view.  Illusions stay alive by making sure that we never get the true perspective of life.  Finding our True Self requires constant letting go of the false contents of our mind until only our unique perspective of the truth remains.

 

The Mistake

How do we get off course?  We follow another’s path instead of walking our own.  Initiation is simple in theory, but so hard to do.  We must let go of other people’s perspectives and expertise until all that’s left is our own.

It’s hard because since we were born, we were told to respect…never challenge…just follow other people’s beliefs, especially if they’re an authority or expert.  If they’re a spiritual leader, we often find they have a tight hold on our mind.  There are many paths to the truth, but there’s only one that works for each of us.  No one else’s path will work for us.

Our path is marked with the things that we find most interesting.  In this way, we’re self-motivated.  Others can support us along our path, but they don’t define it.

People often want me to say that their teacher/guru is the ONE.  But I won’t sell out on them.  They have a path that’s far more perfect for them.  It’s my job to support them in letting go of all the wrong paths from their past.  I know that in the end, only one will remain.  They won’t have to choose anymore.  It will be perfect.

 

False Authority

The false authority uses ancient, proven techniques to retain followers.  But in their defense, they don’t realize they’re harming us.  They’re also victims of the illusion.

  • They speak some truth and some beliefs.  When we find our truth, we will spice it up with some beliefs.  But those beliefs are spice, not the meal.  The spice is only right for us.
  • They assume the masculine role, and we feel completely feminine to them.  When we’re in a false feminine role, we feel like a powerless child who doesn’t have the right to go against whatever their authority says.
  • They fix effects not causes.
  • They focus on physical results instead of mental purity.  They often tell us we need willpower.
  • They think money, fame, or power give you freedom.  In truth, freedom often brings us money, fame, and power, but freedom (truth) must come first.
  • They tell us to “accept what is” when “what is” isn’t appealing because “what is” came from their beliefs.
  • They tell us God gave them success, which implies that if we haven’t yet succeeded we’ve been overlooked by God.
  • They say, “You can’t change the past.”  Bullshit!  When we let go of the causal belief in our mind, we change our memory of any past reality.
  • They say, “Life is suffering.”  Does that really feel good?  It only feels good if you’re heartless and think you can rise above suffering (like the gurus/teachers/preachers that say it) while watching others swim in the the sewage of beliefs.
  • They’re focused on looking good, not being truly good.
  • They generate emotions in us like hope, excitement, pride, or tears of joy.  All emotions mean that there’s false in our mind or in the speaker’s words.  Often the false is implied.  We must look under the words if we feel emotion.  When we mislabel emotion as good, we’re toast.  I had someone in my life that labeled lying good.  He said he did so because “the truth hurts.”  In his presence, my truthfulness was evil or hurtful.  I’d feel bad because I wasn’t lying.  WTF?
  • They demand R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
  • They abuse and take advantage of the feminine role instead of protecting it and lifting it up.  Usually, they don’t understand roles or honor the role’s true purpose of giving and receiving.
  • They deny that emotions have value so we’ll be embarrassed if we expose the fact that what they said doesn’t feel good.
  • They believe their minds are right and don’t discriminate between true and false.  They don’t go for win-win for all.
  • They support and make money from beliefs that never feel good — false spiritual teachings, disease, injustice, borders, war, who’s right, who’s good, who’s superior, what happens after you die, or what will happen in the future.  They take advantage of our insecurities.
  • They believe the feminine role exists to serve the masculine role.

I could add to this list for days.  These are some of the big ones.

Freedom doesn’t come in a weekend workshop.  It mostly comes in small steps.  We’re slowly changing our past every time we let go of even a small belief.  We’re building true power — accepting our True Self back into our own true masculine role.  Letting go of authorities by seeing the errors in their teachings creates big leaps.  It’s the fastest way to the Gateway To Gold.

 

 

Understanding Conspiracy Theory in the Illusion

Hero in an illusion

By Cathy Eck

 

Illusion Traps

I write this blog to expose the mental traps of the illusion.  I know them because I got caught in them myself and found the way out.  We’re all innocent victims of an illusion that was created a long time ago.  Jesus said that his perpetrators didn’t know what they were doing.  He was right.  They were playing their role in the illusion.

Conspiracy theorists do the same thing that I do — they expose.  But they’re not changing anything because they’re making a big mistake.

Conspiracy theorists focus on action.  They generate emotions in their listeners.  But they don’t resolve those emotions.  So they commit the same error as religion.  They make us afraid of the little man behind the curtain by convincing us that he has power.  That’s their error.  False beliefs have no power.  

Exposure is necessary.  We must first see a belief before we can let it go.  The conspiracy theorist is telling us someone else’s imaginary story.  But sadly, they make the story more real.  We should treat anyone’s illusory story like we treat a movie, but we don’t.  We fight their war or support their programs.  We take sides when neither side is worth taking.  We go into fear, panic, and terror.  We become even more obedient.  Conspiracy theory makes us believe the illusion more — not less.

When we believe another person’s illusion, whether it’s a religious, political, or even family illusion, we become blind and stupid.  Our intellect loves reasons and explanations.  Conspiracy theorists provide seemingly logical reasons for things that feel bad.  Religions have offered the same useless service.  But neither expose or fix the MENTAL cause of our problems.  An illusion, like a movie, can’t harm us unless we believe it.  We don’t need any more people who convince us that something false is true.

The first person to unconditionally love their opponent will always win.  True trumps false every time.  It’s hard to get to unconditional love when you’re being flooded with information about how despicable someone is.

 

An Example

Probably the biggest conspiracy is the evil illuminati.  People say there’s a secret group controlling the world.  Illusory games are about getting the most people to give their creative power away to a belief system.  In good and evil, people give their power to the minions of the old man in the sky.  In win-lose, they give it to the illuminati  — or some other little-man brotherhood.  The religious hate the brotherhoods and vice versa because they’re battling for the same minds.

We give our mind to leaders by believing they have power or authority.  We give our mind to them by accepting their beliefs as true.  We give our mind to them by giving our money to their programs, fighting their battles, and retelling their history.  The false Gods don’t care if we love them or hate them.  They only care that we believe them.

Conspiracy and religion both focus on actions — what someone did.  To get to the True Self, we must clear beliefs and ignore actions.

Our mind falsely tells us that the effects prove the beliefs are true when they’re actually proof that we believed the system was the truth.

Conspiracy and religion are on opposing sides of the same illusion, that’s why religious people go crazy over conspiracy.

If we play a role in an illusion, we’re an actor.  We can only be a true hero when we discover and live from our True Self.

 

The Illusion of Goodness

As our minds have evolved, people have learned to project both sides of duality outside while standing comfortably in the false center looking like a God.  The false center looks balanced and good.  Barack Obama is playing this role now.  He doesn’t know why the democrats and republicans can’t just get along.  Both sides are the reflection of his own split mind; but no one, including Obama, realizes that.  He thinks he’s a victim.

George Bush projected his inner terrorist (evil doers) outside of him while he watched 9/11 in a completely nonplussed state.  He was the good guy — whole and complete.  His shadow was attacking his own people.  He wasn’t concerned that people were dying in his illusion.  He was watching his illusion play out on the big screen of life, and he was the good guy — the hero and God.

Conspiracy theorists went wild after 9/11 because they wanted to know the cause.  The cause was George Bush’s Fundamentalist Christian belief in evil.  The conspiracy theorists were too busy looking at actions to see the mental cause.  No one said, “Hey let’s drop the belief in terrorism.  It’s a lie.”  When we think of terrorism, it feels terrible because it’s false.  Evil is always a FALSE projection. But George Bush is an authority; and when an authority says “Be afraid,” the sheep obey.

Conspiracy theorists tried to fix the situation.  They said, “Hey the enemy is in America.”  On the mental level, they were right.  George Bush was the leader of America; and he believed in terrorism.  So technically the cause was in America.  But the cause wasn’t in his physical actions, it was in his mind.

 

The Answer

We need to go back to the way our emotions were designed.  When we feel emotions, we stop.  We look at what we’re thinking or hearing in that moment.  We realize it’s false, and we let it go even if everyone in the whole world believes it.  Conspiracy theorists expose the hiding place of lies.  If we let those lies go, they lose power quickly.  If we can unconditionally love the liars, the little men quickly drop off their big high pedestals.

When we let go, we no longer remain caught in the stories of others.  We stop playing roles in other people’s illusions.  We take back our power as the directors, writers, and actors in our own story; we’re free.

 

 

 

The Final Battle With Roles Requires Courage

Courage and the Lion

By Cathy Eck

 

Origin of Roles

The ancient storytellers saw the world through the eyes of archetypes and characters.  While they wrote about Gods having experiences, they were actually talking about aspects of their own mind.  A storyteller cast his masculine and feminine characters based on his interpretation of the sky.  The original archetype cast the sun as the masculine role projecting light, warmth, and unconditional love on to the feminine role moon or earth.  The moon feminine role (not always female) reflected the sun; and the earth feminine role absorbed it.  It was a marriage made in heaven; and this was called the True Self.  As the masculine role (sun) lost its unconditional nature, the moon feminine became a lunatic, and the earth feminine became heavy, serious, polluted with emotion, and depressed.  Today the world is filled with unloving suns, lunatics, and fat, depressed people.  Our earth is in danger.  There’s only one cause.  It’s the fall of the masculine role.

In initiation, we return to the place where the masculine and feminine aspects of our own mind become like our initial state of mind with an unconditional sun.  The feminine becomes calm, creative, and filled with life.  When we create equality inside of our mind, we’ll see equality outside.  When our masculine mind only speaks true, loving thoughts, our feminine will no longer emote.

To try to create equality of sexes or races on the outside without first finding it on the inside, is fixing the effect rather than the cause.  You can’t will your mind to be loving.  You can’t put truth on top of manure.  You have to let the false go to get to your truth.

The false self would be easy to let go, but other people try to keep our false self in tact.  They remind us of our labels, they impose their beliefs on us, and they encourage social protocols that enhance our mask.  People who are winning from the patriarchal world don’t want us becoming our True Selves.  True Selves are powerful.  The false masculine wants his feminine characters to lose so they can live without anyone exposing or defeating them.  Without humans in feminine roles, who would fight their wars?  Who would build their temples and churches?  Who would wipe their royal asses?

Most people live life from two minds — their masculine and feminine are constantly arguing.  When we’re in our True Self, our inner masculine and feminine mind aspects agree.  There are no decisions.  There are no emotions.  We’re calm and peaceful.  We’re creative and productive.  Our discrimination keeps us safe from the illusion.  We easily bring our ideas into the physical world like great inventors, original artists, and powerful win-win oriented leaders.  These people have huge visions, but they also have the ability to bring their ideas into the physical world.  They aren’t just day dreamers, philosophers, or storytellers.

The act of letting go grounds our ideas into the material world.  We begin living our life.  We’ve know we’ve really arrived when we can even be completely ourselves with those who programmed us to have false selves.  Our handlers lose their power when we drop the roles they gave us.  The final test requires that we don’t believe anyone else if it generates even a little emotion.  We can no longer be tricked by a false self.

If we don’t see someone as authority, we won’t submit to them.  If we don’t see someone who asks for help as below us, we won’t dominate or control them.  We do what we’re inspired to do.  Sometimes thats creating with others.  Sometimes we’re creating alone.  Sometimes, we’re supporting another to let go of the illusion they’re struggling with.

 

The Last Rule

The rule about roles that pulled us deeply into the illusion was simple.  We gave attention and authority to people with the most rigid beliefs or rules — false selves.  We wanted to be good; so we obeyed authority. We were taught to listen to and respect elders, but our elders were already stuck in the illusion.  We gave respect and attention to the least free person in any situation.  If everyone was healthy and one person was sick, the sick person got the attention.  We gave attention to victims, perpetrators, and heroes; we made the independent free-thinking True Self a rebel and a heretic.  The people who had the most beliefs became leaders, teachers, and preachers — the masculine roles.  We rewarded people for honoring beliefs.  Those with the least beliefs were punished until they submitted.

The way out is the opposite.  We flip the rule upside-down.  We don’t make the feminine dominant; that would be a lateral movement.  We follow those with the freest minds in any situation without regard to age, talent, race, sex, or label.  We reward freedom by giving those who operate from win-win our business, attention, and appreciation.  We listen to children rather than dominate them.  We seek our own truth and get whatever support we need to let go.  As we let go, we acquire the natural courage to face those who gave us our false self.  We make things right again.

 

Permanent/Temporary Roles

As we let go, permanent roles disappear.  There will always be temporary roles.  Roles create a way of interacting and co-creating; but they won’t have a superior/inferior, good/evil, or win/lose tone to them.  Until we’re all free, the natural leader or teacher will be the person with the most expansive point of view (least beliefs) in families, communities, and the world.  Natural leaders or teachers will hold the vision of freedom and help others let go so they can heal their minds and bodies.  

I’ve created a pathway out and identified many of the tricks and traps, but it’s a very narrow path.  Now it’s time for those who desire freedom to clear their own minds and make this pathway clear, safe, and wide.  Since you’re here, reading this blog, you’re probably such a path maker.

Roles: Internal and External

Roles in our mind

By Cathy Eck

 

False Self

Our mind works like a movie projector to create our view of the world.  We experience what we’re projecting with our body.  If we only had a True Self, we’d live in the Garden of Eden.  But watching fruit grow on trees is boring.  So we create stories.

Reality equals the True Self plus our Beliefs (false self)

A good metaphor for the false self (as designed) is temporary storage.  The True Self is permanent storage.  One person creates a story within their mind.  This person splits up their mind into multiple characters that interact, but all the characters exist within the story writer’s mind, forming an illusory creative whole.  The storyteller brings that inner creation into the outer world via “The Word.”  At this point, the story writer is done.  Now humans co-create to perform the story, and they’re thrilled to do that because it’s fun, and it’s just a role.  They get to walk in someone else’s shoes for a short time.  Each actor is a valuable part of the whole.  If a few actors don’t show up, the story would dissolve.

Hollywood does this perfectly; it’s a haven for creativity.  Business people also create visions then bring others in to play roles within the vision.  No one is chained to these visions for life.  When they finish their role, they delete the story.  Their minds are virgin again.

Religion is different.  Someone creates  a story, and they make it true.  They cast people into roles that never end.  It’s like the “Hotel California.”  “You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave.”  Why?  You forgot that you could let go of the role.

We love story.  We don’t care how wild and crazy the story is.  Actors play horrible roles, but they don’t become the characters permanently.  When the role is done, they drop it because they view it as a temporary role — it’s not who they are.

Roles aren’t the problem.  The problem is the belief that we are our roles or that we can’t let them go.  Roles come with beliefs so they cause us to retain beliefs that we don’t need or want.

 

The Illusion

In the illusion, the lead masculine role casts the story and then convinces others that they must play the roles they’re cast in for life.  No wonder we want to die.  They give us the shit roles while they get the A-list parts.  Most people are playing roles in a story that they didn’t create and don’t really like — no great actor would do that.

We came here to create stories and play roles — for sure.  But we don’t have the right to make lifetime roles — that is why the Lifetime channel makes crappy movies.

 

Getting Free of Roles

To get free, we must identify who’s playing the masculine role of the screenplay we’re cast in.  What do they want from us?  What do they define as good or right?  What beliefs have we accepted because of that role?  As we let go of the beliefs around the role, we gradually step back until one day we can see the big picture from the director’s chair.  We see that our role is just a role.  It isn’t our destiny, purpose, or karma.  We don’t have to play it anymore.

Then we’ll see that everyone in the illusory play was an actor, even our worst enemy.  We’ll applaud them, not hate them.  They probably didn’t choose their role either.  Most people today are playing roles cast by their ancestors in a story that was written thousands of years ago.  We’re afraid to quit our roles because we think God gave them to us.  The story writers said their stories were cast by God so we’d accept a role that sucked.  Can you see how fucking stupid that is?

The illusion feels like hell believes everyone identifies with their role.  The think they are a Jew, Christian, or Lightworker.  But they aren’t.  It’s a role.

We don’t let go because we become vested in the story.  Let’s look at the story of Armageddon.  Those who believe that the story was created by God won’t let it go.  They want the story to play out to the end, and they believe that they’ll be the victors in a win-lose drama of epic quality.  They’ve become so absorbed and proud of their role that they don’t feel their own misery.  They have no compassion for those who will lose.

They’ve lost access to their True Self and can’t see beyond the set.  Some people escape but find another role without first becoming free of the old one.  “I’ll take this role where I get to ascend to the stars.  Or I’ll join this religion where I get to live as a monk and not work in a job I hate everyday.”  They’re making a lateral move within the illusion.  They aren’t getting free.  This creates conflicting roles in their mind.

 

Hollywood

The answer is in Hollywood.  We’re all actors.  We take a part in a marriage, culture, religion, business, or political group; and when we’ve had enough, we should simply let go and drop the role without guilt, shame, or fear of judgment.  We’d return to home base — our True Self.

If we want a different role, we first clear out the old role.  We can’t play Forest Gump if we’re still playing Idi Amin.  Once we’ve broken free of old roles, we’re back to zero again.  We’ll choose new roles and only play characters in stories that we love.  We’ll make sure we trust our director.  Or we’ll write our own story.

But what about those collective dramas that have unhappy endings like Monsanto, Armageddon, or businesses that harm the earth.  This answer is on Broadway.  How many actors does a play have to lose before the show can’t go on?  We’re those actors; we can drop our roles and eventually bring down the production.

Letting Go and Children

Masculine and feminine roles

By Cathy Eck

 

Masculine Role Teachers

Once we understand the illusion’s roles, letting go becomes easier.  New Age teachers, clergy, gurus, and pop psychologists are well meaning, but they don’t understand roles.  All the techniques taught in expensive workshops and self-help books came from people who managed to somehow get themselves into the masculine role.  The masculine role is funny.  You feel enlightened because suddenly the emotion leaves your body; it gets projected on your shadow — your students, employees, children, or followers.

The masculine role was designed so that the power was in the role.  That way, one could be a wimpy, little man and rule the world (think Wizard of Oz).  The masculine role is blind; they believe the shadow they see is real.  It isn’t.

Now you’ve entered a new chapter of life or you wouldn’t be reading this.  You’re letting go so you can remember your pure thinking.  If you turn your thinking into a system after you remember it, I’ll kick your ass.  I’m joking!  The True Self has no beliefs to impose on others, and they know everyone has the truth inside them.

 

Why?

Why did you look to those false teachers?  You were trained to do so as children.  You were raised by people who thought you’d be perfect if you thought like them.  That’s the blindness of the masculine role.   We learn it; then we do it to others who are feminine to us.

Today’s parents try to self-help their children.  They’re fixing their own projection.  Kids write to me and beg me to write to their parents.  But that’s not my job.  They must learn to let go from the feminine role.

 

Feminine Role Escape

The last thing to give someone in the feminine role is a masculine technique — like affirmations.  It won’t work for them.  They don’t believe they can change their mind because they’re stuck in a masculine shadow.  If they manage to drag that masculine ass to a self-help workshop, the masculine role will question their sanity.  The masculine mind views itself as positive and shiny already.  They already know this stuff.

The person in the feminine role will emotionally back up like a sewer because they’ll think they must be the problem; they don’t know what they’re doing wrong.  Their mind will run in circles.  They’ll take responsibility for what’s being projected on them, which gets them nowhere.

 

Religious Parents

Religious parents are masters of the false masculine.  The good parent (masculine role) projects their anger on the bad child (feminine role).  The kid goes to school and bullies (projects).  He gets a taste of the masculine role and does to others what was done to him.

The parents says, “I didn’t cause that.”  Yes, they did!

They caused it because they didn’t realize that their child was their shadow reflection.  As soon as the child can work his way into the masculine role, he becomes the good masculine and projects until he finds a mate — someone who can play his powerless feminine.  Roles aren’t true; but they get passed down from generation to generation as if they’re true.  To play the role of our parents feels satisfying because from the child’s point of view, we’ve made it into the role of authority.

Many children psychologically reverse their minds to be good (people pleasers).  They learn to do the opposite of what the parents and teachers are projecting.  They obey the words, and ignore the projection.  They take the parent’s control dramas and turn them into love.  They take punishment and turn it into discipline.  They often say things like “My parents did the best that they could.”  These people will unconsciously repeat the same drama with their children because they’ve relabeled it as good or right.  Once psychologically reversed, the illusory world doesn’t look up-side down anymore.  

There’s a huge price to pay for psychologically reversing our minds.  We can’t experience unconditional love.  I was married to a people pleaser.  When I finally could unconditionally love him and give him total freedom, he thought I hated him.  He was looking for the emotional connection he felt with his family of origin and the earlier version of me, and it wasn’t there anymore.  Emotions only exist in false-love connections.

 

The Exit Ramp

In the exit stage, we redefine roles.  We must become a strong and firm masculine leader to those in the illusion (often our parents).  We must support truth and expose falsehood.  This takes courage.

One Easter, we went to visit my in-laws.  One of my children was excited about the candy that was coming since my mother-in-law had been talking it up.  Suddenly I heard my mother-in-law reprimanding my child for jumping around.  She said, “I’m going to tell the Easter Bunny you’re bad — you don’t deserve candy.”  He looked at her so strange.  He didn’t believe in the Easter Bunny since I told my kids the truth — that it was a story.  But she spoke her words with such conviction that, for a moment, he questioned his truth.

I ran interference for him.  I explained to my mother-in-law that she held the Easter Bunny in mind as a lie — a means of control, not a cute story.  My son gave her a chance to correct her thinking, and she damn well better take it.  I wasn’t mean, but I was firm.  I explained to her that kids jump.  He wasn’t doing anything wrong; he was reflecting the contrived excitement that she projected on him.  She didn’t understand; and I didn’t care.  My child felt protected.

People raised in religion are taught that suffering or sacrifice is the way to God.  They often got punished as children for doing things that kids do.  As parents, they do what was done to them.  That’s sad, but it’s still wrong.  The best advice I can give any parent is before you discipline your children, take the mote your parent’s gave you out of your own eye.

 

 

 

How Roles Affect Letting Go (Part II – Feminine Role)

Masculine Role

By Cathy Eck

 

Feminine Role

In the Feminine Role, we let go of the beliefs that our authorities/experts impose on us.

We act as their reflection until we let go. 

 

Read the above words related to the feminine role.  See why no one wants to be feminine?  When roles were created by the patriarchy, they modeled the masculine after the sun.  The feminine role was modeled after the moon, which is nothing without the sun’s reflection.

Positive thinking, affirmations, even logic, etc. don’t work for the feminine role because the feminine role doesn’t appear to have power to change their mind.  Often, as a feminine reflection, we don’t hear any words or beliefs; we only feel the emotion related to the belief.  People often say, “I can’t find the causal beliefs.  I just feel endless emotions.”  That means they’re stuck deep in a feminine role.  They’re the effect of an authority’s beliefs.

Psychology was mostly developed by men.  When therapists view projection, they believe that everyone projects.  But when we’re in the feminine role, we don’t project, we receive.  If you want to drive someone insane, tell them they’re projecting when they’re actually receiving your projection.  It feels like you’re in the movie Gaslight.  We’ll search our mind endlessly to find out how we’re projecting and won’t find the answer.  In a moment of personal desperation, I decided to follow my emotions.  Eventually, I ended up at the causal belief in what felt like the person’s mind who played the masculine role and said I was projecting on them.  Could I let this go?  Did I have the right to let go of what appeared to be his thought?  Damn right, I did, and then I felt relief like I ‘d never felt before.  I’d accidentally discovered the secret to letting go from the feminine role.

 

Confusing Masculine Program

There’s a confusing program that exists in almost every masculine false mind (we all have one).  When the masculine role is projecting, they often blame the feminine role for what they are doing.  For example, I had someone say that I rejected them.  I didn’t think I rejected them, but they were sure I did.  After I understood this false-self pattern and roles, I saw that they were rejecting me while telling me I was rejecting them.  Once you can recognize this pattern, you’ll find your sanity level goes up dramatically.

The means to exit feminine roles was hidden because people in masculine roles need the feminine to be powerless so they have a nice projection screen for their shadow.  They won’t let us off the hook; we must let ourself off the hook.  

At first, this feels strange almost like you’re cheating or doing something devious.  That’s part of the trap; you have every right to delete anything you want from your mind.  It often feels like you’ve gone into another person’s mind.  But you’re actually still within your own masculine mind aspect, which has become the mirror image of the mind of the person in the masculine role.

Freedom from feminine roles requires using your emotions as they were designed.  As long as the feminine role thinks they’re flawed because they have emotions, they’re stuck.  When people in feminine roles realize that their emotions will lead them to the causal belief, and they can let that belief go, they have power.  Real power.  Nothing is incurable or impossible once we realize this.  The feminine regains it’s power over everyone and everything.  The masculine role loses its competitive advantage; it’s exposed.

 

The Process

First, we witness (watch) our emotions (not wallow in them).  The emotion is our feminine mind aspect within the illusion.  It’s the reflection or effect of the masculine false self.  So as we witness the emotion, we’re actually following the emotion to the causal belief.  Eventually, you’ll hear beliefs arise, and those are causal beliefs. Let them go even if they seem absolutely true.  Keep doing this until there’s no more emotion.  Sometimes the causal beliefs feel like they’re in our mind.  Other times, it will feel as if we’ve left our mind and entered the mind of the person in the masculine role.  Clairvoyants see this as cords of energy between the cause and effect.  Remember, we’ve actually never left our own mind.  You’ll see this with practice.

I usually address the beliefs I want to let go in words.  I’d say, “This belief doesn’t feel good (since I feel emotions), it isn’t true, so I’m letting go of my father’s belief that I’m lazy.”  That is how I do it.  There are no magic words.  I’m simply reminding myself of the truth — beliefs that generate emotion are false.  When we realize the belief isn’t true, it goes.  Other people use visualization or other words.  How you remove the belief is up to you.  Be creative; use your strengths.

Letting go from the feminine role doesn’t just improve our life, it improves the world.  But it does take practice, courage, willingness, and time.  As you get proficient, you can remove causal beliefs you accepted from any authority in your past or present.  If you feel like you’ve lived past lives, you can even take the causal belief out of yourself or others in the other life.  I used to do this in hypnotherapy sessions.  Now I teach people to do it themselves consciously.

Be patient!  The first time I did this, it probably took an hour or more before I heard the causal belief.  I decided that I was going to sit my ass down and follow the emotion until it took me to the cause.  I was willing to sit for days if necessary.  Fortunately it didn’t take that long.  When you succeed, you won’t believe the relief you’ll feel.

When we find the cause of our emotions and remove it, the emotions no longer have a purpose.  They disappear.  We become peaceful and calm.  We feel like a small part of us was reborn.

 

 

How Roles Affect Letting Go (Part I Masculine Role)

Masculine role

By Cathy Eck

 

Letting go from the masculine role is very different from the feminine.  In this two part article, I’ll explain why.  Remember roles are a key aspect of the illusion; no role is the truth.

 

Masculine Role

In the masculine role, a true leader lets go of the problems or flaws they see in others.

In the masculine role, we see our mind reflected in our view of the world. 

I once had a collection of rare books on mental power from the late 1800’s/early 1900’s written by Rosicrucians and Masons who were spilling their guts, usually just before they died.  I suspect that they were trying to alleviate their guilt for taking advantage of others who fell for their mind tricks.  Positive thinking and mental projection worked for these men because they were playing powerful masculine roles in politics, religion, or business.  Their words had power over others because they had authority.

This evolved into the New Thought movement; teachers claimed that you just had to train your mind to be positive and visualize the world as you want it to be.  It sounded good, but I wondered, “Where does the negative go? What about reality?”  I asked many teachers this question, and their answers were usually the same, “You can’t let go of the negative.  You have to rise above it.  And rise above it, they did.”

 

Changing Our Mind

If we’re in a masculine role, it’s relatively easy to change our mind.  When I owned a business, I was the leader (masculine role); I could change my mind quickly because I had the power and authority to do so.  My feminine role employees blindly followed my vision.  Consequently, I needed to make sure my vision was win-win because I had a lot of responsibility.  People gave over their power far too easily.

I became concerned about this practice of simply changing our mind to positive or good thoughts.  Something wasn’t right.

I noticed that when I corrected a thought in my mind with affirmations or some other technique, I’d see the thought move outside of me to someone who played a feminine role in my life.  These techniques caused projection.  I was covering up my negative thought and identifying only with the positive.  So now I saw the negative in others instead of myself.  I wasn’t making the person that way.  They already had the ability to play that role; but I also wasn’t helping them change or grow.

This is why people who use New Thought techniques to become positive or good want to teach or preach to all the negative people around them.  They’re fixing their own projection, and usually charging quite well for the service.  We often call them inspirational or motivational speakers, but they’re master projectors.  If you feel your emotions when you listen to them, you’ll realize this quickly.

Rising above beliefs and projecting them on others allows those in masculine roles to live above the unwanted half of their beliefs and the related emotion.  It isn’t just leaders of religions and nations that use this technique today; it’s found its way in to nearly every profession.

Let’s say that a person has a fear of disease, so they study medicine.  They put knowledge, and often a desire for money, on top of their fear and beliefs.  Patients, who share their fear of disease, see them as their role of doctor; they don’t notice the belief in disease or fear that rests in the doctor’s shadow.  The patient unconsciously agrees to play their feminine role.  If the patient is suggestible and submissive, they’ll most likely leave with a diagnosis.  The doctor will see his fear and beliefs in disease projected on them regardless of whether it exists or not.

When the masculine role projects, they don’t see reality.  They’ve disengaged from their shadow; they don’t feel when they speak a belief about the patient.  But they should.  They’re psychologically reversed.

 

Letting Go In the Masculine Role

I watched my mind to see how I let go in the masculine role.  If I succeeded in letting go of the belief in my mind that I saw in the other, my feminine object of projection didn’t have the flaw anymore.  It was like magic.  I now felt a horrific sense of responsibility.  I never wanted to contribute to someone’s problems or flaws.  This allowed me to learn how the masculine role becomes the cure.

I turned to all the ancient stories and books that I’d collected, and finally they were clear.  In fact, this was exactly what Jesus was doing when he healed people.  He played a proper masculine leader.  He  looked at the person before him and recognized that the flaw he saw, and they believed they had, wasn’t true.   It was an illusion.  This is the power and beauty of the pure masculine role.

The masculine role falls when it uses it’s role for power, control, or riches.  The masculine role must assume that the mote is in it’s own eye.  When we’ve purified our masculine role and come across this false leaders, we see the tricks very clearly.

 

Feminine Sucks

Jesus let go of the beliefs (lies) he saw in another and healed them in his presence without medicine, surgery, or techniques, but he couldn’t keep others in masculine roles from projecting on them again.  He often said, “Go forth, and tell no one.”

My eyes were now open, but I moved to a feminine role in my life.  I could see projections coming at me, but I couldn’t stop them.  I felt trapped in the illusions of the people playing masculine roles.  Jesus’ story exposed this dilemma.  He was powerful in the masculine role, but when he became feminine to the false politicians, he lost his power.  The continuation of the illusion depends on the masses being stuck in feminine roles.  I had to find the key to letting go from the feminine role.

To be continued…

Lust, Clergy, Gurus, and A Man Called God

Sai Baba, A Man Called God

By Cathy Eck

 

A Man Called God

Yesterday, I saw an amazing film at the “San Diego Black Film Festival” entitled, “A Man Called God.”  The description read:  “India’s most infamous Holy man, a fanatical cult, fifty million followers, one American family, an epic tragedy…”  I had a hunch I knew the film’s message; but quite frankly, I was shocked that anyone had the guts to tell it.

Years ago, I lived in a small town in Virginia that was filled with devotees of a guru called “Master Charles.”  I watched people slowly lose themselves; eventually, they couldn’t do anything unless the guru gave them permission.  They were possessed.  They thought they were spiritual, but they were really just fucking lost.  You could see it in their eyes.

In addition, I also met many New Agers.  Much of what they said sounded true until they talked about their gurus — often Sai Baba.  I’d feel strong agitation in my stomach — the feeling you get before you vomit.

Ironically, my ex-husband had priest friends, and I felt that same level of emotion in my stomach every time I was around them.  My body simply couldn’t stomach them, but I thought perhaps there was something wrong with me.

For communication purposes, I’ll label this emotion disgust or lust.  But you can’t let go of a labeled emotion.  In truth, the emotion was my True Self screaming that these men or their devotees/believers were speaking falsehood.  I mostly just politely ignored them — unless they tried to recruit me.  Then I honestly told them what I felt.  At which point, I was severely judged.

 

Clergical Lust

Why is there so much lust in clergy?  More important, why do followers turn a blind eye even when they know abuse exists?

Lust was probably the real reason early Biblical leaders had so many wives.  If someone is spewing beliefs (lies) all day long, they become filled with emotions.  Their emotions were saying:  Let go.  Shut up.  But they believe their minds are telling the truth — their strong emotions must be validation of righteousness.

Lots of these men turn their emotion into charisma and dissipate it on followers.  Others gravitate to violence or war.  Many turn to sex.  When we don’t know the purpose of our emotions, and we can’t let them go, we project the release outside of us; and we do awful things to ourselves and others to get emotional relief. 

 

The Story (Spoiler Alert)

Kristoff St. John wrote and produced the film.  I learned that he’s famous for his Emmy-winning performance on the American soap, “The Young and the Restless,”

As a young boy, about thirty years ago, Kristoff’s stepmother became enamored with Sai Baba.  She took young Kristoff to India.  Sai Baba asked Christopher St. John, Kristoff’s father and a famous actor/film artist, to make a documentary about him.  Consequently, Christopher arrived in India with a full camera crew and began filming.

One day, young Kristoff talked to some local college students (something forbidden by Sai Baba).  They told him that Baba had sexually abused them; they were paid to keep quiet.

Meanwhile, Kristoff’s stepmother was becoming possessed by Sai Baba.  The look in her eyes says it all (picture below); it’s a look I’d seen by every devotee in Virginia.  All she wanted was a look, touch, or word from her guru so she could feel whole.

Eventually Kristoff was sexually abused by Baba.  Contrary to orders, he told his father.  The story evolves, and Sai Baba forces the family to leave; his stepmother didn’t leave until her life was threatened.  Other devotees, whom they’d met in India, ended up mysteriously dead.

The raw footage of this movie is old.  But Kristoff and his team put it together beautifully; it’s a work of art with a powerful message.  Kristoff had to heal before telling the story.  San Diego was his first showing, and his ten-year old daughter was present.  He didn’t hide this horror from her — I could see how much she appreciated that.  It brought them closer.  Honesty doesn’t harm our children; it’s our secrets that harm them.

Sai Baba died on Easter, 2011, with a $9 billion estate.  Devotees took his Easter death as a sign, but the truth was they simply took him off life support.  Sai Baba was famous for producing white dust from thin air — vibhuti.  Turns out, Sai Baba’s grandfather was a famous magician; it was a damn good trick.

A Man Called God

 

The Trap

In the east, it’s gurus.  In the west, it’s the Pope, his minions, or the false notion of Jesus as God.  Why do people follow these false teachers?  It’s simple.  We’re trained to follow our emotions — we believe relief is outside of us.  We’re not trained to let go of causal beliefs.

When I felt emotion around gurus, clergy, or their followers, I viewed it as a signal from my True Self to ignore them.  When believers feel emotion, they think it’s a sign of truth.  Devotees say they feel unconditional love from the guru — but it’s actually magnetism.  The gurus and clergy hold a belief that they have the truth; the followers also believe their gurus or clergy have the truth.  The complementary beliefs magnetically link creating a false sense of calmness. When we try to pull away, we feel the strong emotions again; we often run right back for relief.

I felt validated watching the film.  I’d often been judged for my repulsion to gurus and clergy.  The devotees/believers labeled me unspiritual and even evil.  Often I wondered if they were right; I’d fall into seeming endless sadness.   But I’ve learned that if we continue to trust our emotions, and use them as designed, eventually the truth does set us free.

I applaud Kristoff.  Having the courage to share the truth without even an ounce of victimhood set him free of his past.  He’s created a huge crack in the illusion leading the way for others to expose the con men in their life.

A Man Called God