This video demonstrates how going for freedom can be a little scary; but it is worth it. And when someone helps you to get free; you know you’ve been loved. Enjoy!
By Cathy Eck
Most of us have been taught to take the blame for things that we didn’t cause when we were stuck in feminine roles. We’ve been guilted or shamed; and we’ve been taught to please others, especially authority, even if their demands are ridiculous.
Blame, shame, and guilt are the Superglue of the illusion. They don’t exist in the true world. Therefore, with some discrimination and wisdom, we can free ourselves from them.
In the true world, there are no roles. But roles dominate our social structure (the illusion), and that isn’t a problem as long as we honor the natural flow of the energy in the illusory roles we play. Blame involves a reversal of the natural flow of masculine and feminine roles.
Normally, the masculine energy (intellect) holds the beliefs, and the feminine energy reflects those beliefs. In blame, the masculine energy says that the cause of the problem lies with the person or people playing the feminine role. Or sometimes, the person in the masculine role blames another masculine role (like Obama and Bush/Romney).
If we are in a feminine role in the illusion, we cannot be blamed unless the leader wasn’t really leading. If the masculine role is leading from truth as it should, nothing bad can go wrong. When things go wrong, it’s the leader’s belief that’s the cause, not the follower’s reflection of the belief.
Only the person in the masculine role can drop the causal belief. The emotions and wild behavior, that often occurs in the people in the feminine role, are the effect of the false beliefs of the masculine. When the mind of the authority changes, their feminine reflection changes. To fix the feminine is to fix the effect. To blame the feminine is to blame the effect. It doesn’t make any sense. But we accept this reversed way of thinking because we’ve been trained to. Everyone in the illusion is breaking their own mirror.
If you blame the feminine, you can’t solve the problem. The feminine doesn’t have the responsibility; it’s not the cause. The child can’t fix their parent’s belief. The employee can’t fix their CEO’s vision. Church members can’t fix their preacher’s mind. Citizens can’t fix their leader’s flawed perspective. The feminine can leave when they’ve had enough, or they can let go and become the masculine. Fighting (or war) happens when the feminine has had enough and tries to take the power back from the masculine. Crimes are often committed against someone who reminds the criminal of their hated masculine authority. To fix problems, the authority, masculine role, must take responsibility, fix their own mental cause, and everything will go back to perfection. But that almost never happens in the illusion.
Early Bible stories trained our western mind to reverse our natural cause and effect thinking. Eve (feminine) got blamed for the fall. Moses (masculine) blames his people (feminine). When you understand the masculine-feminine relationship in the illusion, you can’t be fooled into taking the blame any longer.
This is also true within ourselves. When something goes wrong in our life, the cause is in our intellectual masculine mind. Our emotions are only the messenger — we should never shoot the messenger. If we let go of our own causal beliefs, our emotions will calm down immediately. But often our own inner mental masculine, just like outer physical masculine authorities, wants to be right at all cost.
Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame are given to us by authority figures (masculine roles). No one is born with guilt or shame.
These two emotional states can be difficult to let go because someone else imposed them on us. Our mind says that we can’t let guilt or shame go; the authority must free us. Since we’re lower in power (feminine) than the authority (masculine), we think that we don’t have the right or ability to remove the causal belief. This is a disgusting trick of the false mind. It can keep us stuck for a whole lifetime.
The True Self is not capable of doing anything wrong because right and wrong comes from the false self. If we did make mistakes (sins), we did so because we were caught in the illusion, a false self. We didn’t want a false self; our authorities gave it to us when they taught us their beliefs and said they were true. Our false self was created in the image and likeness of our false authority figures.
I’ve followed many people’s guilt and shame back to the source; they all lead to a really powerful, but rigid, authority figure (usually religious). Crime is not caused by evil people. Crime is caused by the religious-perpetuation of the belief in good and evil and right and wrong. We see it because we believe in it.
Freeing Our Mind
In my experience, and I’ve done this hundreds of times, the person who is blaming, shaming, or guilting was projecting their responsibility, negative character trait, or belief on to the person in the feminine role. Once we take the blame, shame, or guilt, they have no reason to ever fix their problem. Their mind feels a sort of fake freedom. That’s why when we let their projection go, they often react with lots of emotion. That’s their problem. When you drop blame, shame, or guilt from your mind, your True Self can breath again.
If you are someone who thinks others should be blamed or shamed or guilted, you probably aren’t reading this blog. But just in case you are, remember that when you point the finger at another, three fingers are pointing back at you. The cause is within your mind; and if you let go, they won’t reflect you anymore. Letting go is always win-win for everyone.
By Cathy Eck
Gifts, From A Different Vantage Point
Often, what causes people to exit the path to freedom before they reach the end is a gift. If their gift brings them money or fame, it’s hard to give up. They don’t want to give up something in the bag for something that might not pay off.
I used to feel sad that I didn’t have any amazing gifts. I was good at whatever I did, but not passionate. In hindsight, that was a blessing. If I had been truly amazing at something, I might have believed that was my final destination. I might have had a hard time giving up the illusory benefits. Often people don’t realize that their gift isn’t the end point of their life until a tragedy happens, and they can’t do it anymore.
Now, however, I have a different vantage point on gifts. If you know how to use a gift, you can milk it for all it’s worth and stay on the path to freedom. The key is in how you perceive others. This is the true reason for service. It isn’t to be good or kind (that’s a side benefit); it’s to get free.
The key is to treat everyone as your reflection. In that way, you leave everyone you touch a little freer; you find things to let go that you didn’t know you had inside. It takes a little practice, but it’s worth it.
Intuition or Psychic Abilities
Intuition is the ability to find our way through mazes of beliefs. It’s very useful in the illusion where beliefs rule. But inspiration is better. Inspiration is when we find ourselves doing something wonderful without even thinking about it — people call it the flow. Inspiration is perfection — the highest state of being.
If you have the gift of intuition, don’t discard it. Use it to find what you or your clients need to let go. I had to do this with Freedom Astrology. I had to change it to an exit, rather than an illusion-navigation tool.
Healing ability is amazing. More amazing is living in a world where disease doesn’t exist. That’s the true job of a healer. The True Self doesn’t know disease. So use your patients as your mirror. If they believe they have a disease, recognize that they’re showing you that you still believe in that disease (or label) unconsciously. Let it go in yourself, and their healing will be more complete as well.
I don’t channel (people ask me that a lot because channels often write similar information). When you let go of the beliefs that block your wisdom, you recognize that you (not Bobo from the 18th century) have all the answers, you don’t need to go anywhere to get the truth. The free life is a practical life — we’re all spiritual beings in bodies. We all know the truth. Often channels have a fear of expressing the truth as themselves; it was pretty risky until recent times.
Acting, Music, Art, Writing
These are what I call True professions because they’re creative. Letting go takes them to a higher level. The point of these activities is to let go of whatever is in the way of expressing yourself completely and fearlessly. That’s why I write this blog and paint. I want to see where my false self holds me back. I want my fears and false limitations to arise. That way I can let them go.
Teaching, Coaching, Mentoring
Most teachers and coaches put themselves in the masculine role and give lessons or techniques. They bore the hell out of their students or they hype them up with excitement. Real teaching is about being a true leader. It’s about letting go of whatever limitations you see in your students (your private mirrors) so that they can flower in your presence.
You’re Putting me Out of Business
When I make these suggestion to people, I feel their fear arise. How will I make money if my students flower? They won’t need me. How will I make money as a healer if I no longer believe in disease? If I do the art I want to do, I’ll be judged. I had all of those fears too — they were unfounded.
I’ve been writing, teaching, healing and intuiting toward freedom for several years, and I still see beliefs to let go. Freedom isn’t an overnight job or a weekend workshop. In the ancient schools of initiation, it was believed to take an average of about seven years.
As you let go of beliefs, more and different doors open. You thought you could only make money as a teacher or psychic, but you find you’re actually a damn good artist or actor. You find a passion arise as an herbalist and people love your herbs. You remember that as a child you wanted to teach in foreign countries. You’ve been putting travel on hold; now you’re inspired to go to new places. You might discover that you have a gift of mentoring others toward freedom. There’s a lot of room in this profession. Have you noticed how many people are stuck in their false minds? I can use some help.
In initiation, the high initiates taught the lower initiates. Jesus was the perfect example of how to serve and move toward freedom at the same time. He healed by correcting his own mind. He didn’t channel, he knew. He taught what he knew to others. He wasn’t intuitive; he was inspired. And he never went without. He never complained that something was missing from his life. His desires and his gifts aligned perfectly so that he could be himself.
Fine tuning your gifts speeds up the train to freedom. You’ll start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. As you free yourself, using your natural gifts, you’ll not only free yourself, but you’ll also contribute to a free world.
By Cathy Eck
There’s no shortage of advice on the subject of manifesting desires. I’ve probably heard and tried it all at some point in my life. But often, after hanging out in those conversations, I’d find that I wasn’t manifesting my desires as promised.
Disillusioned, I’d think I just couldn’t get it. Sometimes I’d feel post-manifest guilt if I willed people or things into my life with visualization or affirmation. Often I was physically and mentally exhausted from my need to be spiritually worthy or keep my vibration tuned. Mental hard work had replaced physical hard work.
What Do You Really Want?
By the time people come to me, they’re often in pretty deep apathy. “I don’t want anything; I just want to be myself,” they say. I get it; I felt like that once. But apathy isn’t even close to freedom. They’re further from their True Self than they were before their first workshop. If you look at the our old triangle process, apathy and longing sit at the bottom of the triangle. We’ll hang out in longing until we give up, then we’ll laterally move over to apathy. People often mistake apathy for acceptance.
Rich and poor are another bottom of the triangle dynamic duo related to abundance. Jesus said that the rich can’t get to heaven because he knew that the rich have the poor hidden within their unconscious mind. They project their poor mindset on to others who take it because they’ve been taught to see money as evil. The rich would have to unveil their own poverty mindset and let their poor projection off the hook to get to abundance (heaven). He didn’t see them doing that.
Abundance got stretched out of form by new thought movements. Abundance to the initiates was a state of mind where you knew that whatever you needed or truly desired could be manifested with a single powerful thought. People often use the term abundance when they really mean rich or longing. This creates level confusion.
True Versus False Desires
Desires that feel calm and peaceful are true. When we can calmly enjoy something in our mind, it’s a true desire. If our desires comes laced with emotions, like excitement or jealousy, then either the false self is blocking them or they aren’t true desires. If desires remains after we let go of the false thoughts that are causing the emotion, they’re true desires; and they’re on their way to us. If our desires are false, they’ll disappear.
Here’s a technique that I give to people (and myself) a lot. Think of something you’ve wanted for a long time; picture it in your mind if you want. Noticed if any emotion arises in your body. Avoid labeling the emotion. Focus your attention on the emotion until a thought arises. Remember, don’t wallow in the emotion or analyze it, just witness it. Thoughts that arise out of the emotion will generally be contrary to your desire. It will appear to be true, but it’s not true. It could be a past reality because it happened to you before or you saw it in others, but we’re not trying to prove reality. We’re trying to get to the truth.
If you realize that the contrary thought isn’t true, you’ll be able to let it go. If you think it is true, you’re screwed. Your mind is blocking your desire. Until you can get rid of that contrary thought or thoughts, your only option to get the desire is to will it — to force it to manifest. That can work, but you’ll probably have post-manifest guilt.
Reality is the effect of the beliefs we’ve believed in the past. Until we let them go, they create in our life. You’re seeing the belief that caused the state you’re currently in. Beliefs always look true when they rise up from our unconscious mind. We suppressed them because they felt bad when we first heard them. They rise up wearing the same mask they wore when we suppressed them.
Always remember that you can’t let go of the true self. You can’t hurt anyone or anything by letting go. If you stay with this exercise until all the emotion is gone, you’ll see things clearly. Don’t get discouraged; this can take some work. Ideally, you don’t take any action until it’s inspired — in other words, it’s joyous and obvious.
Guilt or Shame
Let’s say that you go shopping and buy a new suit. It’s gorgeous, and you feel great. After driving home, emotion erupts. That means that a belief has been triggered by your action. If you put your “observer” attention on the emotion and listen, usually a belief will rear its ugly little fat head like, “I spent too much money.” If you accept that belief, you’re screwed. Your mind will go into reasoning, guilting, shaming, worrying, blaming, justifying, etc. But if you notice that the belief, “I spent too much money,” doesn’t feel good, so it isn’t the truth; and if you let it go, you’ll go right back to enjoying your suit.
People have to drug and sooth themselves because they don’t catch that first belief that arises after an action, and they go right down the toilet into the illusion’s sewage dump. That single, seemingly innocent, belief is the entry point into the illusion. Once the illusion has your ass, you’ll be stuck in its trap. If you don’t correct your thinking, you’ll eventually feel emotion with any purchase until you can barely buy a loaf of bread. People over time move from cautious, to thrifty, to cheap, to greed. The illusion is seductive. That’s why it’s rare that people get free.
Desires aren’t bad. But desires do piss off the illusion. Beliefs come out of hiding to fight for their life when we honor or raise our desires. If we are watchful and catch the false thoughts as they arise, we’ll not only get our desires, we’ll get freedom.
By Cathy Eck
You Don’t Need to Learn the Truth,
You Only Need to Let Go of What Hides It
When I was in business nearly every day someone yelled, “KISS” (keep it simple stupid). People in intellect-driven fields, like accounting and technology, often make something really simple into something very complex. Complexity costs money. Often it’s born from someone trying to prove their personal superiority at the expense of the team or company.
Those who could keep it simple were valuable. They could move a team of diverse people though a project and get it done without problems.
Preachers and Teachers
I’m often reminded of this when I listen to intellectuals explain their view of consciousness. They see sacred geometry, worm holes, and parallel universes. It’s cool, and I love to read about their perspective. I enjoy their lectures and love that they shared them with me. But I see it as their perspective.
At one time, I’d accept other’s perspectives as THE truth, often because they were convinced that their perspective was the absolute truth. I’d stuff their perspective into my already cluttered mind. Later, I realized that their perspective wasn’t completely true. Often cognitive dissonance traversed their broad canyons. Most perspectives are a blend of true and false — that’s human perception.
Right-brained people see divine images of Gods and Goddesses or the cosmos; they hear channeled beings. That’s all cool too; and it produces amazing art and stories. But once again, if we turn it into THE truth versus their truth, we create confusion. The truth that we all share, uniquely expressed, plus our beliefs create our life perspective (our reality). I don’t dislike beliefs. But, I abhor when someone makes their beliefs the truth. That causes every problem in the world; it keeps people in prisons of misery.
KISS Equals Freedom
I learned from my business years. I keep my ideals for this website lean and simple. When our intellect isn’t engaged, letting go is easier.
First, I want everyone to have the ability to find their truth, their wisdom, and their creative genius inside. That’s a human right.
Second, I want to expose beliefs that people have sold as the truth so that they no longer hurt people.
Third, I want to empower people to “JUST SAY NO” to other people’s beliefs if they don’t enhance their life. I want people to know they can let go and how to do it. That way, if they want to, they can clean up their mind and live their perfect life.
I offer simple analogies and techniques because when you tear open the mind, you find that it’s simple. Learning and memorizing made our minds so damn complex. If we feel emotion when we think something, it’s false. How can anything be more simple than that? It’s the false mind that added masculine/feminine, projection, and psychological reversal so that we’d get confused about what is true and what is false. It’s the false mind that said that beliefs are true even though they feel bad. When we add complexity to our mind by filling it with beliefs, we make ourselves rigid and ordinary. We cover up our True Self. Complexity breeds problems and then solves those same problems.
The processes that I suggest are simple, but don’t discount them. We’re often afraid to let go of our knowledge because we think we’ll become grunting cavemen. But that hasn’t been my experience at all. Our false mind tells us that it’s giving us what can only come from our True Self. Our false mind lies because it’s afraid of dying or being exposed.
Which is more beautiful?
Looking at a rose or reading the biological description of one.
Which is more loving?
Holding the person you love or studying their biological anatomy.
Which is more real?
The Army’s beliefs and emotions or the number of people and date that he killed them.
When we intellectualize something, we move away from the essence of it. We become incapable of true love or being our authentic Selves. Hurting others becomes easy.
That’s what society has done. It’s tried to explain everything with logic. In doing so, it has lost the simplicity, the beauty, and the love that’s natural. We don’t need to know every line in a play; we just need to know our part. But we’ll think we need to know and control everything if we can’t trust the other people on the stage. We’ve become more knowledgeable and less trusting because knowledge can’t be trusted; it isn’t wisdom.
Knowledge is becoming worthless as it should be. We’re living at a time when we can let computers store the facts and data, while we focus on being ourselves, being creators and innovators, or being true lovers. People go to workshop after workshop to learn what’s true when they have a perfect discrimination system inside that they don’t use. There are classes on how to hook our soul mate, but why? If the soul has a mate, can’t it find the damn thing? We see our True Self as weak. Thanks religion. We must realize how stupid we’ve become since we’ve accepted knowledge and let it go.
The intellect isn’t bad. I’m still an intellectual person, but I know when to pull on the reigns and stop the horse from going the wrong way. When a belief is hurting myself or another, I let it go. When a belief has to be held together with duct tape to work, I let it go. When a belief keeps me from a dream that feels peaceful and calm and right, I let it go. When another demands me to think like them, I let them go. It really is simple.
Beliefs can be fun and creative so long as we never forget that no matter how cool beliefs might be, they aren’t true. And if they no longer serve our needs, we can let them go.
By Cathy Eck
Fear of Freedom
A long time ago, religion did a very clever thing. They associated freedom and reward with death. This confusion keeps many people from pursuing the path of initiation. Those who are on the path to freedom have to deal with the beliefs that were planted by those who don’t want freedom for everyone. These beliefs are often laced with enormous amounts of fear…making them look very true.
How We Get Tricked
Recently my dad sent me a very cute picture of a four-year old boy and his huge dog. A story followed that was designed to tug at our heart-strings (I just realize I have no fucking clue what a heart-string is). The dog had cancer, and the parents decided to put him down. After it was done, the vet got tears in his eyes. He said, “This is never easy. I hate doing it.” Now that’s a sign that he shouldn’t be doing it, but that isn’t the lesson in this story. Then the vet said, “I love animals. Why do they live such short lives?” The boy answered confidently. “My dog learned unconditional love; humans take a longer time to learn it.”
So did you get sucked in? Most reading this would immediately think “Oh, the wisdom of children.” The reality is, “Oh how quick they brainwash the children.” The statement sounds lovely, but it implies that once we learn unconditional love, we have no reason to be here. It implies that no living human is unconditionally loving. This is the world this child was being trained to see?
The example demonstrates how we get hooked into many illusory beliefs. I see these kind of heart-string quotes nearly every day on social media. The words sound nice; however, most people don’t think about what the quotes really mean.
I often ask the people who I mentor what scares them about freedom? Most think they’ll die. They’ve been trained that freedom and heaven are the same. Others say they’ll be poor and lonely. Some believe that freedom means they’ll be an outcast or homeless. My personal favorite is the one that says you don’t get rewarded until you die. This is very helpful to people who need slaves to do their heavy lifting so they can drink tea and eat bonbons all day. We can thank religion for most of these disempowering beliefs. Few people notice that the very people who tell them to delay gratification aren’t delaying their own gratification. There are a lot of Jesus-following churches that are very rich; but no one sees the irony in that.
Choose Your Mentors Wisely
You don’t want someone to mentor you who’s afraid of freedom. Years ago, I was desperate to find ways to get freedom from beliefs. I knew how to discriminate, but I didn’t yet know how to let go. I read about this new thing called Voice Mapping and decided to try it. At first, I did great or so I thought. Now, I suspect that it was more my belief that the machine would get rid of beliefs, along with my clear discrimination and a well-crafted brochure.
The operator was Mormon. We decided to take a break because I hit a road block. My mind just wouldn’t let go. She told me that she’d been thinking about her deceased husband during my session. “Hum,” I thought, “I wonder if this affected my ability to let go.”
I asked her what he died from. “He died quickly,” she said. “He figured out who he was — a gay man. He came out of the closet. He suddenly became unconditionally loving and wise. God didn’t need him on this planet anymore.”
“That is ridiculous,” I responded in an unkind tone of voice. “When we are unconditionally loving we can live fully, help others, and create, create, create. You are full of shit.” She smiled as she said, “He asked the Bishop why he felt so alive; and the Bishop said, his job on earth was done.” He died soon after that.
I realized why my mind wouldn’t let go. Her beliefs linked unconditional love with death.
I sometimes wonder if Gandhi, John Lennon, or Martin Luther King felt their love made them unnecessary on earth. Too often, the wrong people leave the planet. Is that why people say the good die young?
Here is the truth, and you know this in your heart. You don’t need me to say it, but I will anyway. Heaven is on earth. The truth was covered up with a political/religion-generated illusion. When we reach the state of freedom and unconditional love, we get wise. We see the illusion for what it is. We become enlightened. If we stayed on earth, we’ll expose the illusion. We’ll help to free others. Most people become very angry when they see the illusion. And I feel that anger is what often kills them.
We can’t fix the illusion or fight it. It’s hard not to become angry when we see the pain and suffering caused by those who say they care about us. But anger and fear don’t create change. They are the fuel of the illusion. They harm us.
We have to remember the illusion is false and keep letting go. We must remember the anger is saying that whatever we’re seeing in the illusion isn’t true. Emotions expose the illusion, which is why they’re labeled bad. If we keep letting go…if we keep staring poverty and sickness and harmful beliefs in the eye and declaring them untrue, then we are committing a sin in the eyes of religion…we’re heretics bringing heaven back to earth. We’re exposing their lies…freeing the world. That takes courage and unconditional love.
Sorry little boy. You’re cute as hell, but you’ve been brainwashed. The kryptonite of the illusion is unconditional love. The purpose of life is to become unconditionally loving to live, create, and be free — not die.
By Cathy Eck
We all arrive on this planet innocent. But earth is a strange place. Within a few years, we’re all blindsided by some event or person. Perhaps we put our hand on the hot stove and realize that we can be burned. We are blindsided, but that situation just produces learning. Stoves are hot.
The real problems come from being blindsided by artificial light. Someone that we thought was good, wasn’t pure-minded. Their light was artificial. We believe our parents are good. So we don’t know how to process their anger or punishment. We’re told religion is good, so we don’t understand why the priest says we’re sinners. We presume our teacher is good, then he or she tells us something that isn’t true. Our mental-emotional baggage is often linked to a time when we were blindsided by artificial light.
Now that the incident has happened, we’re left to draw conclusions about the experience. Some children decide that others are bad and can’t be trusted. Some decide that this planet isn’t safe; they have to be very cautious and stay under the radar. Others decide that they have to take control of the wheel, or they’ll be stuck as a passenger in a car with a perpetually-bad driver.
Once we make that all-encompassing conclusion, our life proves that we’re right. We see evidence to support our belief. We stop trusting our own True Self because it didn’t protect us from being blindsided.
We turn over our life to our new and improved false self. It tells us that it has our back. It convinces us that it has this world all figured out. It’s lying. The false self is built upon that first lie or belief; it can contain the truth but only in memorized form. It doesn’t know the truth. It’s purpose is to perpetuate our beliefs because it thinks our beliefs keep us safe. If this false self becomes dominant in our mind, we become a servant of the false God, the illusion. Flourescent light now looks good; the sun (pure light) appears to be evil.
Finding the Cause
When people are deeply stuck in the illusion, they keep trying to fix the illusion which is just the effect of their beliefs. Fixing the illusion doesn’t solve anything. Our end goal is to find the cause or causes of our belief system and remove them. When the false self is removed, the True Self remains unveiled.
Most babies cry at birth. I suspect many people get a big old belief upon arrival. If you’ve ever had the thought, I don’t know why I’m here. How did I get here? Or, I don’t like it here. Then you might have found a causal belief. What if you were born the wrong sex? What if you looked funny at birth? You probably got a belief straight out of the gate.
As a mother, I noticed when beliefs affected my children. If they had a problem, it wasn’t caused by them. They got the belief that was wrongly affecting their life in that moment from my husband or me. When the belief was in my mind and I recognized it as false, the problem stopped immediately. If I couldn’t find a causal belief in me, I looked to see if my husband was the culprit. I’d give my husband a chance to clean up his mind. Then I’d tell the kids to say “Not my thought.” Kids are easy. They let go in seconds.
Adults not only think their thoughts are true, they think they hear God talking. They believe their mind and act on its nonsense.
How do we find the thought that first blindsided us? We start with whatever is in our mind or body now. If we feel an emotion, we follow it. If we hear a belief, we check to see if it’s win-win for everyone and feels good.
Often we’ll find a big belief with lots of emotion. That’s pay dirt. You might be tempted to run from it. But if you can recognize that the emotion is reminding you that the belief is false, you can stay with it until your mind lets go. If you keep going into your emotions instead of running from them, numbing yourself, or wallowing in them, you’ll find those big causal beliefs. Usually, causal beliefs are religious, politically correct, or deeply cultural. We got them from those we thought were light and good — we were blindsided by their artificial light.
Big causal beliefs are surrounded by protector beliefs. They’re like an army. The lower rank guys protect the important guys. To kill the false king or general, you have to wipe out all the soldiers protecting him. Eventually, he’s unprotected, and you can take him down. Sounds like chess because chess is a metaphor for the false mind.
Return to Innocence, No Way!
Letting go can be quite scary. The false mind says it’s keeping us safe — remember it lies. If feels like we’re going back to the same state of innocence that got us blindsided. Won’t it just happen again? Won’t we just get blindsided by a new form of artificial light?
The answer is NO. You see we took in our first beliefs because we didn’t know how to discriminate. We had no authority. Science says discrimination isn’t possible before seven years of age. We believe everything we’re told because we’re in a hypnotic alpha or theta state of mind. Now, we can discriminate.
When we hear a false belief, like: “It happened to them, so it could happen to me,” we stop. We notice the emotion; we let go. We keep returning our mind to a pure state, the virgin state. We are innocent like children again, but now we’re equipped with a mature, adult, highly functioning mind. We are free, and we are safe. We can never be tricked again.
By Cathy Eck
Recently, a man called me because he saw my business card on a health food store bulletin board. He shared with me that he was bisexual and dressed in women’s clothing. He felt the discomfort of other people’s judgment when he dared to do what felt joyful to him. We talked for a few minutes; and it was clear to me that this wasn’t a judgmental person. In fact, I could tell that he worked hard not to judge others because he’d experienced the sting of being judged so often himself. I found him very likable right away.
It was completely apparent that this man was a really good person inside — something that’s common among my readers. But he was keeping score based on what others thought of him, and he wasn’t “normal.” He was different. So his scorekeepers gave him a consistently low score.
As long as he continued to value the score that others gave him, he was going to come out short. He’d feel out of control, an outcast, and a loser at life because he was honoring a false score sheet.
But if he kept score based on his own thoughts about others, he’d find that he was a damn good player of the life game. He’d have incentive to become even less judgmental and more loving regardless of how others treated him. And if he learned to let go of his belief that others could judge him or that he was bad or wrong, he’d find that he had the potential to be a true winner at the life game.
Most people are keeping score based on fame, power, money, or material possessions. People who live outside the status quo don’t fair well in that game. That game can only have a few winners.
On the other hand, everyone can win when they keep score of the purity of their own mind once they learn how to let go. Each day, their mind gets a little freer, they judge others less, and they love more. As they do this, they become authentic; the authentic person has no competition. They always win.
When we see authentic improvement in ourselves, we realize that we’re truly good people; we do have incredible value. When we stop caring what others think of us, our natural joy flows unobstructed from the inside.
I struggled with this problem for such a long time. Once I discovered letting go, I spent time each day letting go of my judgments and beliefs about myself and others. I became more unconditionally loving inside. But people couldn’t see that my mind was becoming freer or more loving. They still judged my looks or the fact that I didn’t do what they wanted me to do. They still saw me as different or unusual. Their memories of the old me screamed so loudly that they couldn’t see past them. I believed that my freedom required them to let go of their beliefs about me. But I was wrong.
My naturally good self wasn’t good in their illusory perspective where good is defined based on rules and social protocol. How I felt during that time was directly related to my poor scorekeeping. Allowing other people’s score of me to dominate my mind caused me so much pain and agony. I felt that I didn’t want to live on the planet.
Then I changed my way of keeping score. I focused on my own mind and let go of thought after thought to see if I could unconditionally love those that didn’t love me. They were not willing to let me off the hook, but I was willing to let them off the hook. I felt better and freer and my inner score continued to improve. Soon most of the people who judged me disappeared from my life; and quite frankly, I didn’t miss any of them. But I did feel complete with them because I saw their True Self in my own mind even if they weren’t willing to be that yet.
I decided that my purpose in life would be to make my mind a pure space where people could join me in being themselves. I would create a safe place where people wouldn’t be judged for being their True Selves, where letting go and freedom would be supported and honored.
It was out of that realization that the business card at the top of this post was born several years ago. I chose the green mask because it was so beautiful. Recently, I decided to paint the mask. I wanted to get to know this woman who had adorned the front of my card for several years. As I worked on every little detail in her face, I began to see the beauty under the mask; she became real and authentic.
I realized that we can’t see in others beyond the level of our own authenticity. If we’re wearing a mask, we don’t see with pure eyes. If we aren’t wearing a mask, even a mask has truth and beingness. Likewise, when others are wearing a mask, they can’t see us.
So keeping score of our own mind is truly the only method of scorekeeping that makes sense. We wouldn’t rate our physical sight based on a blind friend reading an eye chart for us, but that is exactly what we’re doing when we allow someone else to judge us or tell us whether we are good or worthy. Their criteria for goodness simply doesn’t apply to us.
When we strive to be more ourselves each day and use the right method of keeping score, life starts to make sense. We find even the most ornate mask easy to drop. Our unique True Self is clearly much more beautiful. As our score improves, the judgment of others disappears. We can’t imagine being anyone other than our Self.